The Shit Hits the Fan....

[Big Brother Val]

For those of you that read about my best chum threatening to kill himself, and him and his wife splitting up, and getting physical with their fight in front of the kids, and me calling the cops on them to protect the children.... here's what's next....


My best friends wife told him that me and her have been sleeping together.

Well... he believed her, and went to my ladies house yesterday morning when I went to work, and told her about it.

So my lady now wants nothing to do with me. She won't say a word to me. She really believes it.

I want to beat the shit out of my friend, but at the same time, he was really hurt at the time.

I'm just pissed that he didn't talk to me about it first.

I didn't sleep last night... she said she won't let me see my son for a while, and that I'm a worthless, lying piece of shit, and that she knows I did everything my friend said I did... my stuff will be packed by noon today, and I'm out.

I wouldn't leave yesterday, because I wanted to talk to her, so she called the cops, and they had to take me away.

Man... this is a huge clusterfuck all of the sudden... everything is spinning out of control, and there's nothing I can do about it.

Anyway... just thought I'd rant a little... you guys are the only people I have left to talk to.

 

[freak daddy]

I'm very sorry to hear of your problems BBV. I hope everything works out. Stay as positive as you can, and hopefully the truth will come out.

 

[saint808]

yes don't let your emotions over run your common sense.

 

[WODIN]

Grab you best friends wife (do not have sex with her)! Take her with you and make her tell the truth to your girl.

 

[GLADIATOR351]

I'm sorry you are having to go thru all of this.. sometimes being the mediator/middleman is a lot of trouble.. I hope things workout for you.

 

[Big Brother Val]

Thank you.

I had a conversation with my chum and his wife, they were on the phone at the same time.

Even though I wiped out what she said, and made him doubt what she was saying, my biggest concern is my lady.

It'd odd... they were going to get a divorce, but she tells him she's been sleeping with his best friend, and it heals things between them... then I'm the bad guy, and it ends up ruining my relationship?

WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?

I truly can't believe this is happening.

It's unbelieveable... all I can do is sit and hope she'll come around.

But she's been spending a lot of time over at their house, and I know they're all bashing the shit out of me. Which harms me more than I can explain.

When I had his wife on the phone alone, I asked her why... and she said "It's how it has to be".

 

[freak daddy]

Move on my good Brother! It may not feel like the right thing now, but in the long run things will be much better for you. The stress, all the worrying, and the headaches you are enduring just is'nt worth any woman. I'm sure that is'nt what you wanted to hear, but I would expect the same if I was in your shoes.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Val - Call me later....

I can call you tonite or late this morning - afternoon.... I won't have kids this weekend so I will be able to chat this weekend.

I know that life can seem like everything is working against you sometimes and it is easy for me to say because I am not in your shoes... but please believe me when I tell you that down the road all of this will seem like just a bad memory - if you remember AT ALL.

Email me, whatever you like... It always helps to talk to someone. Even if it is only to "unload". True, your problems will still be there, but you will feel a bit better and you may even gain a new perspective on it all.

 

[GLADIATOR351]

When I had his wife on the phone alone, I asked her why... and she said "It's how it has to be".

This is fucked up.

and it is sad that it takes one person, telling one lie, to fuck up four peoples lives.

 

[Big Brother Val]

FD... I know. It's odd... our relationship has been in shambles... but when it's torn away from me over a lie... it changes how I see the whole situation. I may sound like a candy-ass here... but I really do love her. If we could fine-tune things, I'd marry her... but now this. Now I won't have the chance to iron things out... because I'm losing her over something I didn't do, and something I have no control over.

And thanks, mama. I know time heals all. You are living proof that if you just endure... you can survive most anything. But as you know, there are times when you're sitting on that kitchen floor, wondering why the hell you should get up in the morning.

Right now I feel very empty, which is expected. And I know with time it will change. But when she tells me that she's going to wear the tightest clothes possible, and talk to all of my friends, and date people I know from the gym, just to harm me... I know I have one hell of a battle ahead.

I know she's saying this out of anger right now... but good hell I want her to know the truth.

I don't know if she ever will. She just won't talk to me... and in a way, I understand why.