Married people or people in a relationship

[cindylou]

Do you hide the fact that you fight ?

When me and my H fight, we dont ever tell anyone about it. Do you try to come accross as the perfect couple in public?

If you were to have a nasty fight and people found out , would you be embarassed or felt like a failure if people knew your marriage/relationship was not as good as everyone thought it was?

ME and H got in a huge fight on Sat.night, and missed an obligation to some new friends that I just met and really liked and I just feel awful and I freaking dont want to admit or let anyone know that we fight.

and

Do you feel like their friends and family are more important than yours? The new friends were MINE and I'm pissed that it seems like its more difficult for me to maintain or make new friends because he always fucks it up for me becuase what he wants to do is more important!! Its important to me to have friends, and as many as I can because thats important to me, but he does not care and when you are a couple, people tend to want to hang out as a couple. Well fuck. He's only interested in hanging out with HIS family or his college/high school buddies and their wives which sometimes I dont always like their wives, but I try...... He always says he wants to hang out with mine, but SOMETHING always happens and we dont just as usual. UGH. We used to like the same people , but the same old people are the same old people and I want to meet NEW people and he does not and my world is SHRINKING!!!!!

Plus he broke my phone so now i cant even call and tell them i'm sorry.

Sorry. Venting. I'm sure I'm not making any sense at all.

 

[Bikini Mod]

If it is a little silly thing that just went on too long because we are under a lot of pressure, then No, I dont try to hide it. What is there to hide about a misunderstanding that ALL couples have on occasion.?

But if it is BIG, then I keep it at home until the situation is resolved. I dont put my dirty laundry out there, no.

 

[Sub-Zero]

when i get all married and grown up every friday night we will go to dinner, or a date or something, and during the date we will start going back and forth (in a constructive manner) and tell eachother everything we do, habitually, or even a small thing i did that week or she did that week, like burning my steak or me leaving piss on the seat.

we will also discuss what is expected of us in the future, for example if she made plans for me to go help her parents build a house, now is when she tells me so i can bitch at her and argue with her about it. likewise, i can tell her im going out of town on a business trip and will miss the lil guys soccer game.

every friday we will talk it out even if it turns into us fighting in the middle of a nice restourant.

then we will go home and have a mandatory fucking session no matter how mad we are at eachother.

this way the little things wont build up as much, and we will be on a very honest level and there wont be this little "whats bothering you" "oh nothing" bullshit.

i should write a book

 

[cindylou]

If it is a little silly thing that just went on too long because we are under a lot of pressure, then No, I dont try to hide it. What is there to hide about a misunderstanding that ALL couples have on occasion.?

But if it is BIG, then I keep it at home until the situation is resolved. I dont put my dirty laundry out there, no.

yeah I understand. I feel like its dirty laundry too.

 

[cindylou]

when i get all married and grown up every friday night we will go to dinner, or a date or something, and during the date we will start going back and forth (in a constructive manner) and tell eachother everything we do, habitually, or even a small thing i did that week or she did that week, like burning my steak or me leaving piss on the seat.

we will also discuss what is expected of us in the future, for example if she made plans for me to go help her parents build a house, now is when she tells me so i can bitch at her and argue with her about it. likewise, i can tell her im going out of town on a business trip and will miss the lil guys soccer game.

every friday we will talk it out even if it turns into us fighting in the middle of a nice restourant.

then we will go home and have a mandatory fucking session no matter how mad we are at eachother.

this way the little things wont build up as much, and we will be on a very honest level and there wont be this little "whats bothering you" "oh nothing" bullshit.

i should write a book

lol sounds interesting.

Thats funny how you got it all figured out.

I had never thought THAT far ahead. lol.

 

[Mickey36]

We do not hide the fact if we should have gotten into a disagreement. However, we always resolve it before we leave the argument so it is over by the time we would see anyone else and it is old news. We also made a pact in the first year of a marriage that if we got into a disagreement that we cannot resolve at the time, that if one of us calls for sex, then we have to break from the argument to have sex. Usually after, we both cave in and it doesn't matter, it works very well.

 

[jnevin]

I'll usually talk to a friend if something happened, but I don't put things out there for the world to see. The story would get passed around and by the time it got back to you, people would have it all twisted. Like, he broke your phone. By the time it got back to you, the story would be that he hit you and threw your phone at you or whatever.

Phuggit. I'm just about done with my relationship and I don't know if I was ever good at it, so just ignore me.

 

[needtogetaas]

I try not to let any guys know my wife and I ever fight....if your a guy you should no why.

 

[yonkers weights]

We try not to air it out to others but sometimes you need an outside voice to help. We each have a close friend that we talk to when things are not good. He helps me and her firend helps her. It is good to have a sounding board outside your house from time to time. Not for everything just when needed. Her friend lives far away and so does mine so that helps. Not someone we see often but each trust 100%. No awkward moments after a fight. That helps too.

He broke your phone? NOT COOL!

 

[cindylou]

I'll usually talk to a friend if something happened, but I don't put things out there for the world to see. The story would get passed around and by the time it got back to you, people would have it all twisted. Like, he broke your phone. By the time it got back to you, the story would be that he hit you and threw your phone at you or whatever.

Phuggit. I'm just about done with my relationship and I don't know if I was ever good at it, so just ignore me.

Thats exactly it! Plus somehow it would have been omitted that I threw the phone at him FIRST and they would think he was a crazy angry dude which he is not , (so how do i explain to my new friends that my hub and I got into a fight, and he broke my phone and his, and thats why we did not come over) without looking like crazies (because we are not) lol? and I cant call either?

I've lost these friends.lol.