Should I send this to the ex?

[alien amp pharm]

Don't worry I'm not going to actually call, but the more pissed I become the easier it is on me to get over her. Plus I'm realizing all the shit she put me thru and how selfish she really was/is.

 

[DIVISION]

Don't worry I'm not going to actually call, but the more pissed I become the easier it is on me to get over her. Plus I'm realizing all the shit she put me thru and how selfish she really was/is.

It's too bad you didn't realize this when you were actually with her in the beginning. You could have saved yourself alot of drama and heartache....

DIV

 

[Raina]

Me thinking that way and leaving a vmail for my ex resulted in us spending 3-4 really hard months of working through all of the shit from the past. I mean everything. It changed everything. Things weren't like they used to be, but they were better and more comfy. Now it's 2+ years later and our wedding is next Friday.

 

[DIVISION]

Me thinking that way and leaving a vmail for my ex resulted in us spending 3-4 really hard months of working through all of the shit from the past. I mean everything. It changed everything. Things weren't like they used to be, but they were better and more comfy. Now it's 2+ years later and our wedding is next Friday.

I'm happy for you, Raina.

That's great that there's a success story among the ruins of relationships.

I sincerely hope things work out for you in your marriage.....

DIV

 

[alien amp pharm]

Me thinking that way and leaving a vmail for my ex resulted in us spending 3-4 really hard months of working through all of the shit from the past. I mean everything. It changed everything. Things weren't like they used to be, but they were better and more comfy. Now it's 2+ years later and our wedding is next Friday.

How long after the breakup did you send the email?

 

[Lestat]

I think a lot of it is the wanting what I can't have factor.

There are very few things in my life that I do not control... I've accomplished a great deal, I set goals all the time and achieve them, I enjoy challenges...

now I am not looking at her as a challenge, but I think that is playing a big factor... I want to be able to succeed for the sake of succeeding.. If you would have asked me 8 months ago how serious I was, I would have said I had a cool chick, but I'm not sure exactly where things will end up... if you would have asked me what a breakup would do to me, I would have said it wouldn't be happy, but I'd be over it quick.

I'm really surprised at myself at how much this is fucking with me, really. Its never happened before.

I appreciate everyone's responses, I say this all the time, but it helps.

I agree that in some respect, sending the letter, and then getting a flat out rejection or no response might be what I need to move on.. but like Becoming has said, I should be able to move on myself, I don't need her to continually slap me down, she's done it once or twice already... I'm a grown man, I'm an intelligent guy, I should be able to take a hint, I can read the writing on the wall, I KNOW what I need to do I KNOW what is best....

I just can't get her out of my fucking head.

 

[DIVISION]

I'm really surprised at myself at how much this is fucking with me, really. Its never happened before.

I appreciate everyone's responses, I say this all the time, but it helps.

I agree that in some respect, sending the letter, and then getting a flat out rejection or no response might be what I need to move on.. but like Becoming has said, I should be able to move on myself, I don't need her to continually slap me down, she's done it once or twice already... I'm a grown man, I'm an intelligent guy, I should be able to take a hint, I can read the writing on the wall, I KNOW what I need to do I KNOW what is best....

I just can't get her out of my fucking head.

Brian......tell me something, bro.

Looking back at the times you shared with her and the feelings you had for her, was she really all that and a bag of chips?

Was she really that great?

DIV

 

[Raina]

How long after the breakup did you send the email?

It wasn't an email it was just a vmail that said that I didn't feel closure and still had unresolved feelings and wanted to go out to dinner or something just to talk things through. I'd kicked him out of our apartment and we hadn't seen each other at all in 4 months.

No regrets on it at all. We needed to break up. He needed to know that there was some BS in his life that I just didn't want in mine. I needed to sort out what I wanted. He needed to sort out what he wanted. But we couldn't have done that had we even been on speaking terms. We both would have sworn that we'd never see each other again.

Now things are amazing and peaceful....though counselling has helped with that along with a lot of sincere and difficult talks.

 

[alien amp pharm]

It wasn't an email it was just a vmail that said that I didn't feel closure and still had unresolved feelings and wanted to go out to dinner or something just to talk things through. I'd kicked him out of our apartment and we hadn't seen each other at all in 4 months.

No regrets on it at all. We needed to break up. He needed to know that there was some BS in his life that I just didn't want in mine. I needed to sort out what I wanted. He needed to sort out what he wanted. But we couldn't have done that had we even been on speaking terms. We both would have sworn that we'd never see each other again.

Now things are amazing and peaceful....though counselling has helped with that along with a lot of sincere and difficult talks.

Great story. Good luck in the marriage.

 

[awittyusername]

I thought this was an old thread