No gift when told not to bring one - bad form?

[ponyfitness]

Went to a reception for a friend tonight. Him and his girlfriend got married away from everyone here at home and decided that they were going to hold a reception just to celebrate with everyone here as well. When I hung out with him a couple of months prior he made a point of saying - no gifts.

So I got there, I brought a card (of course) but everyone else seemed to have either brought a gift or a card with cash as per usual at a wedding.

Mind that this was a night reception, no dinner, however it was an open bar which I did not drink at because I have to work tomorrow morning and it was a 45 minute drive home from the reception.

I'm thinking he told me no gifts plus usually your gift is basically a way to pay for your dinner at a regular wedding. Still, I feel a little guilty for some reason. Bad form?

 

[puddlemonkey]

Suicide is the only way out

 

[bigmann245]

i always bring a gift even though they say no. its their way of being modest. nobody is going to tell you to bring a gift its kinda a given.

 

[samoth]

I abhor stupid highschool games and modesty crap like this. If someone invites me to an event and says, "Don't do x", then I don't do it.

The world is a very confusing place...

 

[jackangel]

never listen to samoth's advice or opinions on such things. ever.

he's actually a level 7 mountain troll posting from a wired cave.

 

[jack sparrow]

never listen to samoth's advice or opinions on such things. ever.

he's actually a level 7 mountain troll posting from a wired cave.

lmao

 

[jackangel]

jack, dude, what happened to that NYC meetup? i waxed my balls and everything.

 

[jack sparrow]

jack, dude, what happened to that NYC meetup? i waxed my balls and everything.

I got shanghaied in Canada dude. I should be able to make it out there before it snows, so keep them balls waxed.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Went to a reception for a friend tonight. Him and his girlfriend got married away from everyone here at home and decided that they were going to hold a reception just to celebrate with everyone here as well. When I hung out with him a couple of months prior he made a point of saying - no gifts.

So I got there, I brought a card (of course) but everyone else seemed to have either brought a gift or a card with cash as per usual at a wedding.

Mind that this was a night reception, no dinner, however it was an open bar which I did not drink at because I have to work tomorrow morning and it was a 45 minute drive home from the reception.

I'm thinking he told me no gifts plus usually your gift is basically a way to pay for your dinner at a regular wedding. Still, I feel a little guilty for some reason. Bad form?

Don't they have (online) gift registry? Best way to go, and you can leave a gift message as a card. (Everybody throws their cards away anyways, no point in spending money on them).

 

[FriendlyCanadian]

I got shanghaied in Canada dude. I should be able to make it out there before it snows, so keep them balls waxed.

where in Canada are you broseph?