Men. any idea?

[myway]

If he has lied in the past about something then I can promise he is doin git again. Ill be honest he is cheatng. One of my best
friends cheats on his girls and denies it the same way he is.

I mostly agree. I think he was cheating but he has never been caught cheating before. His lies were always about other things.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

I understand that fcuked up stuff(like ur story) can happen. The problem is:
If he's afraid of getting caught and is not ready for our marriage to end... why would he ever tell me the truth? If I decide I need a confession before I'm SURE he's innocent, then he needs to just never confess. That doesn't mean he's being honest. It bothers me how he's not giving much of a reaction. It's like he realizes that I will never have any other way to find out any truth other than what he tells me.

he may not be lying about him not knowing how they got there. I am sure he is thinking in his head" I know I threw those out. How did they get in the laundry"

 

[myway]

he may not be lying about him not knowing how they got there. I am sure he is thinking in his head" I know I threw those out. How did they get in the laundry"

No. He's VERY absent minded. He's trying to figure out how he forgot to throw them out. Must have been distracted by a shiny object or something.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

From avi's it looks like the panties could belong to Bikinimom.

LMAO!!! your a mother fucker!!!!! LOL

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

My, my, he must be a real cocky fellow to just go to bed after his wife and mother of his newborn child just found another woman's panties in his laundry.

And when you say a "clean phone' do you mean the recent calls, missed calls or do you mean the actual phone bill?

If you mean the actual phone and that he clears all the incoming and outgoing messages - that is a bit odd (paranoid or devious). And since I'm rambling, what did he do in the past to make you feel that you have to check his phone?

I clean my phone every day or two, not because I am cheating but because I wanna.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

It all starts with a hug bro...then a kiss......next thing you know your playing star wars with your best friend.

Do you speak from personal experience Java?































Im fucking with ya.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

Bino,

I know you think his nonchalance is a point in his favor...I see it as the opposite. As cindy said, it's a tool of manipulation. He has a history of lying to her about contact with women, and one of the consequences of that is that in the future the burden of proof is on him, not her. In his shoes, were I innocent, I would have moved heaven and earth to prove my innocence. Not gone to bed at 8 and said, "you should just trust me." If I were innocent, I would have been sick to my stomach at the thought of my spouse sitting up all night trying to "just trust me."

No, I would have been right there with her, staying up all night trying to come up with answers.

Because you have ovaries. This is what people with ovaries do. You over think things and it causes problems. Someone doesn't have to explain something or have a good answer. is it weired? Yes it is. Did he cheat. It sure sounds like it based on past issues. Is it 100% PROOF? Nope.

 

[myway]

I clean my phone every day or two, not because I am cheating but because I wanna.

Most cops have a clean phone. It an "unknown" phone. It never enters the home. They only have it at work. They just load it into the police car with the rest of their stuff and take it back out at the end of shift. Wives don't have access to the police station locker room(phones usually kept in the locker). They deny the phones and it's hard to catch them with one. I only know about this stuff because I had several police-officer friends before I knew my hubby. I have been working with cops for over 8 years. I knew all of the tricks before he met me. It's a good and a bad thing. As far as his normal cell phone, I get the bill every month. It's sent to my email addy. It's fine.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

Exactly my point. In particular, since she's is postpregnancy she needs a little extra compassion.

Some of the people who are pointing out that maybe he's nonchalant because he knows he didn't do anything wrong have sort of missed the point you're picking up very well. He's been caught if not with his hands in the cookie jar he at least was reaching for the lid.

I wish my cookie jar wore panties like that!! Some guys have all the luck.

 

[Pat_McCrotch]

Maybe someone bought you some large red thongs as a gag gift when you were pregnant.

Stray underwear are usually a bad sign. I've been there. My boyfriend reacted in the same way your husband did. I knew he was lying and I later had real proof that he was lying. But I wasn't even 24 and I had no real emotional investment in the relationship.

This must be so hard to deal with right now. I wish the best for you and your son.

Is samooth still calling you after all this?