sticky situation...need help

[magman1]

i dated my gf for four and a half years...we split this summer...she has an older sister i always had a crush on...in october, her sisters fiance and baby's father died in a car accident(they actually split up about a month before) and i was good friends with her fiance, as he was like my brother in law for a few years...my gf's sister contacted me, saying she really wants to get together, and would really like to talk, and thanked me soo much for being at the funeral, and being there for her child...she could want to get together for just innocent reasons, but then i wonder if the reasons arent so innocent...im very attracted to her, but know it would be the wrong thing to do, im just not sure if i could control myself if the situation presented itself...and then again, i dont wana avoid getting together, cuz maybe she really does just want to talk...how do you guys feel about this situation? would it be very very wrong to become any way involved with her?

 

[BO-DEN]

IMO: it would only be wrong if you were still with her sister. now you are a free agent. and you are young! no rings on your finger. if your x wanted to be with you she would be with you. i say go about it like a friend to her. but if she needs to be more then a friend.....DO IT!

p.s. i had a simular situation... after something like that shes probably very lonley in the MAN/penis department. and she probably feels like a (HOE) if shes out at the club trying to meet men. you are probably someone shes attracted to and she can always (pretend) its innocent if it looks like sex is not what you want.

good luck

BO-DEN

 

[AAP]

She lost her baby in October and you think she wants to do something not so innocent? Man, you don't know how female minds work.

 

[Apöllo]

I think this path was laid before you by God, I can't explain it any other way. Perhaps you two are meant to get together and have the child that grows up to save the world.

 

[Imnotdutcheither]

I think this path was laid before you by God, I can't explain it any other way. Perhaps you two are meant to get together and have the child that grows up to save the world.

You're joking right?

 

[magman1]

She lost her baby in October and you think she wants to do something not so innocent? Man, you don't know how female minds work.

no, she didnt lose her baby...she lost her baby's father...i dont think its wrong in terms of me and her sister, but rather bc of my friendship i had with her late fiance

 

[Imnotdutcheither]

no, she didnt lose her baby...she lost her baby's father...i dont think its wrong in terms of me and her sister, but rather bc of my friendship i had with her late fiance

Theres really nothing wrong with that.........I am sure that he would want her to be happy........so just make sure you treat her right.

 

[Lumberg]

"you conscience is your prison"

 

[gonelifting]

One step at a time bro. Meet with her in her time of need first. Don`t worry about something that`s not really there yet.

 

[breathinbleedout]

Somehow I think this whole thing will end up being resolved in Jerry Springer show.

Anyways, if she is serious about meeting up and being friends I don't see any problems with it. Sure it will cause a tension between you and her sister, but she isn't in the "big picture" anymore. Just be curtious to them and it will all workout.

The devil advocate part:
Just be careful about the kid thing, mabye she is a bit desperate to find a man to take care of the baby?