So I'm starting to subscribe to the Puddlemonkey/javaguru/ATW school of thought..

[calveless wonder]

Don't take this as an insult, because it isn't. You think maybe there is something in you that is attracting the crazies? Are you one of these guys that wants to "rescue" them perhaps? (Just taking a mad stab in the dark.)

Or is it that you are meeting a bunch of women who "just aren't for you"?

Love has NOTHING to do with finding a lasting longterm healthy relationship.

Back in the day I met A TON of nice men who just weren't for me. Yea, I encountered a handfull of guys who were off, for sure, but the majority; we just didn't click. It took A LOT for a man to gain and hold my interest so that would stand to reason. No?

no worries, didnt interpret it as that. definetely dont want to rescue them lol, although i was like that with my ex. tried to save her from all her problems and all the shit she had to go through growing up.

now i avoid that. i just think its most women i meet in general.
if they're not crazy, they're just kinda boring. i demand alot from a woman that i want to be in a long term relationship with. i want someone thats close to my equal in terms of looks, intelligence and culture as well emotional healthyness. not easy to find, and i can tell you i meet ALOT of women so its not like im talking about a small sample group. even with that girl, the same rules will apply

but it's ok, like i said...i accept it, embrace it and am having fun. i need to get my own life back together anyways

 

[layinback]

....on wimminz.
i'm sure i left somebody out in that group

-There's always baggage
-there's always some shit you dont know about/crazy side they dont show
-you always have to play these games to keep their interest. no matter how different they seem, they're really all the same
-the minute you show any emotion they'll probably run

so who gives a shit anymore. just be single and live life.Since i've been single again, I go through phases where im either dating nobody or a bunch of girls at once...and now that im in the super dating phase again it just reminds me that these single older good bros are not just jaded. its fact. i'm done with wasting even a single emotion (that isnt beyond just enjoying the moment) on these loony broads.
I caught feelings over one girl now too long ago and i snapped out of it and realized what a crazy bitch she really was (even though she didnt appear to be) and it was a complete waste of emotions on my part.

out of all the girls i'm seeing now(or have met recently), they're all fucked up...one way or another. some of them seemed great..like great initial connection, good sex etc and then of course you realize how fucked up they are. As much as the idealistic idea of love is appealing and great, its bullshit.

i truly believe (if you're lucky), you'll find maybe 1-2 people you could truly have a life long relationship with. searching for that is pointless. if you see that opportunity you just need to make sure you hold onto it

don't get me wrong, i'm having a blast and really enjoying life and these crazy adventures i have, but the whole concept of true love or this strong interpersonal connection i want deep down is just not realistic. living in the moment and getting high off the endorphins of meeting new people is the way to go. I could easily see myself living this way for the next 10-12 years

real relationships ( past the chemical part ) require selfless work and
cooperation, little brotha. the first three months are a breeze. both
parties are on their best behavior and happy chemicals abound!!!
it's when you move beyond the "lust stage" when more mature
emotional responses come in to play.

there's nothing wrong with playing the field in your 20's, but there's
nothing sadder than a middle aged guy with a sports car, racking up
ass in the clubs.

everyone and i mean EVERYONE, longs for intimacy. at a certain point
you have to "grow up" and become emotionally responsible. the alternative
is emptiness and loneliness. i was a late bloomer, but i finally found it.
i should hope you find it sooner than i did.

.

 

[BlueBird]

i truly believe (if you're lucky), you'll find maybe 1-2 people you could truly have a life long relationship with. if you see that opportunity you just need to make sure you hold onto it

This is true.

... and the same can be said for all men, as well.

This is true.

everyone and i mean EVERYONE, longs for intimacy. at a certain point
you have to "grow up" and become emotionally responsible. the alternative
is emptiness and loneliness

And, this is true.

The above excerpts shall be my post.

 

[roadwarrior]

real relationships ( past the chemical part ) require selfless work and
cooperation, little brotha. the first three months are a breeze. both
parties are on their best behavior and happy chemicals abound!!!
it's when you move beyond the "lust stage" when more mature
emotional responses come in to play.

there's nothing wrong with playing the field in your 20's, but there's
nothing sadder than a middle aged guy with a sports car, racking up
ass in the clubs.

everyone and i mean EVERYONE, longs for intimacy. at a certain point
you have to "grow up" and become emotionally responsible. the alternative
is emptiness and loneliness. i was a late bloomer, but i finally found it.
i should hope you find it sooner than i did.

.

+1 Listen to this man. He just shared some very wise words.

S