i'm thinking i'm too stupid

[stilleto]

to do my new job.

or maybe I can't multi task like i thought i could. i CAN multi task, but not 408,449 things at once.

and I've never seen one company use so many abbreviations for things i've never even heard of in the first place.

I have three bosses. I didn't know that when I started. I thought the president was my boss. each one likes to hear themselves talk more than the last one. none of them want to hear ME talk though.
I've worked there for two weeks, and haven't seen the president yet. but the ceo and their former marketing consultant are both piling work on me like the end of the world is coming. neither knows how much the other one is giving me. neither one lets me get a word in edgewise to even tell them.

My real boss is coming in monday. we have a meeting at 9am. he never stops talking.
I also have a meeting with the consultant who is working with me at 9am. he never stops talking.
and I have a meeting with the guys that work for me (at 9am) so i can tell them about the 10 project that HAVE to get done first thing. each one is the first priority. They are young, and have to be WATCHED or they make errors in both judgement and in carelessness.

Oh, and I'm interviewing someone. when? monday at 10am.

I left work today so stressed that I told myself I was going to call in sick on monday, but i'm not. i'm just not feeling confident in my abilities. my husband says he knows i can do it because I manage our household so well, but i think it's all i can do.

i wish i was retarded. then i wouldn't need to do anything.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Just ask for a meeting or a conference call with the three of them and tell them that you need a clear heirarchy and to understand the system in the company. One of the worst things in business is for someone to have different bosses, because when they have diff. opinions, this screws up the employee

 

[Arabian]

Your smart and I bet you multi-task just fine.. ole btw Ill take fries with that...lolol

 

[jackangel]

would this be a bad time to ask you for money

 

[chris302001]

You've made poor choices in the past...........See k message.

 

[pin]

Uuummmmm Yaaaa...

 

[pin]

 

[nimbus]

well i hope everything turns out well, but if for some reason it doesn't, I think you will have no problem finding another good job that hopefully has more reasonable demands.

 

[bw1]

Whip your tits out

 

[ortiz34]

But it was worth the extra money for all those gray hairs, stressed out nights, and basically wanting to killyourself.
Right?

dance
puppet dance






r

 

[jerseyrugger76]

Delegate as much of that shit as you can and force someone to listen to you. If you fail to communicate things now (no matter how difficult it may be -- send 'em all a blast e-mail if you have to), problems may arise later on, particularly if the people giving work to you aren't coordinating with one another.

 

[lartinos]

Don't stop talking meaning they don't let you get a word in?
Seems like when you talk to your "real boss" you need to step up to the plate and set this fucker straight on the lack of organization and structure that you're having to deal with. There's gotta be a way to figure this thing out, but without his help it seems like you'll be treading water.

 

[Smurfy]

to do my new job.

or maybe I can't multi task like i thought i could. i CAN multi task, but not 408,449 things at once.

and I've never seen one company use so many abbreviations for things i've never even heard of in the first place.

I have three bosses. I didn't know that when I started. I thought the president was my boss. each one likes to hear themselves talk more than the last one. none of them want to hear ME talk though.
I've worked there for two weeks, and haven't seen the president yet. but the ceo and their former marketing consultant are both piling work on me like the end of the world is coming. neither knows how much the other one is giving me. neither one lets me get a word in edgewise to even tell them.

My real boss is coming in monday. we have a meeting at 9am. he never stops talking.
I also have a meeting with the consultant who is working with me at 9am. he never stops talking.
and I have a meeting with the guys that work for me (at 9am) so i can tell them about the 10 project that HAVE to get done first thing. each one is the first priority. They are young, and have to be WATCHED or they make errors in both judgement and in carelessness.

Oh, and I'm interviewing someone. when? monday at 10am.

I left work today so stressed that I told myself I was going to call in sick on monday, but i'm not. i'm just not feeling confident in my abilities. my husband says he knows i can do it because I manage our household so well, but i think it's all i can do.

i wish i was retarded. then i wouldn't need to do anything.

i totally feel you on this last comment. some days I wish i were incapacitated or something so i wouldnt have to be responsible for anything.

Stilleto, you're still adjusting and becoming acclimated to a totally new job. Add that to lots of people piling work on you and It can be very stressful. its ok to feel that stress considering the circumstances but Im here to tell you that you damn well CAN do this job. but it will take more than 2 work weeks to learn everything, get into the groove, set up your own systems for getting things done and managing people above and below you , and feeling comfortable. all that will come in time.

 

[Arabian]

Whip your tits out

She would get a raise and be President within the hour

 

[Smurfy]

Delegate as much of that shit as you can and force someone to listen to you. If you fail to communicate things now (no matter how difficult it may be -- send 'em all a blast e-mail if you have to), problems may arise later on, particularly if the people giving work to you aren't coordinating with one another.

IMO diplomatic communication is key. Off the bat. Dont let others triple book you like that. If youre not available at that time, you're not available. Who would expect you to have 3 appts for the same time? No one in their right mind would expect that.

 

[SpyWizard]

Congrats, you have the opportunity to be great.. to dig deep enough to find something within yourself that you didn't know you could do.

Or

You can throw up your hands and get bogged down in the details, like all middle management does..

So.. good luck and we'll see how you do..

to do my new job.

or maybe I can't multi task like i thought i could. i CAN multi task, but not 408,449 things at once.

and I've never seen one company use so many abbreviations for things i've never even heard of in the first place.

I have three bosses. I didn't know that when I started. I thought the president was my boss. each one likes to hear themselves talk more than the last one. none of them want to hear ME talk though.
I've worked there for two weeks, and haven't seen the president yet. but the ceo and their former marketing consultant are both piling work on me like the end of the world is coming. neither knows how much the other one is giving me. neither one lets me get a word in edgewise to even tell them.

My real boss is coming in monday. we have a meeting at 9am. he never stops talking.
I also have a meeting with the consultant who is working with me at 9am. he never stops talking.
and I have a meeting with the guys that work for me (at 9am) so i can tell them about the 10 project that HAVE to get done first thing. each one is the first priority. They are young, and have to be WATCHED or they make errors in both judgement and in carelessness.

Oh, and I'm interviewing someone. when? monday at 10am.

I left work today so stressed that I told myself I was going to call in sick on monday, but i'm not. i'm just not feeling confident in my abilities. my husband says he knows i can do it because I manage our household so well, but i think it's all i can do.

i wish i was retarded. then i wouldn't need to do anything.

 

[SaladFork]

When I started the job I am at now I felt the same way. I work with as many as 10 project managers’ at one time on different features that are all part of the big picture. But none of these project managers talk to each other, they just bug the shit out of the designers. How am I supposed to get my work done if I’m bombarded by emails all day telling me, this person said this, but you where supposed to do this. I honestly don't even give a shit anymore lol. Not sure how I have lasted 5 years without jumping a meeting room table and beating the shit out of a skinny PM douche.

It will get better, if it doesn't you have experience and education and can always find another jobby job. I worked with four other design agency's before I found the one I liked. Leaving soon to work as a vendor, I hope.

 

[stilleto]

Don't stop talking meaning they don't let you get a word in?
Seems like when you talk to your "real boss" you need to step up to the plate and set this fucker straight on the lack of organization and structure that you're having to deal with. There's gotta be a way to figure this thing out, but without his help it seems like you'll be treading water.

i know i have to do that.
but the guy who i thought was my boss- who has said twice that he is my boss- i haven't seen since i started and hasn't given me an ounce of work. and today when i had a meeting with the CEO, he told me what the president would be doing, and it had nothing to do with what I do.
I may have to talk to the CEO. right now everyone thinks they are my boss, except for the two guys under me who don't realize that *I* am theirs.

(i can't blame them for being as confused as me).

 

[stilleto]

i totally feel you on this last comment. some days I wish i were incapacitated or something so i wouldnt have to be responsible for anything.

Stilleto, you're still adjusting and becoming acclimated to a totally new job. Add that to lots of people piling work on you and It can be very stressful. its ok to feel that stress considering the circumstances but Im here to tell you that you damn well CAN do this job. but it will take more than 2 work weeks to learn everything, get into the groove, set up your own systems for getting things done and managing people above and below you , and feeling comfortable. all that will come in time.

thank you.
i like to have pity parties for myself. today was a surprise party.

I called my mom in tears and told her i can't do this. she talked to me and told me of course I can, and reminded me of my abilities. I told her i'd go in on monday and take a xanax.
She said, "why? so you can act like a zombie?"

i had to break the news to her that i can't take more than one and not act like a zombie.

Since I have heartburn, i'm also going to take a xantac, and any other drug that starts with an x.

 

[stilleto]

When I started the job I am at now I felt the same way. I work with as many as 10 project managers’ at one time on different features that are all part of the big picture. But none of these project managers talk to each other, they just bug the shit out of the designers. How am I supposed to get my work done if I’m bombarded by emails all day telling me, this person said this, but you where supposed to do this. I honestly don't even give a shit anymore lol. Not sure how I have lasted 5 years without jumping a meeting room table and beating the shit out of a skinny PM douche.

It will get better, if it doesn't you have experience and education and can always find another jobby job. I worked with four other design agency's before I found the one I liked. Leaving soon to work as a vendor, I hope.

thank you. this helped.
i know it'll get better, and i know i have to find out the heirarchy, AND set some ground rules.
I tried to do that today, but was so overwhelmed when the consultant called me at 5:15 because he is so long winded, that I sounded a little whiny.
i think to placate me, he said he'd come in on monday at 9 and even though i told him I had an appt. with the president then, i wasn't firm enough.
I think monday it'll be good for all of us to meet at once.... let them each battle it out as to who's work i'll be doing. let them see that their each giving me tasks. I want them ALL to be in the 9am meeting... even the guys that work for ME. i want them to hear what's going on too.

!!

i feel better.

 

[stilleto]

You've made poor choices in the past...........See k message.

LOL!
you're right.

and yes, this job is a huge opportunity for me. i had it easy at my last job, i just didn't know it.

if i can last a year or so here, i could get any job i go for. (in my field. I could not, for example, get a job as a surgeon).

 

[-Ariel-]

When grad school starts on the 28th one of my classes is called integral business, which is probably gonna revolve around how corporation models, such as goretex, with their non hierarchical, methods of organizing things in which everything is organized in small groups based on your expertise, and so the pressure put is not boss-employee, but peer pressure, which studies shows is stronger, you don't wanna look like a douche in front of your peers.

Apparently Gore tex, is an innovator with their model, but your model sounds like chaos incarnated... and I sincerely feel for you, cause I would be so overwhelmed and just wanna give up. First of all, let's take things into perspective, whether you pull this off or not, you will be letto to me, your identity does not come from whether you are able to succeed in a situation that does not sound oriented toward sanity or success for that matter.

It is one thing to believe in social rhetoric, which is all good and great to believe in, but its quite another thing to examine the situation not based on motivating stories that are not able to encompass the reality of the situation which sounds like you are in fucked up position.

I wish I could offer you advice on doing, or how to solve your outward problems, but I really have no clue how to solve the mess you describe...
all I may relay that might help a smidge... is that when you are feeling overwhelmed, and notice your energy levels dropping cause due to being overwhelmed by anxiety,fear,anger... or pervaded by the burden of excess worry and stress, or all these mixed up indescribably and tearing into your ability to manage yourself, through the train cars of incoming thoughts... Just snap out of it by taking note of your breathing. Notice the sensation of air coming in and out of your body, feel your chest and abs expand with the air coming in, and relaxing when it goes out.... well do this three times, and by bringing awareness back into the situation, you have freed yourself from the being lost in your head. By being aware for the moment you have created openings and inner space in your mind. You have allowed space to emerge between thoughts and a tiny amount of energy should accompany this recognition... this may help you free yourself from the negative thoughts that offer no solution but only burden you and drain your energy levels, preventing any type of creative solution coming to your dome.

My thoughts go out to you, and remember this is just a transient thing that will pass, and no need to get engulfed or get too reactive to the details of how fucked up it is. Just try to remind yourself every once and while to be aware of your breathing as a way to bring you back and cut through the incessant thought patterns that are linked like beads on a necklace. Just by being present, and being there, you bring an attention to the situation. Attention is what leads to quality. Just by bringing some awareness to the situation, you act with purpose and intention. ... this is where your best works comes from. This is all you can do.

 

[lartinos]

i know i have to do that.
but the guy who i thought was my boss- who has said twice that he is my boss- i haven't seen since i started and hasn't given me an ounce of work. and today when i had a meeting with the CEO, he told me what the president would be doing, and it had nothing to do with what I do.
I may have to talk to the CEO. right now everyone thinks they are my boss, except for the two guys under me who don't realize that *I* am theirs.

(i can't blame them for being as confused as me).

It all trickles down from the top, so I'm sure he's part of the problem going on here of course. I had a boss once ask me what they wanted from me, I responded clearly set goals and proper direction from their part. You don't even know who to ask a question like that too, lol. You know what you need to do stilleto, we're here just for your support. I'm sure you have a good game plan for your meeting so you just have to do your best and go from there. None of us here know any real specifics so it's hard for us to give any real advice for ya. You went into this knowing you were a new piece to the puzzle, eventually you'll get it to fit and you'll have the structure you seek.
I forget what management book/philosophy it comes from but all new work relationships start in what they call "chaos" where people are getting to know eachother and pushing boundaries. This is why most people have similar experiences about hating to have to start new jobs.
How does that saying go, "You can't make an omelette without breaking some eggs"
Looks like you're dealing with ostrich eggs, but hopefully it's worth it when you have that big ass omelette done.

 

[stilleto]

When grad school starts on the 28th one of my classes is called integral business, which is probably gonna revolve around how corporation models, such as goretex, with their non hierarchical, methods of organizing things in which everything is organized in small groups based on your expertise, and so the pressure put is not boss-employee, but peer pressure, which studies shows is stronger, you don't wanna look like a douche in front of your peers.

Apparently Gore tex, is an innovator with their model, but your model sounds like chaos incarnated... and I sincerely feel for you, cause I would be so overwhelmed and just wanna give up. First of all, let's take things into perspective, whether you pull this off or not, you will be letto to me, your identity does not come from whether you are able to succeed in a situation that does not sound oriented toward sanity or success for that matter.

It is one thing to believe in social rhetoric, which is all good and great to believe in, but its quite another thing to examine the situation not based on motivating stories that are not able to encompass the reality of the situation which sounds like you are in fucked up position.

I wish I could offer you advice on doing, or how to solve your outward problems, but I really have no clue how to solve the mess you describe...
all I may relay that might help a smidge... is that when you are feeling overwhelmed, and notice your energy levels dropping cause due to being overwhelmed by anxiety,fear,anger... or pervaded by the burden of excess worry and stress, or all these mixed up indescribably and tearing into your ability to manage yourself, through the train cars of incoming thoughts... Just snap out of it by taking note of your breathing. Notice the sensation of air coming in and out of your body, feel your chest and abs expand with the air coming in, and relaxing when it goes out.... well do this three times, and by bringing awareness back into the situation, you have freed yourself from the being lost in your head. By being aware for the moment you have created openings and inner space in your mind. You have allowed space to emerge between thoughts and a tiny amount of energy should accompany this recognition... this may help you free yourself from the negative thoughts that offer no solution but only burden you and drain your energy levels, preventing any type of creative solution coming to your dome.

My thoughts go out to you, and remember this is just a transient thing that will pass, and no need to get engulfed or get too reactive to the details of how fucked up it is. Just try to remind yourself every once and while to be aware of your breathing as a way to bring you back and cut through the incessant thought patterns that are linked like beads on a necklace. Just by being present, and being there, you bring an attention to the situation. Attention is what leads to quality. Just by bringing some awareness to the situation, you act with purpose and intention. ... this is where your best works comes from. This is all you can do.

thank you.
i'll try it.

I can tell you that today in the middle of a meeting with the CEO, i was feeling totally overwhelmed and confused. there were these giant pieces of paper he writes on (they are poster size but with a sticky back like a post it note. he writes ALL over them in marker and papers the walls with them as he speaks). So he's talking and writing, with words and abbreviations and things are circled with arrows pointing to other words. there were huge million dollar numbers and symbols all over and different colors, etc. there must have been 5 of these giant poster papers all over the walls, with arrows that went across them to other ones.

I tuned out at one point. something distracted me and I just stopped listening for a second. when i tuned back in, i was lost. i had no idea what he just wrote, or why or what he was talking about but I was nodding and saying "okay!".


that's when he carefully took all the paper off the wall, folded them up, and handed them to me and asked me to put it into a spreadsheet so it'll be easier for him to tell everyone else the plan.

hahahahhhaaaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahahhhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!
i actually started laughing and asked if he was sure he wouldn't like to re-write it in another language for me first?

everyone laughed, even him. he knew he just gave me something impossible.

so that helped. for a few minutes.