Revenge

[ponyfitness]

If someone screwed up your life and made it a living hell for a long time, and then you found yourself with the opportunity to gain revenge and destroy theirs a few years later, would you? Would you take the opportunity to crumple up a life like so much paper and set it on fire?

Or have you ever? I am having a tough time just letting this one go.

 

[PBR]

describe...perhaps what you deem as a life altering situation, may not be.

what happened???...

 

[ponyfitness]

Cliff notes version:

- Ex decided to stalk me, break into my computer and messed up a really good relationship of mine through lies and crazy crap. She always swore it wasn't her but it was.
- When in town on business a couple of years ago, we had sex while she was in a relationship with another guy (I was single). She also told me about another guy she was seeing on the side.
- They recently got engaged (the guy she was with when she had sex with me). I know his email address.

I always swore to myself after what she did (that's the short version) if I had the chance to destroy a relationship of hers, I would. When she's the happiest seems like the appropriate time.

 

[cboogsrun]

Tough one bro. I would imagine the dude who is going to marry her would like to know she's a cheater. I would want to know before I was about to get married.

 

[Cutiebaby]

Let it die.
The bitterness and anger over it all is not good for you mentally,emotionally, nor physically.
She will "get hers" in due time and not by your hands!

 

[heatherrae]

I would bet my bottom dollar that she will destroy that relationship on her own. She will also have to live with what she did to you. Seeing you happy and oblivious to her would be the best revenge you could dish out to her. Ruin her relationship and the burden switches to you, and she gets the satisfaction of knowing that she got to you.

By the way, I can fully relate. I was in a situation recently that I could have retaliated against someone. Instead I called a wise friend to talk it out and decided that life was dealing my enemy blows without me needing to intervene.

Remember karma really is a bitch, sometimes.

 

[KillahBee]

It all depends. I'm all for an eye for an eye, but it depends on the incident. How did they ruin your life and more importantly, how much was in your control and what wrong moves did you make along the way?

 

[Cutiebaby]

Let it die.
The bitterness and anger over it all is not good for you mentally,emotionally, nor physically.
She will "get hers" in due time and not by your hands!

 

[KillahBee]

Cliff notes version:

- Ex decided to stalk me, break into my computer and messed up a really good relationship of mine through lies and crazy crap. She always swore it wasn't her but it was.
- When in town on business a couple of years ago, we had sex while she was in a relationship with another guy (I was single). She also told me about another guy she was seeing on the side.
- They recently got engaged (the guy she was with when she had sex with me). I know his email address.

I always swore to myself after what she did (that's the short version) if I had the chance to destroy a relationship of hers, I would. When she's the happiest seems like the appropriate time.

Oh, I missed this post. Let it go. You were also at fault for being blind to all of this and let yourself get played. Live and learn. Just the fact that you are thinking about her now shows she is pwning you and that is not a good place to be. If you put all this time, effort and attention into her, it just makes you look like a sad chump.

Find a better girl. The best revenge is living a great life.

 

[rykertest]

it sounds like she will screw it up on her own but consider this. You don't have to actually tell anyone but her. You could tell her that you have his email addy, and that payback is a B**** but then never do anything. lol Let her just sweat and scramble and scheme. The best revenge can sometimes be the one that never comes.

 

[Turd Ferguson]

we reap what we sew. Don't sink to her level. Your better than that.

 

[gotmilk]

Not worth it. Let trash sit and rot.

She'll probably cheat on him later on.

I had a chance to blast an ex when I bumped into her at a college reunion. She was sitting with her parents at the time and said something sarcastic as I walked by. This is the one who got really drunk one night, cheated on me, and became pregnant.

Anyhow...as much as I wanted to rip her in front of her parents, I realized she had never lost her fat from pregnancy, she lived in a situation that was not her goal in life, and her husband looked like he wore a mullet in his youth.

oh...and don't have sexes with exes unless your goal is to splooge in her eye and give her an eye infection.

 

[gonelifting]

I agree with not doing it. Fuck her, just forget about her. Move on.


Having said that, I too can not get over the fact my house was robbed of $25,000 worth of shit. The guy is now in jail which makes me feel better but I still want to 'fuck him up' the day he gets out. Not that I would do it, but I WANT TO so badly. Shit he took is gone forever. Shit that can't be replaced and he's probably forgotten about it already. Can't get over it, but do I want to stoop down to his level? That's the question we both should ask ourselves.

This happened to me over a year ago, but I'm still upset about it. Honestly, the most important thing is the $7000 engagement ring he took(among other things) but that ring, my wife cherished.

I may feel better watching him hurting... on the floor... begging... bleeding... or maybe not. Tough decision. I have 5 years or so to think about it. Hope he has a boyfriend in jail.

good luck man. imo move on if you can.

 

[Smurfy]

Oh, I missed this post. Let it go. You were also at fault for being blind to all of this and let yourself get played. Live and learn. Just the fact that you are thinking about her now shows she is pwning you and that is not a good place to be. If you put all this time, effort and attention into her, it just makes you look like a sad chump.

Find a better girl. The best revenge is living a great life.

TITCR

 

[Wulfgar]

revenge is never worth it

 

[digimon7068]

if i was doing something that i wasn't supposed to be doing, and this other person led to my downfall?? dems da breaks. . .don't play if you can't pay.

if someone fucked me as a result of my kindness and willingness to give everyone the benefit of the doubt?? yes. . .absolutely. . .i would fuck them TWICE AS BAD as they fucked me. . .karma's a bitch. . .

 

[jackangel]

think it will bring you lasting satisfaction after all is said and done?

 

[digimon7068]

think it will bring you lasting satisfaction after all is said and done?

it has. . .

 

[velvett]

I had a chance to blast an ex when I bumped into her at a college reunion. She was sitting with her parents at the time and said something sarcastic as I walked by. This is the one who got really drunk one night, cheated on me, and became pregnant.

Anyhow...as much as I wanted to rip her in front of her parents, I realized she had never lost her fat from pregnancy, she lived in a situation that was not her goal in life, and her husband looked like he wore a mullet in his youth.

oh...and don't have sexes with exes unless your goal is to splooge in her eye and give her an eye infection.

I went through something very similiar - ah well, people can really suck sometimes.

But everyone alwqys gets theirs - eventually.

 

[biteme]

If I believed in Karma, I'd let it go. Problem is, i'm not so sure about that. So, I just might get a little revenge.

 

[jackangel]

it has. . .

revenge has a terrifying appeal to it. i've never been in such a situation, so i'll avoid sermonizing. the nature of the shit that goes down must have everything to do with it. were you fucked over severely?

 

[manny78]

Cliff notes version:

- Ex decided to stalk me, break into my computer and messed up a really good relationship of mine through lies and crazy crap. She always swore it wasn't her but it was.
- When in town on business a couple of years ago, we had sex while she was in a relationship with another guy (I was single). She also told me about another guy she was seeing on the side.
- They recently got engaged (the guy she was with when she had sex with me). I know his email address.

I always swore to myself after what she did (that's the short version) if I had the chance to destroy a relationship of hers, I would. When she's the happiest seems like the appropriate time.

But problem is: he may not believe you and think you're just making up some story.

 

[digimon7068]

revenge has a terrifying appeal to it. i've never been in such a situation, so i'll avoid sermonizing. the nature of the shit that goes down must have everything to do with it. were you fucked over severely?

severity is in the eye of the beholder i suppose. . .everybody has a limit to the amount of bs that they'll tolerate before they retaliate. . .and with each individual it's generally a sliding scale. . .even the most christ-like among us has a bad day from time-to-time. . .that said, i've never like killed anyone or anything like that. . .nor do i walk around with a chip on my shoulder looking for a reason to start shit with someone. . .however, i do have a little something brewing with the president of one of the local sports associations. . .he was, imho, disrespectful to my little 105lb wife and that shit ain't gonna fly with me. . .he'll apologize or he'll pay. . .then i'll sleep better. . .very simple. . .