Tell us the FIRST time you were Cheated on and WHY? and how it made you feel

[silverstar1025]

I could never cheat on a cheater either. All it proves is you are stooping down to their level.

Exactly! In all cases I made them feel like shit like they deserved. I stayed the bigger person.

 

[EnderJE]

For me, it was every single gf that I've ever had except for my wife...and my current gf.

Seriously, every single one. The first one hurt. The others were funny. Like a comedy of errors.

"EJE, I'm so sorry I hurt you!"

"Hurt me! I want to thank you! Could you imagine if this proceeded further?! Thanks for pulling the escape hatch right now! BTW, is your sister dating anyone?"

 

[gonelifting]

Dude, I'm so messed up, I can't even get into an argument with my SO.

 

[silverstar1025]

What will make me "cheat"?
Years into the relationship your partner all of a sudden changes yet you stay with them for other reasons like children.

Would I ever tell them?
No, this can only hurt the person so why tell them.

It is still unacceptable. If I am having troubles in my marriage I fight until I can't fight anymore and then I move on. No need to pretend to be somewhat happy and cheat just for the kids. Stupid.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

not sure how many gfs did it to me, but I've done it to every one... I wouldn't do it anymore. The first gf I had ''cheated'' on me I guess, and that gave me an excuse to always be an asshole. Fast forward a few years now I dont even want to trust anyone, or try to.

 

[EnderJE]

It is still unacceptable. If I am having troubles in my marriage I fight until I can't fight anymore and then I move on. No need to pretend to be somewhat happy and cheat just for the kids. Stupid.

People do things for all sorts of reasons. In real life, I am unqualified to pass judgment on others because I don't know the context of how the other people made a decision. I try to remain neutral.

On here, I'm all seeing and all knowing. For example, you're an asshat because of last night's dinner.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

It is still unacceptable. If I am having troubles in my marriage I fight until I can't fight anymore and then I move on. No need to pretend to be somewhat happy and cheat just for the kids. Stupid.

yeah one of my close friends parents did the stay together until he was 18 and out of the house thing. It wrecked him when he found out they stayed together for him like that.

 

[hog#head#cheese]

About 10 years ago i woke up to find my best friends fiancee blowing me a month before the wedding.Worst news i ever had to deliver

 

[jerseyrugger76]

It happened once and one who followed the offending party made an attempt and I caught him. Let's just say they'll both think 5 or 6 times before cheating again. Put simply, I can put up with anything but dishonesty and if I find out I've been lied to about what I would consider to be a "material event," all hell will break loose. I guarantee it.

 

[-Ariel-]

It happened once and one who followed the offending party made an attempt and I caught him. Let's just say they'll both think 5 or 6 times before cheating again. Put simply, I can put up with anything but dishonesty and if I find out I've been lied to about what I would consider to be a "material event," all hell will break loose. I guarantee it.

I have never followed an S O, but have only been cheated on once, and I wanted to fuck her and him up so bad... I have never been more furious in my life... straight up short of killing them both I wanted blood. I will talk to any of my ex s except this one, I do not wish her ill, but would never want to encounter her again, and luckily since she's in the midwest and I'm not, this will never happen. Cheaters should be hanged... lol big time j/k....
I have healed, but even considering how that fucked me up for like 6 months and my perceptions, the consequent depression. I couldn't do that to another person. Now I think that it did have some long term effects, letting someone totally in... but yeah...
no words to describe how unkewl cheating can be.