Keeping Old Stuff

[chris350]

What do you guys think about a girl who keeps a box of pictures and stuff from previous relationships? My girl has a box of this stuff in her closet. I know she doesnt want to be with any of those guys and hasnt seen or spoken to them in years and I trust her it just kinda bugs me that there are pictures of her with her old boyfriends around. I asked her about it one time and she said that most girls keep boxes of stuff from other relationships because they are just memories of that time period in their lives or some shit. She said she doesnt look at them anymore and I asked her then why do you need them and she didnt really have an answer for that. She said she would throw them away if I really wanted her to. Am I outta line for getting upset that she still has stuff from previous relationships or do others feel the same way? Also, on a side note do other guys who are also bodybuilders have trouble with missionary during sex? Im around 235 right now and my gf is tiny and she basically gets squished when im on top of her and says im too heavy. Not that I have any problems with doing doggy and I love the cowgirl position but sometimes its nice to just be on top and plow away. Someone kick off this thread with the obligatory "shes cheating on you bro" response

 

[puddlemonkey]

She's cheating on you

 

[puddlemonkey]

I think I have some old shit from ex's upstairs. Not because I want to keep it, but because I'm too lazy to dig through boxes to find it. Anyway, those past relationships made her who she is today, and maybe its just what she says, memories. I have some great memories with ex's, but I certainly don't want any of my ex's back. They're ex's for a reason.

 

[velvett]

I have some great memories with ex's, but I certainly don't want any of my ex's back. They're ex's for a reason.

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I had two photos for a while that I tossed during my last move because there was no sense keeping something I never look at.

People are all different some are just big into photo and memories (sentimental) and others are not. Some people though need to relive the past because they need to find ways to define their value and feel good about themselves (run while you can from these people).

 

[Bikini Mod]

I had some stuff from a previous relationship too... when I moved the last time I tossed it all as I was moving to be with my husband.

If it's some little box of shit somewhere in the back of her closet, leave her alone about it. That is her private stuff. When she gets to a poin on her own where she wants to get rid of it, she will.

 

[Smurfy]

What do you guys think about a girl who keeps a box of pictures and stuff from previous relationships? My girl has a box of this stuff in her closet. I know she doesnt want to be with any of those guys and hasnt seen or spoken to them in years and I trust her it just kinda bugs me that there are pictures of her with her old boyfriends around. I asked her about it one time and she said that most girls keep boxes of stuff from other relationships because they are just memories of that time period in their lives or some shit. She said she doesnt look at them anymore and I asked her then why do you need them and she didnt really have an answer for that. She said she would throw them away if I really wanted her to. Am I outta line for getting upset that she still has stuff from previous relationships or do others feel the same way? Also, on a side note do other guys who are also bodybuilders have trouble with missionary during sex? Im around 235 right now and my gf is tiny and she basically gets squished when im on top of her and says im too heavy. Not that I have any problems with doing doggy and I love the cowgirl position but sometimes its nice to just be on top and plow away. Someone kick off this thread with the obligatory "shes cheating on you bro" response

is it "stuff" like momentos, etc
or is it just pictures?
dude, everyone has a history.
why anyone expects their SO to throw away pictures from any time in their life is beyond me.
i had an ex who made me throw away any pics that included my ex husband. even pictures my son was in. crazy

 

[alien amp pharm]

Who cares? It's not like she's got them in her purse or on display in her house.

Stop being so insecure. If she's going to cheat then she will cheat. No amount of worrying, force, crying is going to change that, so it's best to be happy in the relationship and not worry about such nonsense.

 

[Sub-Zero]

What do you guys think about a girl who keeps a box of pictures and stuff from previous relationships? My girl has a box of this stuff in her closet. I know she doesnt want to be with any of those guys and hasnt seen or spoken to them in years and I trust her it just kinda bugs me that there are pictures of her with her old boyfriends around. I asked her about it one time and she said that most girls keep boxes of stuff from other relationships because they are just memories of that time period in their lives or some shit. She said she doesnt look at them anymore and I asked her then why do you need them and she didnt really have an answer for that. She said she would throw them away if I really wanted her to. Am I outta line for getting upset that she still has stuff from previous relationships or do others feel the same way? Also, on a side note do other guys who are also bodybuilders have trouble with missionary during sex? Im around 235 right now and my gf is tiny and she basically gets squished when im on top of her and says im too heavy. Not that I have any problems with doing doggy and I love the cowgirl position but sometimes its nice to just be on top and plow away. Someone kick off this thread with the obligatory "shes cheating on you bro" response

sorry but she may not be cheating on you, but at the very least its a tool to elevate herself above you. to make you feel insecure and inequal. so she can pwn you. be like

"i dont care about you having it or not, but clutching on to the past is for weak people, either move into the future with me, or i cant be with you"

if it ends, it ends, at least you stopped it before all hell broke loose.


(by the way, if you didnt care about it for real, and didnt ask her, and didnt think to ask her, it would be completely different, and shed be the insecure idiot, but becausey ou asked her about it and obviously care, it will eat away at you which will fuck up the power relationship and make you break up anyway)

basically, break up with her, shes prolly cheating or will soon

 

[binö]

here's what i would do (and did)
wait till she leaves, look thru the box for anything juicy, and promptly throw it out, feiging ignorance if she ever asks about it.
if she asks about it right away, then you know she scopes the pics frequently and longs for her ex's cock.
most likely she never will check it, and you can rest easy

 

[Sub-Zero]

here's what i would do (and did)
wait till she leaves, look thru the box for anything juicy, and promptly throw it out, feiging ignorance if she ever asks about it.
if she asks about it right away, then you know she scopes the pics frequently and longs for her ex's cock.
most likely she never will check it, and you can rest easy

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!genius

 

[Smurfy]

Who cares? It's not like she's got them in her purse or on display in her house.

Stop being so insecure. If she's going to cheat then she will cheat. No amount of worrying, force, crying is going to change that, so it's best to be happy in the relationship and not worry about such nonsense.

i see you've dried up your sopping wet vagina and grew some testes

 

[Raptorex]

Wow@ the Smuffy Pwnage

 

[Sub-Zero]

i see you've dried up your sopping wet vagina and grew some testes

lolllllllllllllll

 

[Stefka]

I have a box somewhere.
I dont think it is that big a deal.
Just throwing away old love letters seems kind of sad.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

she definitely banging other dudes, no doubt

 

[chris350]

I have a box somewhere.
I dont think it is that big a deal.
Just throwing away old love letters seems kind of sad.

why is throwing away old love letters kinda of sad? If you really didnt care about your ex anymore why would you want to keep love letters from him? The same thing with pictures, why would you want to keep and look at the old pictures thinking about the old times with him when you are with someone else? I dont get that

 

[chris350]

why is throwing away old love letters kinda of sad? If you really didnt care about your ex anymore why would you want to keep love letters from him? The same thing with pictures, why would you want to keep and look at the old pictures thinking about the old times with him when you are with someone else? I dont get that

bump

 

[chris350]

bump

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[Stefka]

why is throwing away old love letters kinda of sad? If you really didnt care about your ex anymore why would you want to keep love letters from him? The same thing with pictures, why would you want to keep and look at the old pictures thinking about the old times with him when you are with someone else? I dont get that

I guess I think it is sad to throw away old love letters because they meant something once. They express something super personal and it just seems like a waste to throw them away. You dont need to forget that your exs ever existed in order to have a new relationship. Those exes, letters, experiences have a lot of impact on who you are today.
I'm also kind of a nerd and I put a lot of value in the written word. Letters and poems are special. They shouldnt be thrown away.

As for the pictures...I'm in them. I'm not going to cut the ex out of them.