Married people or people in a relationship

[foreigngirl]

Yeah. Welcome to my last two relationships.

Except my xwif's paretns never hated me and still don't. They love me.

Ummm, was there a story about her dad and you getting into it?

 

[Smurfy]

Do you hide the fact that you fight ?

When me and my H fight, we dont ever tell anyone about it. Do you try to come accross as the perfect couple in public?

If you were to have a nasty fight and people found out , would you be embarassed or felt like a failure if people knew your marriage/relationship was not as good as everyone thought it was?

ME and H got in a huge fight on Sat.night, and missed an obligation to some new friends that I just met and really liked and I just feel awful and I freaking dont want to admit or let anyone know that we fight.

and

Do you feel like their friends and family are more important than yours? The new friends were MINE and I'm pissed that it seems like its more difficult for me to maintain or make new friends because he always fucks it up for me becuase what he wants to do is more important!! Its important to me to have friends, and as many as I can because thats important to me, but he does not care and when you are a couple, people tend to want to hang out as a couple. Well fuck. He's only interested in hanging out with HIS family or his college/high school buddies and their wives which sometimes I dont always like their wives, but I try...... He always says he wants to hang out with mine, but SOMETHING always happens and we dont just as usual. UGH. We used to like the same people , but the same old people are the same old people and I want to meet NEW people and he does not and my world is SHRINKING!!!!!

Plus he broke my phone so now i cant even call and tell them i'm sorry.

Sorry. Venting. I'm sure I'm not making any sense at all.

ouch. what kind of fighting?

i dont think my husband and i have ever had a fight like that. we have had disagreements for sure. ive gotten mad at him and he at me but there's no ridiculous yelling or name calling or anything like that and certainly no destruction of property. that would signal a seruious issue.

ive been in a relationship with someone i fought with everyday and the verbal abuse and physical disrespect of each other was enough to make me h0micidal. good thing i Finally grew the cajones to up and leave that nightmare. no way was I going to raise my son in that environment. it was better for all involved that it ended, too. we get along amicably now after 7 yrs apart. i cant imagine what life would have been like if we had stayed together.

 

[layinback]

Do you hide the fact that you fight ?

When me and my H fight, we dont ever tell anyone about it. Do you try to come accross as the perfect couple in public?

If you were to have a nasty fight and people found out , would you be embarassed or felt like a failure if people knew your marriage/relationship was not as good as everyone thought it was?

ME and H got in a huge fight on Sat.night, and missed an obligation to some new friends that I just met and really liked and I just feel awful and I freaking dont want to admit or let anyone know that we fight.

and

Do you feel like their friends and family are more important than yours? The new friends were MINE and I'm pissed that it seems like its more difficult for me to maintain or make new friends because he always fucks it up for me becuase what he wants to do is more important!! Its important to me to have friends, and as many as I can because thats important to me, but he does not care and when you are a couple, people tend to want to hang out as a couple. Well fuck. He's only interested in hanging out with HIS family or his college/high school buddies and their wives which sometimes I dont always like their wives, but I try...... He always says he wants to hang out with mine, but SOMETHING always happens and we dont just as usual. UGH. We used to like the same people , but the same old people are the same old people and I want to meet NEW people and he does not and my world is SHRINKING!!!!!

Plus he broke my phone so now i cant even call and tell them i'm sorry.

Sorry. Venting. I'm sure I'm not making any sense at all.

when you are married, fighting is as much a part of the deal as loving. in a healthy relationship, fights are inevitable. how you deal with the conflict means everything.if you guys are getting physical or are degrading one another, then it is UNHEALTHY. conflict resolution is sometimes fueled by emotion and blow ups occur, we are human. couples who do not fight are typically miserable folk. emotions have to be expressed, especially with people we love.
as far as letting others know you fight, this is contextual. if it is a private matter and the two of you can resolve it then no. if you have a problem that has you stumped and a confidant can help then yes. sometimes we all need to vent and a fresh perspective or a shoulder is called for. marriage counseling has benefited countless millions, provided both parties are willing to do the work and quit projecting their shortcomings on to their partners.
you dont think people know you fight? well if that is the case your friends and family are delusional or at best extremely immature. you would probably be surprised at what your sharper associates have picked up on! remember, you are human and fighting is normal, as long as it is productive.
from the tone of your post, you and your hubby need help. no shame in going to a doc if you are sick or a mechanic if your vehicle is busted. this is no different.

 

[Forge]

Back on topic…


My current gf has a couple she is best friends with, who are swingers. The four of us spent a weekend in a cabin a few weeks ago, and the swinger couple brought some new “friends” back. My gf and I were already in our room having sex when the four of them got back, so we just laid there listening to all of them get busy with each other.

Kinda voyeuristic, but it was a fun turn on. They have absolutely zero inhibitions about sex.

 

[jh1]

Ummm, was there a story about her dad and you getting into it?

Her dad, yeah. He's a drunk fool.

Both step parents and her mom... they luv me.

 

[jh1]

Back on topic…


My current gf has a couple she is best friends with, who are swingers. The four of us spent a weekend in a cabin a few weeks ago, and the swinger couple brought some new “friends” back. My gf and I were already in our room having sex when the four of them got back, so we just laid there listening to all of them get busy with each other.

Kinda voyeuristic, but it was a fun turn on. They have absolutely zero inhibitions about sex.

WTF?

Weren't you just posting up that YOU WERE A SWINGER in another thread and that you had ZERO INHIBITIONS about SEX?

And said that people can't get over being embarassed and shit?

What the heck?

 

[yonkers weights]

Why did you not go outside?

Back on topic…


My current gf has a couple she is best friends with, who are swingers. The four of us spent a weekend in a cabin a few weeks ago, and the swinger couple brought some new “friends” back. My gf and I were already in our room having sex when the four of them got back, so we just laid there listening to all of them get busy with each other.

Kinda voyeuristic, but it was a fun turn on. They have absolutely zero inhibitions about sex.

 

[Forge]

WTF?

Weren't you just posting up that YOU WERE A SWINGER in another thread and that you had ZERO INHIBITIONS about SEX?

And said that people can't get over being embarassed and shit?

What the heck?

No, I'm not a swinger, but I don't have a problem with others doing it. When it comes to sex with just me and my partner, then yeah I am pretty much fearless, as long as it is just us two getting together.

 

[yonkers weights]

Lame...

 

[Mickey36]

Lame...

I don't think it is lame, each to their own. If it is a turn on for him to just hear it, then that is all he needs.

Cheers,

Mickey