Something awful happened - advice please.

[VeggieLifterChick]

I'm not trying to justify or even mitigate my actions here, Saint808, but you're talking like a guy who has never experienced a long distance relationship. I have no problem being faithful with him around. Or even just being able to talk to him.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Is this definitely cheating?

 

[saint808]

I'm not trying to justify or even mitigate my actions here, Saint808, but you're talking like a guy who has never experienced a long distance relationship. I have no problem being faithful with him around. Or even just being able to talk to him.

i'm experiencing it right now... and i still stand by my convictions... seriously... love is so rare and i guess a lot of people throw that word around too much... when it happens it is rare... i still don't think you should kill yourself over it but i think you should tell him and find out how he feels... if it doesn't bothr him then you are fine... and if he finds out later... well that will just wreck anything you try and build.

 

[Citruscide]

Is this definitely cheating?

In all seriousness... if you have to ask, you know the answer. Telling a guy he has a nice ass, isn't cheating... caressing the ass... is cheating.

If you are mature enough to be in a long distance relationship, then you should be mature enough to not make out with 'hot ass guys' while he is gone.

Ahh well... what's good for the goose, is good for the gander I suppose... he's probably "caressing" women as we speak.

C-ditty

 

[Charvelle]

The only way to really resist temptation is to remove yourself from
it. Everyone can be tempted, but when you are committed, you have to make the good choices to keep yourself out of those situations. You made a bad choice on spending the night in a tempting situation, but you didn't wreck your relationship, so if you want to stay in your current relationship, don't say anything,
count your blessings you didn't do too much, and don't put yourself into that bad of a situation again.

But definately re-evaluate things a little.

 

[Kali]

There is not a human out there that wouldn't cheat if the right person presented the offer. I don't care who i am with, if a chick like Salma Hayek got naked on my bed and started fingering herself begging me to fuck her, she would get fucked.

This is why the world is so fucked up... There is someone out there that wouldn't do that. ME! Sorry, but I have a little more respect for both myself and the person I am with. What does that say about you as a person if you are that weak? If you could drop everything for a piece of ass? Personally, I don't believe you have to be having sex to cheat. If you are mentally set on or thinking even without the act of, you are breaking the trust and the oath in a relationship. Everyone will fantasize, but acting is different, and if you are touching or even coming into contact with... you are acting. I live by one simple rule: anything I can do with or think about with my grandmother is fine, anything else is cheating. Rationalize it as much as your want to yourself, you still know you fucked up because if you didn't you wouldn't be posting this.

 

[HulkRow]

to me that shit you "did" anit cheating, dont beat yourself up over it. i cant believe you could NOT do anything...thats not cheating at all.

 

[MkZk]

what the FUCK were u doing with your guy friend "A" anyway? There's no such thing as just friends u STUPID girl.

and yeah, your boyfriend deserves better than a slut like u.

fuck it, I'm telling it like it is.

 

[MkZk]

Oh ya...and this "love of my life" shit? He ain't it and u probably unconsciously feel it too. Otherwise u would not even let yourself get into the situation with this "A" guy.


Admit that u had fun, wanna fuck other guys, are pissed with your boyfriend for being in ranger school or whatever and break it off with him.

Do this and then u are labelled "cool" and "independent" and other such nice terms...rather than being the SLUT which u are now.

 

[TxArmyGuy]

I can't belive this is for real....I hope the way your talking about your man that he's in a Ranger Battalion...cause all this "oh his job he's going to be gone alot"

Crap-o-la....ask all the other military guys especially the other army guys here...Most people in aren't gone very much

As for what you "did" I'm sorry your having emotional pains with this but I really did have a good laugh at the responses here...honestly take shit as it comes...dont worry about how he might hate you...you did what you did. Accept that it's happened and over....Most adults can do this

dont know the details of your relationship but if he's going to a Ranger Battalion he's probably got a Few Rangerettes waiting for him back where he's stationed...If he's at Ft Benning Oh yeah they are around every afternoon...I hear the same being said about Hunter Army Airfield and Ft Lewis Washington

Then again he could be a straight fwd guy and not have the need for such things