Something awful happened - advice please.

[Citruscide]

Yeah, if a girl I dated grinded and made out and caressed another dude... oh wait, a girl I dated did do that... I'd probably dump them and then go cut my wrists with razor blades...

C-ditty

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

Telling someone is the dumbist most selfish thing a person could do. What possible good can come out of it? He will be upset, she will still feel like shit. People think if they spill their guts then they won't feel guilty anymore and feel better. Thus it is a selfish act to do so.

That's an interesting point; one that I've considered. Why is honesty valued so damn much? Sometimes it does seem entirely self-serving. One would think guilt is enough fucking torture on its own to feel like I got what I deserved. WHy make him suffer too?

But then again it seems like crap, because how I could I lie to someone I respect so much?

 

[MP5]

There is not a human out there that wouldn't cheat if the right person presented the offer. I don't care who i am with, if a chick like Salma Hayek got naked on my bed and started fingering herself begging me to fuck her, she would get fucked.

 

[saint808]

That's it?????? I have to totally disagree here. No woman in a committed relationship should allow themselves to be carressed, cuddled, their lips "brushed" or dry fucked. That's all pretty disrespectful.

actually i think it is a lil worse... the things she did were intimate... i think it would have been better had she just fucked him... people don't share fucking with each other... they share intimacy... that being said... suicide isn't an option here... i believe you just need to think about how much you love him... if you love him as much as you say you do then would this have ever happened?

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

I have a friend who told me that things seem to be "out of sight, out of mind" for him. That;s kind of how it is for me sometimes....I have been totally cut off from communicating with him, and it makes it hard not to forget after awhile. I was saying to A, "DOnt kiss me, it will ruin my life" so I knew I shouldnt be doing it but honestly with him so far away and out of sight, with some hot ass guy who i am friends with carressing me and shit in bed, its not so easy.....

 

[Citruscide]

I have a friend who told me that things seem to be "out of sight, out of mind" for him. That;s kind of how it is for me sometimes....I have been totally cut off from communicating with him, and it makes it hard not to forget after awhile. I was saying to A, "DOnt kiss me, it will ruin my life" so I knew I shouldnt be doing it but honestly with him so far away and out of sight, with some hot ass guy who i am friends with carressing me and shit in bed, its not so easy.....

They let people like you into Rutgers University?

C-ditty

 

[saint808]

I have a friend who told me that things seem to be "out of sight, out of mind" for him. That;s kind of how it is for me sometimes....I have been totally cut off from communicating with him, and it makes it hard not to forget after awhile. I was saying to A, "DOnt kiss me, it will ruin my life" so I knew I shouldnt be doing it but honestly with him so far away and out of sight, with some hot ass guy who i am friends with carressing me and shit in bed, its not so easy.....

that makes it ok?

 

[biteme]

That's an interesting point; one that I've considered. Why is honesty valued so damn much? Sometimes it does seem entirely self-serving. One would think guilt is enough fucking torture on its own to feel like I got what I deserved. WHy make him suffer too?

But then again it seems like crap, because how I could I lie to someone I respect so much?

Why is honesty valued so much? Because of trust. There is hardly anyone you can trust these days. I told you how I would feel if it were me. I would have more respect for you and be able to trust you that you would not keep things from me. Not everyone feels like that though. Just imagine, the divorce rate is supposedly around 50%. If everything we say or do out of sight of our significant other was recorded and they saw it, the divorce rate might be 90%.

 

[VeggieLifterChick]

No it doesn't make it ok. Obviously I wouldnt be reacting how I am if I thought it was ok. I was responding to saint808, who was questioning my love for my boyfriend.

 

[saint808]

No it doesn't make it ok. Obviously I wouldnt be reacting how I am if I thought it was ok. I was responding to saint808, who was questioning my love for my boyfriend.

i just think you need to seriously reconsider your relationship. personally if i love someone then no matter how hot a chick is i am gonna be faithful. hot chicks come and go... love is a rarity.