Should I send this to the ex?

[Lestat]

Look, Brian...

If you've explained to her how you feel and she still doesn't want to get back together, then it's pretty much over. You can hold out hope that she might change her mind, but that is unlikely at this point. She has moved on, you should probably do the same. There are women everywhere, I have no doubts that you can find another woman who makes you happy.

Trust me on this, holmes....

Move on, it's for your own betterment, you cannot live in the past.

DIV

Yeah... I did explain how I felt the first week after the breakup.. that was 4 months ago now.

I think all these feelings are resurfacing now because I've somehow got it into my head that she could somehow have changed her mind... I was doing really well for a stretch of time...

 

[strangebrew]

I say send it. I'm serious. I think it will actually help you get over her faster. You just need some damn closure.



DO IT.

 

[DIVISION]

Yeah... I did explain how I felt the first week after the breakup.. that was 4 months ago now.

I think all these feelings are resurfacing now because I've somehow got it into my head that she could somehow have changed her mind... I was doing really well for a stretch of time...

I think for your own well being you need to move on, Brian.

Tormenting yourself over the past and second guessing yourself will not help. She's gone, bro. Move on and find another woman; you're in San Diego, right? Surely you can find a woman that is to your liking, nugga.

DIV

 

[strangebrew]

You guys can tell him to move on all you like, it's not gonna help anything. Clearly he's not over it. The fastest way to recovery is gonna come through more rejection.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Don't do it, man. I'll kill your ass if you do. Nothing good can come of it.



It was probably good for you to write that stuff down, but don't send it to her.

yeah i probably agree with this guy but if you feel so strongly and need to send it, i say send it, but then if rejected and things dont work out you CAN NOT!!!! send anything like it again or even speak to ehr or see her anymore, simply because then youd be a stalker.

 

[Becoming]

You guys can tell him to move on all you like, it's not gonna help anything. Clearly he's not over it. The fastest way to recovery is gonna come through more rejection.

If ths keeps up any longer we might have to go that route...

 

[DIVISION]

If ths keeps up any longer we might have to go that route...

That's just fucking sad.

@ Brian, for your own self-respect, you've got to move on. You owe it to yourself.

@ Becoming, do you really think more rejection is the only way he will realize it's over?

What will it take, nugga?

DIV

 

[strongsmartsexy]

Brian, dude. Just walk away. Your heart has been through enough heartache with her than it ever should. You can piss up a rope all you want but it's still going to come dripping back down on you.

 

[Becoming]

@ Becoming, do you really think more rejection is the only way he will realize it's over?

No - actually if he is really that resiliant about it, it might not even settle in then either...

Honestly I don't think anybody can help him with this.... It is something he has to do on his own...

(Lestat bro - not meaning to be talking about you like you are not here)

 

[Gigantasor]

Yeah... I did explain how I felt the first week after the breakup.. that was 4 months ago now.

I think all these feelings are resurfacing now because I've somehow got it into my head that she could somehow have changed her mind... I was doing really well for a stretch of time...

What exactly is it that you are missing so bad? I know you said quite a bit in your letter but what is it that is driving you to be a complete bovine?

This is a simple situation with a simple resolution. MOVE ON. It's over and for a reason. True people change thier minds but a very simple rule is that if a person does it once they will do it again. Your setting yourself up for another fall doing what your doing.

What happens if somehow you do convince her that she made a mistake? What, three, six, nine months down the road when it all goes south again how are you going to feal? I'm willing to bet my horse that you would take it a lot harder the second time and it would not be nearly as clean.

My point is that, as I said earlier, it's over for a reason. Let it go. Sure there is the remote chance that you could get back togeter, have kids and live happily ever after. Elvis could still be alive too.

Move on man. If you need absolute closure there is alwasy the spork option though.

gig