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My boyfriend is getting fat........
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roidog420
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Let me say this about that there...........All I know is that if wanting to be happy & turned on by the person that you roll over in your sleep & see every night(or in your case, 2 nights per week or whatever) makes you a selfish, superficial person, then SO BE IT!! I always say that you ONLY LIVE ONCE, and if your wasting that time being unsatisfied, or unhappy, then that has GOT to be worse than sitting around wondering if your gonna hurt someone's feelings by telling them that they aren't doing it for you anymore. Sometimes you just HAVE TO BE SELFISH, and say fuck all to what other people are going to think and feel(including your boyfriend), and take care of YOUR needs. Personally, I dont have time to worry about how my descisions in my life are going to make other people feel. Im too busy worrying about what makes ME happy! Get the point BFL?! Good Luck
I married a woman who is just as insecure with her body as I am mine. We are constantly talking about our next diet-training whatever. When I diet down, she diets down---when I go off my diet, party, booze it up whatever-she does the same. I couldn't imagine being with someone that doesn't have the same interest in my lifestyle(which takes up most of our time)--
I have friends that workout and there girlfriends don't. It becomes a problem with some because the girl feels that she is not getting his full attention. Or that he is in the gym to much.
Ifhe is fat now---and no interest in working out---think about where he will be in 5 years----My guess is if you did leave him at one point because of this(which I know you already said you wouldn't) it would be a bad breakup and this guy will be in a gym when he is single. You see it all the time.
If you can't be truthful with him now about the way you feel. It will only get worse. Forget about hurting his feelings--just do it--trust me he would rather have you do it now then run off with someone down the road because there was no communication. peace
aaf
We are constantly talking about our next diet-training whatever. When I diet down, she diets down---when I go off my diet, party, booze it up whatever-she does the same. I couldn't imagine being with someone that doesn't have the same interest in my lifestyle(which takes up most of our time)--I have friends that workout and there girlfriends don't. It becomes a problem with some because the girl feels that she is not getting his full attention. Or that he is in the gym to much.
Ifhe is fat now---and no interest in working out---think about where he will be in 5 years----My guess is if you did leave him at one point because of this(which I know you already said you wouldn't) it would be a bad breakup and this guy will be in a gym when he is single. You see it all the time.
If you can't be truthful with him now about the way you feel. It will only get worse. Forget about hurting his feelings--just do it--trust me he would rather have you do it now then run off with someone down the road because there was no communication. peace
aaf
strongchick
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Frackal said:
post a pic of your dick...wait, that's okay, I've heard.
strongchick
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PsychoSkitz said:
Tell my diet that, and I'd gain ten pounds of fat.
been reading your posts about you and your boyfriend. Before you have a hard talk to him about his (lack of interest) in working out. Maybe look at his side. YOu have made working out and eating right a life style change. And from what i have been reading you would like him to make the same commitment as well. Maybe you should start slower. How about making him a health tasty meal not trying to be sexist but you have to start somewere. And maybe a long walk afterward. Walking together can be romantic and have some excerise benefits. I allot of the people on this board have opinions about your relationship you have to decide if you want to make it work.. The issue of exercising or not might be underlining a more serious problem you are having with the notion of staying with him or not. Hey it is just one more opinion from someone you have never met so take it for what it is worth.
dirkpitt51
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hey jen,
did you ever think about why you gained 70 lbs while you were dating this guy? He's about as healthy to hang out with as a cancer stick (that's a cigarette to all you smokers).
Also, if you were so happy with him, how did the depression set in along with the weight? I think he's the problem. Get rid of him and see how you feel after 3 or 4 months. I'm betting it'll be the best thing you ever did. If not, he'll probably still be single if you want to get back together with him.
hey jen,
did you ever think about why you gained 70 lbs while you were dating this guy? He's about as healthy to hang out with as a cancer stick (that's a cigarette to all you smokers).
Also, if you were so happy with him, how did the depression set in along with the weight? I think he's the problem. Get rid of him and see how you feel after 3 or 4 months. I'm betting it'll be the best thing you ever did. If not, he'll probably still be single if you want to get back together with him.
cure
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Leaving him will not change his eating habits or lifestyle but probably put him in the hole even more. Don't let yourself suffer but what i would do is take him out and play some sports or do some activity which might show him that he can't keep up with his woman. For some men that is really demoralizing.
Also, i'm a computer geek with a degree in multimedia but that still doesn't stop me from being in a gym 3 days a week, eating properly and being in better shape than any one in my company. I'm at the gym at 7:00AM. It's all about motivation.
Good Luck!
Also, i'm a computer geek with a degree in multimedia but that still doesn't stop me from being in a gym 3 days a week, eating properly and being in better shape than any one in my company. I'm at the gym at 7:00AM. It's all about motivation.
Good Luck!
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