Something awful happened - advice please.

[BigRedCat]

Woah. Some of you are harsh. First off, I dont think cheating necessarily ends the relationship. Lets face it, how many guys cheat on their girls? Out of my close personal friends I would say I am the only one who has not cheated. That doesn't mean they have no morals or dont love their girls- it is just something that is accepted and actually expected in some social circles. Now, women are doing the same, it seems pretty commmon nowadays. That is why everyone gets divorced. They cant keep it in their pants and dont want to work to make things exciting.

Instead of getting advice from a message board this girl needs to go to the bookstore and get a self help book on this very subject, see what the shrinks say to do. If you really love him you can make it work. I can tell you that if your guy has no way of finding out then DO NOT tell him. Deal with the guilt as you should. That is your punishment for doing the wrong thing. You are one of those young girls who still think that guy "friends" are just friends. Well wake up call! Guys wanna fuck ya! Simple as that, the quicker you realize it the better. DO NOT get into a situation where you are laying next to some "hot guy"- that is absurd, what did you think would happen? If you move in with this "A" then forget your Ranger, its over. If not, then you have a chance.

You can repair this damage and you can start by not fucking doing it again. Be a decent person because karma has a way with biting you when you least expect it. Everyone makes mistakes and some people make allot, its not the end of the world but if you want to be able to look yourself in the mirror then you need counseling or at the bare minimum you need to read some books on infidelity.

 

[Bikini Mod]

If our relationship is so distant that either he or I would be fucking someone else on Nov 8th then why on EARTH would he be asking me to marry him on Nov 9th?

You reasoning is faulty. If I choose not to fuck somebody else it will not be because I am "not allowed". It will be because I DON'T WANT TO.

I know all about being faithful and committed. This girl obviously DOES NOT.

My problem is with "dating" as I still am naive enough to believe a man's "you are the only perfect woman for me and I want to be with only you" rhetoric while the SECOND you give in, put your reservations aside and think "he must be telling the truth" - fall in love and then the next thing you know he is like, "Um hey! This is moving a bit too quickly for me."

REALLY?

I was not the one who started with the LOVE bullshit or the "When you will be my wife" crap.

So WHAT THE FUCK IS UP WITH THAT - HUH?

 

[AAP]

SHE HAS NOT BEEN BACK ON YET. DOES THAT MEAN SHE IS LIKE.... UH....DEAD?

 

[BigRedCat]

Analassplorer, why are you so mean?

 

[velvett]

Is this definitely cheating?

Ah yup, pretty much.

All is not lost, this should force you to think about you, your beau and your future with each other.


Next time I would take the a sofa as a place to sleep.


Experiences are for learning and you'll learn from this and while ending your life over it is not wise, learning from a less than desirable choice IS wise.

 

[AAP]

Analassplorer, why are you so mean?

I AIN'T BEING MEAN. SHIT, IF SHE GONNA COME ON HERE AND PROMISE US SOME DRAMA, I WANT IT DELIVERED.


THIS IS JUST A WATERED DOWN VERSION OF GEORGIE24. HE STARTS A THREAD, ASKS FOR ADVICE/HELP, EVERYONE "TRIES" TO GIVE HIM ADVICE, BUT HE NEVER SHOWS BACK UP ON THE THREAD.

SHE DISAPPEARED. I GUESS SHE IS, LIKE, DEADING RIGHT NOW.

 

[madbomber31]

um, this bitch was either ran out of town... or killed herself... or is out fucking half the city...

i'm guessing c.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

I just got home and I read all but the last page so far, and i realize I need to clear a few things up. NO, I DID NOT FUCK ANOTHER GUY BEHIND MY BOYFRIEND'S BACK.

We had agreed upon an unexclusive relationship. I called him up and told him I wanted to get with this guy I worked with, because the guy had invited me over after work. My boyfriend said that was cool, as long as I made up my mind ahead of time what I was going to do. I told him I wasnt planning on having sex with the guy and not to worry about it. Well shit went its way and I couldn't resist and we fucked.

DOES THAT CHANGE YOUR CRITICAL TUNE, ANY, FRACKAL AND BMOM?

 

[Temple]

I just got home and I read all but the last page so far, and i realize I need to clear a few things up. NO, I DID NOT FUCK ANOTHER GUY BEHIND MY BOYFRIEND'S BACK.

We had agreed upon an unexclusive relationship. I called him up and told him I wanted to get with this guy I worked with, because the guy had invited me over after work. My boyfriend said that was cool, as long as I made up my mind ahead of time what I was going to do. I told him I wasnt planning on having sex with the guy and not to worry about it. Well shit went its way and I couldn't resist and we fucked.

DOES THAT CHANGE YOUR CRITICAL TUNE, ANY, FRACKAL AND BMOM?

That contradicts EVERYTHING you said in your original post.

 

[vinylgroover]

Veggie lifter,

In that case i should apologise, because Frack and Bmom were responding to my post.

In your previous threads, i had clearly thought that you said you were on 'probation' with your boyfriend because you had cheated on him with another guy, which is why i wrote that post.

I wasn't aware of the how and why's of that encounter, but did your boyfriend consider what you did to be cheating?