Split up with the lady, now a hot blond wants me to spend the night.... advice?

[Big Brother Val]

And KD... I wouldn't even have to ask. She's offered her place to me already.

And 3 or 4 days of humpin' the new gal would probably just make me sick. It's not the sort of attention I need right now.

I don't think I'd have a problem getting that with most any gal, whenever I chose, really. Not to sound arrogant, or anything.

Thanks though, for adding a bit of humor in for me. It's a good stress-aid.

 

[Jeff_rys]

don't know about that

"She is showing off YOUR work afterall. A walking billboard. Be proud of the person you are with. Let her be this new person after all she still loves you. "

If so, she has a strange way of showing it. And the fact she doesn't want to talk about it. Weird.

 

[Big Brother Val]

I agree on that point, Jeff. I believe a lot of ladies look at it that way. And I'm not trying to be an ass in that fashion.
If I knew she loved me, and she showed it... it would be a little different.

I'm not sure why 50+ guys a day wanting to hump the woman I love would make me proud. To have them visualize in their head what they want her to do to them doesn't make me throw my chest out and say "You want her, but she's with me." Makes me sick, actually. I don't need to boast what a great piece of ass I have to make myself feel good. I respect her more than that... and I'm far above that level.

Her looking fabulous, and reserving it JUST FOR ME is what makes me feel good.

 

[starfish]

BBV,

Sorry about your lady troubles. Is there a big age difference involved? Did she really look "that" different before she started working out. Just trying to think of other influences to her behavior.

It's too bad she doesn't respect your feelings. As much as it hurts, a relationship based so much on looks is bound to crash and burn. Your looks come and go- it's what's inside and how you treat each other that counts.

Hope it works out!
starfish

 

[Big Brother Val]

Starfish... I'm 25, she's 24. Not too big of an age difference.

When we first started going out, of course she was beautiful. She was about 15 lbs. heavier or so. The only thing in our relationship that has changed really is her appearance. I try really hard to help her understand that even though she's incredibly beautiful, that who she is outshines that by far.

If she got in an accident, or was burned, or whatever... I would love her just as much. Her inner beauty is the part I love. Her body is just an added bonus. It's the fact of how guys look at it that sickens me.

It'll be interesting to see how the next few days go.

She'll either take being respected, and loved... or take the attention.

 

[WIDELAT]

I WOULD GO OUT WITH THE OTHER ONE AND BONE DOWN YOUR GIRL WILL COME BACK TO YOU CAUSE SHE IS SCARED OR LEAVE IN WHICH CASE SHE WAS'NT MEANT FOR YOU ANYWAY, WHY SHOULD YOU HAVE TO WORK THE PROBLEM OUT WHEN SHE IS THE PROBLEM NICE GUYS ALWAYS GET SHITTED ON BE A DICK TO HER AND SHE WILL CRAWL BACK TO YOU BECUASE THEY LIKE IT. JUST BLOCK HER OUT START GOING OUT SAY THINGS TO HER TO MAKE IT SEEM LIKE SHE COULD FUCK A GUY RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU AND YOU WOULD JUST YAWN AND SAY GOOD NIGHT GUYS HAVE FUN AND IT WILL DRIVE HER CRAZY BECAUSE SHE WILL WANT YOU BECAUSE YOU SEEM HAPPIER WITHOUT HER AND THEY DON'T WANT YOU TO BE HAPPY SO SHE WILL COME BACK.

 

[Big Brother Val]

Hey, Widelat, thanks for the reply, bigman. I wish it was that cut and dry. I doubt I'll see the new gal, but I am adopting more of a hardass mentality, hoping she'll see that I don't need her to survive.

And you're right... if she just heads out... it never would have worked anyway. But it just may turn her head if she really knows I will leave.

I can't be an asshole to her, though. I just don't have the ability. Thanks for taking the time to write.

 

[FreakMonster]

Let's see the pics already!!!

 

[Big Brother Val]

They're comin', they're comin'.

I found the picture I was looking for. It's about 1 1/2 years ago, in Vegas... shows she's pretty, but doesn't show the figure. I just gotta get access to a scanner.

And I'm not sure when I'll get the new gals pics... if things go well with my lady, all contact with her is off. Right now... I keep it on a friendly basis.... while she's inviting me over for a threesome. Interesting relationship.

 

[freshr1]

yada yada yada.. cut to the chase BBV.. did you pipe her yet?