More people Divorced then Married...

[foreigngirl]

People started orienting into thinking "me, me, me" instead of "us" as a union.

I dont know what to say. As you get older and you havent married yet, you start dissecting everything about the person that you are seeing and cant decide to get married because they dont want anyone intruding in the lifestyle they have or they are scared that they wont be able to adjust to each other. Then they get too old, craving for a companion to grow old with, but the chances get slimmer. People usually get married very young and do not know what they are getting into, they do not know the level of commitment its required, to them it seems its like bf/gf living together and mommy/daddy are gonna be there to get them out of shit every time. Women way too young then have children, which a lot of the time makes them feel as if they are imprisoned are start rebelling against it. Guys, on the other hand, dont want to do it because if shit happens, they want an easy way out - out of the door.

This is only from I have observed around me. I dont like generalizing everyone.

 

[bigmann245]

People started orienting into thinking "me, me, me" instead of "us" as a union.

I dont know what to say. As you get older and you havent married yet, you start dissecting everything about the person that you are seeing and cant decide to get married because they dont want anyone intruding in the lifestyle they have or they are scared that they wont be able to adjust to each other. Then they get too old, craving for a companion to grow old with, but the chances get slimmer. People usually get married very young and do not know what they are getting into, they do not know the level of commitment its required, to them it seems its like bf/gf living together and mommy/daddy are gonna be there to get them out of shit every time. Women way too young then have children, which a lot of the time makes them feel as if they are imprisoned are start rebelling against it. Guys, on the other hand, dont want to do it because if shit happens, they want an easy way out - out of the door.

This is only from I have observed around me. I dont like generalizing everyone.

true... its natural for a human being to focus on the good in someone and forget the bad. ever hear your friend tell you to leave your BF or GF??? they see the bad while you dont. most people shrug off their friends in fear they will lose the guy/girl to someone else.

 

[Forge]

The reason divorce is so prevalent today is the same reason why so many people are obese and out of shape: they don’t want to put forth the effort. They don’t want to put in the work. It’s too hard, it’s not what I want to do. They want the perfect body and the great abs, but they want it NOW and without the effort. Give me a pill to work the fat off, the hell with moving those weights around.

It’s the same with relationships. I see so many couples argue and fight over stupid things, but they never settle it. No one is willing to give something up for the other, no one wants to try, no one wants to actually think about changing themselves for the other person. They want it their way or it’s lawyer time. Because sometimes divorce is just easier than marriage. It’s the path of least resistance, it’s the easier and more attractive road for the selfish and the stubborn. The work it would take to fix things is just too hard, I don’t want to do it…

Most people are just soft and lazy in life today. It’s sad.

 

[foreigngirl]

true... its natural for a human being to focus on the good in someone and forget the bad. ever hear your friend tell you to leave your BF or GF??? they see the bad while you dont. most people shrug off their friends in fear they will lose the guy/girl to someone else.

True that. But I have seen a married couple for 10 years and 3 children, and the wife, after she just met me, started complaining about her husband. And I mean talking real smack! Maybe she was caught in between hers and her husbands culture (she is white american and he is muslim arab) and didnt know how to deal with it...I dont know. So she didnt seam to be able to see her husbands good sides, even after being together for so long

 

[Spartacus]

It was a big deal to hear of a divorce where I grew up. It's different in the city though. I love how people scoff and roll their eyes when someone says society is deteriorating but the proof is all around us. Few people seem concerned. Just "roll with it." Sad.

our biology doesn't support marriage

 

[bigmann245]

our biology doesn't support marriage

sadly this is true. marriage is something we as humans made up. people got married way before the bible so dont tell me it was gods wishes. marriage is what keeps the children growing up in a nurturing environment. statistics show that most kids that dont have both parents living in the same house develope with emotional and or mental problems. i studied this in college because i wanted to save my marriage. i had to do research upon research and write a buttload of papers on marriage and family structure. it tought me to approach my marital problems at a different angle and our problems began to go away little by little and now we are happy again.

i took the time to see what i was doing wrong and at the same time understand my wife. it did wonders for me and i am absolutely glad i took that course.

 

[Spartacus]

somebody tell the gang about the Coolidge effect

 

[Spartacus]

When you drop a male rat into a cage with a receptive female rat, you see an initial frenzy of copulation. Then, progressively, the male tires of that particular female. Even without an apparent change in her receptivity he reaches a point where he has little libido-and simply ignores her. However, if you replace the original female with a fresh one, the male immediately revives and begins copulating again. You can repeat this process with fresh females until the rat nearly dies of exhaustion.

 

[Spartacus]

The rat's renewed vigor does not reflect an increase in his wellbeing - although it will look (and temporarily feel to him) that way. His vigor comes from surges of a neurochemical called dopamine, which flood the reward center of his primitive brain... so that he gets the job done.
In short, animals do not choose their mates randomly. They identify and reject those with whom they have already had sex. Scientists know this reflex as the "Coolidge Effect."

 

[layinback]

our biology doesn't support marriage

agreed, silver back guerillas, the lot of us. we evolved larger penis's, relative to other primates, for pair bonding but we are not biologically monogamous. monogamy is a virtue.