should i stop my run, going through a break up

[khemix]

I really feel for you alltraps. The exact same thing happened to me 3 months ago. My girlfriend and I had been together for years and talked about marriage. This is the woman I planned on getting old and having my kids with! It's been the most painful experience of my entire life and am afraid to get attached to someone now because of it. I really do understand what you're going through and I will be more than happy to talk to you via PM's about this. You shouldn't keep it bottled up, you have to let it out sometime and to just one person makes a difference. Been there - done that.

Now as far as my advice to you. Make some changes. Get your hair cut differently, get your teeth whitened, get a tan. Just make some changes to your body. It'll make you feel a little bit better. Get proud of yourself! Dress in some nicer clothes and go to a nice restaurant with a good friend. Don't hide in your room and shrink. Get someone to workout with you. They'll keep you motivated and on track! Start planning things and occupy your time!!!!! DON'T SIT AROUND! Make something of yourself!

I only tell you this because I've been through it. This is what made a difference for me. It's only been 3 months and I'm doing alot better. It will take time. I'm dating around some and with time you should do the same. Get in the gym and make a new you. Hold your head up and stay proud. You've been there to help me in my threads so I'm returning the favor. PM me if you like. Take it easy.

Chris

 

[The_Chemist]

No phucking way!!!! Get a hold of yourself. You go put your schedule of shots together. Write out a new training split, get in the gym and quit whinning on the board. You will be over this mania in 2 weeks. You can certainly get to the other side of 2 weeks can't you? The whole mess will work itself out one way or the other so just put your head down and plough forward. Nothing feels better than being on and nothing is more depressing than coming off. SO YOU STAY ON. I ain't playin with you, get back on schedule. RIGHT NOW! Go get a syringe out and get to work. And don't bring your sorry ass back here until you do.

LOL...this is why I check the boards at midnight when ive got nothing else to do. Funny shit ulter!

 

[alltraps]

Muwilem do alltraps Ulter, domyslilem ssie ze muwi po polsku bo flage ma polska

nie polka, canadyjka. korwa popierdolona.

im still undecided on what i am giong to do. i dontwant to shrink, which is what i am doing and im on a lot of shit, icant imagine what would happen if i stopped completely. but for some reason, size and training doesnt matter to me right now. she matters, and thats all i cant think of. i try to block her out, think of other interests like my car, training, poker etc, but it all somehow loops back to her. she was such a big part of my life that everything i did, she was involved in. when i go to the gym, im scared shitless to see her there, as she trains there too. i know she went there once this week, and saw my car in the parking lot, she didnt go in. she said she saw me walking out and started to cry her eyes out. the thing that keeps me fucked is that i have hope, she gives me hope. she knows im the one, and wants to work things out, but a part of her sais we cant get past what happened, no matter what we do. i just feel like thats her runing away, while i was willing to do anything. i know its not the end of the world, and things like the tsunami disaster make me feel like a fucking retard for being like this. but its my life here, and it feels like its taken away from me. i make no sence here, but im really depressed about this, i wish i could just take a magical pill to get over this, to be strong, and confident and secure and rational. somone please invent one. i will pay millions just for one dose.

 

[courtneybcca]

Your first love is always the hardest one to get over but believe me you will. You need to distract yourself right now. Be around friends if you can go on vacation or just do some new or different things... Do whatever it takes to get your mind off of her for even a moment. Once you are able to do this for a few seconds the next time will be a minute etc.. and it will just get better. I know it feels like your life is over but IT ISN'T.. Whatever happened to break you guys up happened for a reason now it is time to move on. My first love I really never got over.... So no one can really give you a time limit.... I know in my situation that I will always have a love for him I just know we are not meant to be together.... NOW turn that frown upside down and go do something to distract yourself!!!

 

[H_T_]

i feel for you bro, what you are going thru is one of the most miserable experiences a human being can have. i bet that 90% of the people here have had a similar experience, and i'm not trying to minimize what's happening to you. i'm jus putting it in perspective that the fact is it happens to anyone who extends his/herself to another person by developing those kind of emotions. jus hang in there, time is on your side.

 

[bw1]

i wish i could just take a magical pill to get over this, to be strong, and confident and secure and rational.

The magic is in you bro. Take car of yourself.

 

[sigmund]

I really feel for you alltraps. The exact same thing happened to me 3 months ago. My girlfriend and I had been together for years and talked about marriage. This is the woman I planned on getting old and having my kids with! It's been the most painful experience of my entire life and am afraid to get attached to someone now because of it. I really do understand what you're going through and I will be more than happy to talk to you via PM's about this. You shouldn't keep it bottled up, you have to let it out sometime and to just one person makes a difference. Been there - done that.

Now as far as my advice to you. Make some changes. Get your hair cut differently, get your teeth whitened, get a tan. Just make some changes to your body. It'll make you feel a little bit better. Get proud of yourself! Dress in some nicer clothes and go to a nice restaurant with a good friend. Don't hide in your room and shrink. Get someone to workout with you. They'll keep you motivated and on track! Start planning things and occupy your time!!!!! DON'T SIT AROUND! Make something of yourself!

I only tell you this because I've been through it. This is what made a difference for me. It's only been 3 months and I'm doing alot better. It will take time. I'm dating around some and with time you should do the same. Get in the gym and make a new you. Hold your head up and stay proud. You've been there to help me in my threads so I'm returning the favor. PM me if you like. Take it easy.

Chris

Great advice. I've been through it too and was PCT (on clomid) at the time, that was a real fucker but as khemix states don't sit around thinking it over and over, get out and look after yourself. Make some changes and move on to the next chapter.

There's some real solid supportive bro's on here, it's good to see that. If you'd like to send me a PM to talk things over feel free - this sort of things happens to the best of us. Head-up mate

 

[MichaelMacGyver]

Dude, We all went through it. Its tuff but it all works out. One day you will meet the right one. Other people can't make you happy, only you can make yourself happy. Focus on your goals. Take some time, get some direction, and get back at it.
Good luck bro.

 

[alltraps]

i wake up every morning, after only a few hours of sleep, and my heart beats so fast and hard.

 

[Mavy]

Fuck dood .. I know where you are coming from. Its freakin true what they say bro. Girls fall faster ... but guys fall harder!

If there is one thing I can teach you bro ... its that life is truely nothing more than a series of ups and downs! Thats it. One minute you are up, next you are down. The series just repeats throughout life bro. I went through what you are going through now about 3 yrs ago. It was my first girl, we were together about 3.5 years, and it ended. It was the most devasting thing to ever happen to me, and I never thought that I would get over it. Finally a year later I started to get over it ..then I lost my sister to a drunk driver. Completely devasted again, just after I started to get my life back on track. When I started to come around, I found more problems with work and my health, and then girls again. What I am trying to get at .. is that you are more than likely going to run into the kind of heartache again bro sometime in your life. The first time it happens is the worst, but you get better at dealing with things, and learn from it each time.

Now with your girl .. you two are freshly broken up! You have to find out if you are REALLY done for good or not. My mistake was I kept trying to patch things up for about a year it dragged on .. till I finally realised that I was more miserable when I was with her, becasue things were never the same agian. Its just a big graph bro. You are at the bottom right now, but it will rise again. Once you know that its done .. my advice is .. you must REALIZE this ... and move on ASAP.

Its hard as fuck bro, I know, but you have to look at the shit you DO HAVE. Family, friends, health. One thing that happened to me, is that I realised a lot of things that I STOPPED doing because of my girl. I stopped going snowboarding with my friends and mountain biking, and stuff like that .. and I started to get back into it. Hang out with some good friends to keep your mind off it. Blow off some steam however you need to. I was a mess, I ended up getting pretty wasted many of nights, which didnt really help my situation, but it felt theraputic to me at the same time, lol. Spend some time with your family bro. Take them out for a nice brunch somewhere or something. You will really start to appreciate them more in times like this.

Now as far your timing goes. It seems that you are caught with your pants down, being mid-cycle and all. If you do come off, you can experience a very shitty crash, (which could be 10 fold given the state that you are in). You have to realise this if you plan to come off. I would tend to agree with people here, in that coming off could be a bad idea right now.

Remember this .. "Confidence is the key to success". That goes for everything in life. From work, to girls, to wealth, you name it. YOu just have to get a grip on the big picture here. Realise that she is more than likely going through the same hell you are right now. I was a piece of shit for a long time, then I turned it around as others suggested. Started hitting the gym HARD. Probably the best in my life! I did a complete 360. Started eating great, resting, started looking and feeling good. Started to get some of my confidence back. Spent lots of time with my family and friends. Even spent some time with my grandfather and people like that who I normally dont spend time with. You will come around bro, I have no doubt about that. Its just a matter of when you decide to get your shit together, and get on with life. You can drag this on for years if you want. But one thing I have learned is that ... the sooner you realise things are done ... the sooner you can move on.

Something that you probalby dont want to here is this ... YOur first girl that you really love, is a hard one to forget. I admitt... I still think about mine, and we still talk, and I still have feelings for her. But not in that sense. I would never go back to her. Its just that she was such a big part of my life at one time, its hard to just forget that. I have been through many girls since that, and have found another amazing one now. Dont worry bro. And dont think what a lot of folks think... "I am too old to be single again". Not the case at all bro. Have fun with it. You will start meeting some really cool people. But like I say .. you have to realise this, and start getting over things first. Some people can do this faster than others. Good luck to ya bro, and do what ya gotta do to get through this. Go over to Needsize's house and beat on him for a while. Might blow some steam off for ya! lol. I agree what was mentioned earlier that the worse thing that you can do is live inside your head bro. Your thoughts will be the end of you. I am my own worst enemey in this sense. Get out and do some things bro and have some fun.

Good luck,
Mavy