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Last night at the bar... my first kiss
- Thread starter healother
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This is only the beginning, now the learning begins. You blew your wad too soon calling her the next day after making out, gotta let everything marinate a little while and who knows, maybe she would call you. By waiting to call her you show that you arent desperate and anxious to see her again. It shows you are confident in yourself and confident she isnt going to run off on you. And if she does? Who gives a shit because she knows you wont care because you are blowing her off since you are a busy and happening guy who doesnt need to hang on a woman too soon.
Next date still needs to be fun and loose, dont look like you are too anxious to get her in bed or anything so keep it to public stuff like bars, clubs, restaurants. And if you really want to throw her for a loop and make her want you, wait until the very last minute to make a move on her. Keep her guessing whether or not you are even interested in her beyond friends most of the night, then kiss her at the last minute.
Next date still needs to be fun and loose, dont look like you are too anxious to get her in bed or anything so keep it to public stuff like bars, clubs, restaurants. And if you really want to throw her for a loop and make her want you, wait until the very last minute to make a move on her. Keep her guessing whether or not you are even interested in her beyond friends most of the night, then kiss her at the last minute.
superdave said:
she didnt even have my number, i had hers, she left her phone in the car. and she insisted that i called her the next day. she even found my on myspace.com (using my first name and my city zip code) and messaged me saying the other night was insane.
i dunno, i guess i just want to do fun guy/girl things with her. i dont want to always be hanging out with her at a bar/club, but maybe your right, maybe it has to start that way.
and now she started talking to me online, so now i have to learn how to talk online with women! (something ive never been that good at. im not sure how much im supposed to respond to them and how much im supposed to not care)
so do i makeout with other girls in the mean time?
If she insisted you call the next day its a judgment call on your part, you could have but if you really wanted to set the tone early I would have waited just one more day then called. But if you really hit it off together and she seems like a sweet type then you might not want to jerk her around too much. Different types of girls respond to different treatment, one girl may get off on guys that are jerks and blow them off, others may not like that and forget about you. With experience you will learn what types of girls warrant what type of treatment. The bottom line is you are taking a risk whenever you cave in and start giving a girl too much attention too soon. That risk is her taking advantage of your niceness. But like I said, depending on what type of girl she is you might not want to start those little mind games yet. The problem with your situation is you are novice, so in order to safely undertake this whole dating thing, its probably best you do things like wait to call, make sure shes more into you than you are into her, etc. Its for your own confidence and protection.healother said:
Yes, make out with other girls, if anything you need experience with the actual physical act. Plus this current chick may flake out and you will be left with your dick in your hand. Just like that one time Im sure you remember.
GoldenDelicious
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told you to wait, you didnt wat, now look what you did
