The Shit Hits the Fan....

[MrMuscle]

well if the people dont trust you enough to belive you, then leave them. fuck it..no way i would stick around with people i thought were my friends if i found out they dont belive a word im saying.

 

[Big Brother Val]

This is fucked up.

and it is sad that it takes one person, telling one lie, to fuck up four peoples lives.

Actually, just two.

Their relationship is going strong right now. He told me he's only moving forward in his life with one of us, and that it's her.

He had an affair on his wife 3 years ago, so he looks at this like the score is even.

It took my lady from me. And changed how she sees me as a person.

This is killing me...

 

[Big Brother Val]

well if the people dont trust you enough to belive you, then leave them. fuck it..no way i would stick around with people i thought were my friends if i found out they dont belive a word im saying.

Well... he's starting to waiver a bit... but things are a little too new right now, I think.

My concern is, by time my lady finds out the truth, it'll be too late.

The question I can't answer, is when she asked me "Why would she lie about that."

I don't know.

Maybe because they're relationship can't survive without a crisis. Maybe she's bangin' someone at her work, so she just put my name in that guy's place.

I don't have any idea.

 

[beastboy]

yes don't let your emotions over run your common sense.

I agree with saint.....I know it is hard, but don't do anything that would jepordize you seeing your son....always keep him in mind.....

 

[vixenbabe]

"It'S HOW IT HAS TO BE"? Stupid bitch....I feel sorry for your pal for having a" wife" and "mother" like this nutcase. SHE WILL get what she deserves. It may take awhile...but she will get it given back to her in some form or another in her future.

As far as your lady....If she really "knew" you, then she should know you could not do this type of thing to the three of you. It appears you may have learned something about her as well in this ordeal. It sucks, but you are going to have to gain her trust back. She sounds like she may be insecure in your relationship to believe this other woman and NOT you! (just my thoughts, as I do not know your lady to say 100% that is the case)

I could NOT imagine NOT allowing my little girl too see her daddy! THAT IS NOT RIGHT, no matter what has happened between the two of us- HE IS HER DADDY! The child will suffer - VERY SELFISH OF A PERSON TO DO THAT "POWER PLAY" WITH A FAMILY!

Good luck! Very sad situation!

 

[Big Brother Val]

"It'S HOW IT HAS TO BE"? Stupid bitch....I feel sorry for your pal for having a" wife" and "mother" like this nutcase. SHE WILL get what she deserves. It may take awhile...but she will get it given back to her in some form or another in her future.

As far as your lady....If she really "knew" you, then she should know you could not do this type of thing to the three of you. It appears you may have learned something about her as well in this ordeal. It sucks, but you are going to have to gain her trust back. She sounds like she may be insecure in your relationship to believe this other woman and NOT you! (just my thoughts, as I do not know your lady to say 100% that is the case)

I could NOT imagine NOT allowing my little girl too see her daddy! THAT IS NOT RIGHT, no matter what has happened between the two of us- HE IS HER DADDY! The child will suffer - VERY SELFISH OF A PERSON TO DO THAT "POWER PLAY" WITH A FAMILY!

Good luck! Very sad situation!

Thank you.

I don't know... I try to put myself in her shoes... and I can't imagine just saying it was over, without talking to her about it first.

I love her. She knows that. She even said yesterday that she knew it... but then she threw her defenses back up and said she wanted nothing to do with me... and loving eachother wasn't enough, because all I want is sex, and that I'd get it where I could, with anyone I could.

I know that the beginning of this whole thing is the hardest. Right now, it doesn't seem like this situation is surviveable. It seems like I'm so hollow inside... I don't know how the hell I came in to work today, and I have a wrestling show tomorrow... who knows how that will go, as my tag team partner is my best friend... who now wants nothing to do with me.

Thanks again for taking the time to hear me rant.

I feel like I'm caving in... it seems like it's been a month since all this happened... and it's not quite the 24 hour mark.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Val - I have to go now, but I have read all of the comments on the thread... VBabe IS ON about a lot - Mr Muscle is ON about a lot - FD is ON about a lot... Everyone who posted up is DEAD ON.

I'll call you later. Promise.

I think YOU KNOW that all of this is FUCKED UP and you may feel like, "Why or How could this happen to me?" You are looking at it the wrong way. Believe me when I tell you I had spent COUNTLESS HOURS on my kitchen floor emitting sounds that you can't even describe as human - RAW ANIMAL PAIN - I mean HOURS; tears to numerous to count... "WHY ME?!" You know what I say today, "THANK GOD!" I have EVERYTHING NOW: my girls, a loving supportive family and a handful of good friends that have my best interest at heart... that would do ANYTHING FOR ME - whether I am at my lowest or slowly climbing the summit... Are ALL of my troubles magically gone? NO - THEY ARE STILL THE SAME TROUBLES I HAD A FEW MONTHS AGO! What has changed?

ME!

Take care Val - Everything happens for a reason.....

Talk to you soon.

 

[Big Brother Val]

Thanks, mama.

I know everything happens for a reason.

I just can't imagine what the hell reason this could be.

I sit at work choking back the emotion...

Not to sound ultra-manly... but I haven't cried in God knows how long.

And as I sit here at work, the thought of this is so overwhelming, that I am honestly as we speak fighting my hardest to keep it in.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Damn Val, that really hurts. Can you get one of those phone call tape recording devices? Get the lying chick on the phone alone -- have somebody you know call and ask for her -- about a Victoria's Secret catalog or something, then you get on the phone. When she's on the phone record the conversation and get her to say something that can work against her. It's not OK for court, but hell, for personal reasons, why not? You could even go so far as to tell her that when she told that lie it confused you because you'd always really wanted to be with her.

Here's an afterthought, people like this don't respond to how their actions are hurting others, they only respond to how much trouble they can avoid. Maybe... and I'm thinking this could be a kickass idea... you should get a civil attorney and sue her for defamation of character, slander and whatever else he can come up with. Whether you'd win or not is irrelevant, just the very act would be a very powerful statement. Hell if it did go to the court, she'd have to provide times, dates that you two were 'together', personal details, etc... she'd sink herself!

Call her and tell her that if she doesn't come clean you are going to take her for everything that she has, and that you know guys on the force that have wives that are CPS officers and you can influence them to come and take her kids away... scare the shit out of her... then back off ... get it all on tape (but be sure to dub over anything that could get you in trouble...) Get everything on tape, every commmunication -- she will say something that will be her undoing, you just need to be prepared for it...

Just remember, when things get really dark, just stop and say aloud to yourself "I am alive, I will survive." It sounds silly, but it really works.

Hang in there man, you've been through tougher things than this (or things just as tough) you will weather it, and you will always know what the truth is. What others accept is beyond you. They're failing to believe you is a testament to their weakness, not a reflection on your character.

 

[the nature boy]

sorry bro, that sounds aweful. If it's any consilation I don't think things can get that much worse.

Why don't you have your friends wife talk to your old lady and set things straight? That seems like the best plan if you ask me.