Should I wait?

[nangiggles]

So I decided to let my husband keep the house (because I'm a thoughtful, guilty, stupid bish) as long as he buys me out for my half of the positive equity. We own 2 lots, one has the house, the other is a paid in full empty lot next to the house. In order to buy me out, we are selling the lot and I'm keeping most of the profit. Hubs has about 1/3 of the payout money now, Not sure if I should just take that and move out while we sell or if I should stick around and make sure he really sells and doesnt sabotage the sale.

Living in the same house is a bit awkward but we are cordial to eachother, I do find myself getting sad looking at all my stuff and the things I've bought and we've built together, I can tolerate staying but I'm sure not liking it. The house and lot are under both our names so it's in his best interest to move fast, but I'm a bit hesitant

What would you guys do?

 

[sexyMFer]

Put the agreement in writing and move out

 

[sexyMFer]

I've never been divorced but it seems like the logical thing to do

 

[miplank]

You're both fucking retarded and this will never happen.

 

[nangiggles]

You're both fucking retarded and this will never happen.

I expected nothing less/nothing more from you

 

[miplank]

Chris already said that.


Get your own material, you unoriginal bastard.

 

[rainbococksleev]

Nice fuckin ask for life advice life , if u can't figure your own life out nobodies gonna do it for you grow the fuck up

 

[averagelookingjapdick]

I dont know the answer Nangiggles, but i hope it all works out for you.

Do you have a lawyer?

 

[wootoom]

You are asking a bunch of fucking douchebags from a fitness site what you should do about your marriage?

 

[PICK3]

You are asking a bunch of fucking douchebags from a fitness site what you should do about your marriage?

and a few fgts

 

[Lestat]

You are asking a bunch of fucking douchebags from a fitness site what you should do about your marriage?

its a good sounding board.. or it was, now you mostly get trolled.

 

[nangiggles]

You are asking a bunch of fucking douchebags from a fitness site what you should do about your marriage?

I'm not going to absolutely do what you say. Just getting opinions, never hurts to hear other points of view

 

[PICK3]

Just getting opinions, never hurts to hear other points of view

You're just getting dick

 

[cindylou]

are you doing it w/o a lawyer?

 

[cindylou]

If the house is under both your names he can't sell it without you and if you agree to split the equity at the sale of the home then that would all go in the final divorce decree and you wouldn't sign a quit claim deed at the divorce it would sell and you'd split the equity and go your separate ways. You don't have to stay in the house for that nor do you absolutely need a lawyer for it I don't believe but I would get legal advice for sure because every state is different. If you move out and are divorcing it can be hard to move back in (I think) if you change your mind and he doesn't change his. But you don't want a War of the Roses scenario either lol

 

[cindylou]

Oh you're just selling the lot

 

[nangiggles]

If the house is under both your names he can't sell it without you and if you agree to split the equity at the sale of the home then that would all go in the final divorce decree and you wouldn't sign a quit claim deed at the divorce it would sell and you'd split the equity and go your separate ways. You don't have to stay in the house for that nor do you absolutely need a lawyer for it I don't believe but I would get legal advice for sure because every state is different. If you move out and are divorcing it can be hard to move back in (I think) if you change your mind and he doesn't change his. But you don't want a War of the Roses scenario either lol

I don't have an attorney, am meeting one next week. Husband wants to divorce abroad since our marriage was abroad. Not sure I like that, hence the attorney. We aren't selling the house. Just the lot. He's keeping the house. I'd keep the cash from the lot sale.

 

[cindylou]

If the lot isn't sold by the divorce then the land would just go to you and you'd own it and have to sell it yourself. If he agrees to give you most of the profit from the land then ownership of the lot would just be transferred into your name in the divorce decree. I'd think you'd be better off doing it that way because and I don't know, but your taxes might get complicated selling it before? What are you going to do with the money? Put it down on another house? It might get taxed if you don't. I don't really know? I would ask the lawyer. He wants to get divorced out of the country? Yikes. That sounds complicated.

 

[wootoom]

As your lawyer, I advise you not to post any personal shit on this site, a lot of people talk. Just warning you. You're a good person Nan. Also, you need legal assistance. That's the first step.

 

[nangiggles]

As your lawyer, I advise you not to post any personal shit on this site, a lot of people talk. Just warning you. You're a good person Nan. Also, you need legal assistance. That's the first step.

How much are you billing me for that advice

 

[cindylou]

Lol

 

[wootoom]

How much are you billing me for that advice

21.50/hr

 

[nangiggles]

21.50/hr

Can I pay in hydros or bananas?

 

[caligirl85]

Personally, I'd get some legal advice and leave sooner than later. Once the decision is made, it'd be awkward to stay longer than needed and will likely do a number on you emotionally.

 

[PICK3]

Can I pay in hydros or bananas?

you can pay in dick

 

[nydj66]

Living with your spouse during a divorce sucks. Living alone during a divorce sucks. Seeing your house half-empty because all your shit is moved out sucks.

Your life is going to suck for at least a year no matter what you do. Pick the options that protects your financial interest. Talk to a lawyer on your own before you agree to the divorce abroad. I think he's setting you up.

 

[nangiggles]

Living with your spouse during a divorce sucks. Living alone during a divorce sucks. Seeing your house half-empty because all your shit is moved out sucks.

Your life is going to suck for at least a year no matter what you do. Pick the options that protects your financial interest. Talk to a lawyer on your own before you agree to the divorce abroad. I think he's setting you up.

He's just being cheap, getting a divorce abroad is free for us, so he wants to divorce there and then just validate it here. Not sure if that would even count, which is why I'm meeting with an attorney next week.

 

[PICK3]

Living with your spouse during a divorce sucks. Living alone during a divorce sucks. Seeing your house half-empty because all your shit is moved out sucks.

Your life is going to suck for at least a year no matter what you do. Pick the options that protects your financial interest. Talk to a lawyer on your own before you agree to the divorce abroad. I think he's setting you up.

thank you Dr Phil