Something awful happened - advice please.

[biteme]

I don't like to quote the bible being an agnostic but it does contain some good wisdom. Let he who has never sinned cast the first stone.

 

[MP5]

I repeat, don't tell him. End of story. And...sounds like you are not old or mature enough to have a long distance relationship.

 

[Citruscide]

I've got to run with PSB on this one, as usual... my sister is correct.

Killing yourself over this is quite possibly the stupidest thing I've ever heard. It's people that think like that, which give suicide a bad name. You think YOU have problems? You think you have everything figured out? You just caressed him? Dry fucked him?? What kind of broad does that if you love someone???

Jesus.... Kill yourself? Well... overpopulation would be solved if we get rid of wack-jobs like you.

C-ditty

 

[naturally anabolic]

i could play "citruscide" and be all anti woman and hateful with things like "once a cheater always a cheater" or "wandering eyes lead to wandering mates" but i wont.

instead, I will say this. If you feel guilty about this and your boyfriend does not know, be upfront if you care about him, because if it comes out later it will only hurt more and you still have plenty of oppurtunity to salvage the relationship from the abominable hell you see it going toward. Distance is hard and thats something you knew going into this and it is now the crippling factor.

If you love him as much as you say you do then none of this should have happened. But we are humans and humans make mistakes, costly mistakes. He must find it in his heart to forgive you without a shadow of a doubt because if he cannot wholeheartdly do so then there is no point in moving forward.

Live and Learn.

im on aim if you need to talk: Natty Anabolic.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

I repeat, don't tell him. End of story. And...sounds like you are not old or mature enough to have a long distance relationship.

You're right, I'm obviously not old enough nor mature enough to have a long distance relationship. For that reason I've thought about transferring to a school near where he'll be stationed and living with him. That is, of course, in some fantasy world where he would forgive me and be able to trust me again.

 

[biteme]

I believe most people that cheat have no conscience about it whatsoever. They might feel a little guilty but being self-serving people they will quickly get over it. I was married to one. She is feeling very bad about this. That says something about her character to me.

 

[MP5]

I had some broad come and see me from out of state once and all she would do is dry fuck me, even got her down to her panties. Dumb bitch, never did get to bang her cause i never called her back.

Veggie, there is no forgiveness needed if he never finds out.

 

[Citruscide]

i could play "citruscide" and be all anti woman and hateful with things like "once a cheater always a cheater" or "wandering eyes lead to wandering mates" but i wont.

Or, you could play Citruscide and say that anyone who thinks about killing themselves for any reason is a total-and complete wack-job... end of story. It makes no difference that she is a slut...

I could care a less that she grinded with some guy... but killing yourself is retarded.

C-ditty

 

[Pink Space Biscuit]

>It was just carressing and cuddling and brushing our lips over >eachother without kissing.

That's IT? Good god, that's like a real elongated hug. I've seen people do more on the dance floor than that!

I agree, you're getting WAY over-dramatic. Chill out and go get a beer. Stop thinking so much into it. You didn't do squat.

-= nav =-

That's it?????? I have to totally disagree here. No woman in a committed relationship should allow themselves to be carressed, cuddled, their lips "brushed" or dry fucked. That's all pretty disrespectful.

 

[MP5]

Telling someone is the dumbist most selfish thing a person could do. What possible good can come out of it? He will be upset, she will still feel like shit. People think if they spill their guts then they won't feel guilty anymore and feel better. Thus it is a selfish act to do so.