Split up with the lady, now a hot blond wants me to spend the night.... advice?

[FreakMonster]

Damn Brother Val,
You are one jealous mofo. Don't worry all these guys won't give ya shit or anything.

From the way you described your girl, sounds like your describing my girl. Except she doesn't have the double D's. She will be getting the boob job soon though.
I'll post my GF if ya post yours one of your girls.

 

[Big Brother Val]

I'll dig up a photo... don't have much that shows her... maybe I'll ask her if I can take a few snapshots tonight or tomorrow... it's not a common practice for me to take a picture of her in her skimpies.

She's 5' 5" 124 lbs. Blond hair, brown eyes. She's not a HUGE DD, but in a 34 D she comes out of the top a bit. DD is just more comfortable.

No promises on posting it. But I also don't want guys on the board to think I'm makin' shit up to make myself look good. She could literally be on the cover of Muscle and Fitness. She's amazing.

We'll see how it goes. I'll definately post a pic of the new gal... in fact.. she just got online. I'll see if she has one to send to me.

 

[FreakMonster]

Aight cool. I'll go ahead and post one of my girl, She's 5'7 125

 

[Hugh Gellatts]

I think there is a latin saying that applies here:

"Carpe Nookum"

loosly translated: "Seize the Booty"

 

[RADAR]

BB Val if you don't get with the new chick later on down the road you will be kicking yourself fot not doing so..whatever the outcome so be it!!! Peace!! RADAR

 

[Laserdude]

Tom Lykis(sp?) Radio talk show host would tell you to dump this bitch. Is she doing you any more? Get rid of her now and get over it. If you have one waiting in the wings I'd say bring it on Baby! You need to get control of your balls again Bro.

 

[Big Brother Val]

Freakmonster... she's VERY attractive. I wouldn't mind posting a pic of her in that fashion. I was thinking of a picture in a sports bra and short-shorts. You know... to show what she LOOKS like. That would be hard for me to do. I'm sure I can dig up a picture of me and her from Vegas... I got a shitload of those. Now I just need access to a scanner, and all will be well.

Laserdude... yeah... we still get it on at times. Sometimes twice a day... sometimes once every 10 days. That's why it's so confusing. Sometimes I'm the man... sometimes she acts like I'm the most unimportant person in the world.

I hope this post hasn't caused anyone to lose faith in me.

I'm not trying to be a testicle-less shitwipe over this. I truly just don't want to lose her.

Also... the new gal was going to take a pretty much topless photo of herself, possibly today, and send it to me. I'll post that one as soon as I get it.

 

[Longhorn85]

I don't see how you can lose by hooking up with blondie

 

[Darksong2k1]

Val,

You are one good hearted individual. I don't even know you, and you come across as one sensitive, caring motherfucker that doesn't give a shit and ain't afraid to show it.

In my eyes bro, you got more balls than the guy who bottles it up and lets it rot inside his soul. Head up and walk away man, that's my opinion; there's a woman out there who's going to love you for all the right reasons.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

BBV -- first off, go here: www.marriagebuilders.com and read the basic concepts section.

The answer is: if you still love the girl you are with, you should not do anything with the other girl. Right now, you'd just be doing it because you're pissed, not because you want to move on. And say things did go south afterwards, would you always wonder if it was because of your actions? (even if it wasn't)...

There is plenty of time -- you don't have to make a decision right now. First off, you need to work at getting back in touch with yourself -- do some things for you right now, regain your self-confidence. If things don't work out with your girl, take some drying time -- say a year -- just to be by yourself, remember, YOU are responsible for your hapiness, depending on others to provide it for you is a very unsatisfying thing.

I guess my point is, is that if you really want to work things out, fucking around will not help. Likely, you'll end up in love with 2 girls and be confused as hell. Wait until you no longer love the girl you are with, where her leaving would be a blessing, not a traumatic thing -- then you can consider other options.

Here's a few books:
Love Must Be Tough -- James Dobson
Give And Take -- William F. Harley Jr.
Relationship Rescue -- Phil McGraw

Also, do check out the marriagebuilders site -- there is a TON of great info over there and an excellent chat board. If you get serious about it, I strongly recommend the MarriageBuilders weekend -- my wife and I went and I don't know if we'd still be together today if we hadn't --- no shit.

Good luck man. E-mail if you want. Later.