Married people or people in a relationship

[jh1]

I try to keep private because that's what it is.

But the x always had to put everything out there for everyone to see and embarass us / herself / me.

I'm not bitter though. At all.

 

[cindylou]

We do not hide the fact if we should have gotten into a disagreement. However, we always resolve it before we leave the argument so it is over by the time we would see anyone else and it is old news. We also made a pact in the first year of a marriage that if we got into a disagreement that we cannot resolve at the time, that if one of us calls for sex, then we have to break from the argument to have sex. Usually after, we both cave in and it doesn't matter, it works very well.

I'm still pissed! lol

 

[needtogetaas]

Do you hide the fact that you fight ?

When me and my H fight, we dont ever tell anyone about it. Do you try to come accross as the perfect couple in public?

If you were to have a nasty fight and people found out , would you be embarassed or felt like a failure if people knew your marriage/relationship was not as good as everyone thought it was?

ME and H got in a huge fight on Sat.night, and missed an obligation to some new friends that I just met and really liked and I just feel awful and I freaking dont want to admit or let anyone know that we fight.

and

Do you feel like their friends and family are more important than yours? The new friends were MINE and I'm pissed that it seems like its more difficult for me to maintain or make new friends because he always fucks it up for me becuase what he wants to do is more important!! Its important to me to have friends, and as many as I can because thats important to me, but he does not care and when you are a couple, people tend to want to hang out as a couple. Well fuck. He's only interested in hanging out with HIS family or his college/high school buddies and their wives which sometimes I dont always like their wives, but I try...... He always says he wants to hang out with mine, but SOMETHING always happens and we dont just as usual. UGH. We used to like the same people , but the same old people are the same old people and I want to meet NEW people and he does not and my world is SHRINKING!!!!!

Plus he broke my phone so now i cant even call and tell them i'm sorry.

Sorry. Venting. I'm sure I'm not making any sense at all.

I think you want to be a swinger dont you.

 

[stilleto]

we don't fight.

 

[cindylou]

We try not to air it out to others but sometimes you need an outside voice to help. We each have a close friend that we talk to when things are not good. He helps me and her firend helps her. It is good to have a sounding board outside your house from time to time. Not for everything just when needed. Her friend lives far away and so does mine so that helps. Not someone we see often but each trust 100%. No awkward moments after a fight. That helps too.

He broke your phone? NOT COOL!

Not cool ; but you have to understand , I threw it at him first. Out of frustration. He was on the bed, so I knew my phone would be ok , it would just bounce off his chest onto the bed.

I either throw things (I've only thrown something twice since we have been married so I was really pissed)

or clean. lol. I threw my phone at him this time instead of folding clothes lol.

I'm still so pissed. I think thats why I made this thread.

I cant tell anyone or they will think we fight like this all the time.

People are probably trying to call me lol.

 

[cindylou]

I think you want to be a swinger dont you.

lol


why do you say that???

 

[yonkers weights]

Come to NY already... LOL

I'm still pissed! lol

 

[yonkers weights]

Don't you have a land line to call from?
Just tell your new friends something came up and you have to try again to get together. Don't air it to new people.

Thats exactly it! Plus somehow it would have been omitted that I threw the phone at him FIRST and they would think he was a crazy angry dude which he is not , (so how do i explain to my new friends that my hub and I got into a fight, and he broke my phone and his, and thats why we did not come over) without looking like crazies (because we are not) lol? and I cant call either?

I've lost these friends.lol.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Plus he broke my phone so now i cant even call and tell them i'm sorry.

that means hes feeling neglected in some fashion or another. jealousy most likely (judging from the new friends story).

i obviously dont know details, but he probably doesnt actually care about what hes saying he does and really just wants some attention or recognition for something

 

[needtogetaas]

lol


why do you say that???

o I dont know just getting the feeling thats all.you like to have a lof of married friends and you like to pic them...hmmm now when you pic your married friends
do you like them both to be hot,just the guy to be hot or just the girl to be hot...do you want to do them both..

do you not like some of your mans friends wifes because there not hot enough there hasbands not hot enough or is it because there way hotter then you and you dont want you man getting any of that ass.

ya its alot but tell the truth