O/t Very Depressed Just Broke Up With My Fiance Of Five Years

[ripped103]

this is the hardest thing ive done in my whole life.im not really sure if we made the right decision.i love her very much but the spark is no longer there.we discussed it today and she decided to pack up and move out.she is a good girl and dont want too lose contact with her even if we are just friends.please give me some advice here.thanks

 

[Sofa King Big]

ripped, I know what you are going through.

Exactly, actually.

All I can tell you is follow your heart, think about the times you've shared, THINK about this LONG AND HARD. Are you ever going to find anyone as good as she is?? THINK ! Good luck. Let us know what happens my friend.

 

[M.O.D]

this is the hardest thing ive done in my whole life.im not really sure if we made the right decision.i love her very much but the spark is no longer there.we discussed it today and she decided to pack up and move out.she is a good girl and dont want too lose contact with her even if we are just friends.please give me some advice here.thanks

are you positive the spark is gone? cuz i went through the same shit with my x...i broke up with her for the same reason only to find out i was wrong....better make sure my friend cuz that grass isnt always greener on the other side

 

[harpoon]

yo bro....first of all sorry man.....you're girls with me..nah but really if the sparks gone...shit ..u gotta let her go....my folks got divorced and lemme tell ya thats the worst thing in the world. its hard as hell to get over a girl you love/loved, but you gotta do what you gotta do man. good luck and keep ya head up
there's plenty out there

 

[bstone]

I agree, be sure, but if it doesn't feel right chances are it may not be right. You know the saying man, "if it is meant to be it will happen." Very true. This may be the best thing that you could have done for one another. If she moves out and you both have a chance to be around other people and then decide that you want to get back together, you will probably be even closer then you were in the first place.
The only real advice that I can give you is, don't let your dick run your life. If you don't let her go just because you can't bear the thought of her being around other guys or you not having steady ass, let it go.
I am going through the exact same thing right now (girlfriend of 2.5 years) myself. I understand that this is not easy advice to follow but it may be the right thing.

Good luck to us both.

 

[Zyglamail]

Relationships are just like body building bro, they need to be worked at or they will wither, use it or lose it. The spark is gone because you failed to work at keeping it going. Maybe you, maybe her, but usually one little thing leads to another and people drift apart. If ya truely love her and she is willing to give it a whirl, seek the help of a professional SBT counselor. P.S. SBT = solution based therapy.

Here are a couple links that may interest you.

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
http://www.weiner-davis.com/

Granted, these are geared towards married people, but hell you were engaged, its worth a shot. If you loved each other and things failed its for a reason, something that was missing, if you dont learn now you will just continue to fail. I have been down your road and had a 7 year marriage go down the drain.

 

[Michael Jones]

If it is over the best thing that you can do for you is to give yourself some time from her. Don't go to see her or let her come see you. I know this might sound a bit harsh but I went through the same thing a few years back and it was alot better to not see her and get use to her not being around for a while before I saw her again. When I did see her it didn't hurt as much as I thought it would. Stay up Bro.

 

[Johnny V]

Sorry to hear that Bro. I say take some time go out and do not do anything stupid to try and forget about it (like drinking too much or sleeping around). Give it time, the spark often comes back but remember there is a big difference between the spark being there and you just being "comfortable" with each other.....

God bless

 

[ultragainz]

hug her and tell her you love her still if you want to be with her....hey it could work

 

[Victor]

I broke with my fiancee 15 days ago also ...we were together for almost 3 years ....I loved her so much ....but she has done some things that made me start to hate her ( no, she did not cheat on me ) .....she is not the girl I thought she was .....it is hard bro but we gotta move on ...... I am 21 ...I am sure I will meet even better girls ....I dunno about you but I am 100 x more motivated to workout since I broke with her .....I am even afraid I am beeing a crazy fucker .....all I care now is bodybuiliding and training and diet .....I am even selling some of my stuff to get my HGH .....


we gotta move on bro ....life is a bitch sometimes ., the pain is so terrible ( I mean the pain that we feel when we lose some one we love so much ) ...but we must move on ......


Victor