I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your take...

[-Ariel-]

I have the week off and am in a kind of mini vaca, while housesitting, the pad is spacious, and pimped out. For a poor grad student like me, this is choice, anyway yesterday and today my plans included checking up on old friends, while I hate talking on the phone, I decided too anyway. I ended up talking with a chic that graduated last year from the same program I'm in, she now teaches and counsels in Denver, but after catching up, she asked my advice in her relationship, apparently she is dating an accountant and they have been seeing each other for about 6 months, they get along fine, except one issue, he is high like 24/7 apparently... he constantly smokes out, but functions just fine, and she has no clue if he is high or not. She likes him, but is now having second thoughts, all her friends tell her to dump him, because he is a pot head. She said the best advice that she is considering is drawing the line and making him choose between her or weed. She asked me my thoughts, but I really didn't know what to tell her other than to just trust her intuition and go with that. I actually told her I would reflect on this and call her tomorrow. Dude functions fine, they get along, we have no clue what his perception is like... and since it is our feelings that to large extent determine who we are, as a person... it is hard for me to judge him, without knowing what it is like in his shoes. Maybe he has severe anxiety and thats how he medicates. However, if you are high the majority of time you are conscious, that is some pretty severe neurosis.
I have an idea of what I am going to say.

However, I would like to hear your opinion on the subject... this is not really my expertise.

 

[EnderJE]

Why does it matter whether he is high or not? If she is not accepting, then why not just let it go and find someone more suitable?

BTW, post up pics of her.

 

[Smurfy]

I have the week off and am in a kind of mini vaca, while housesitting, the pad is spacious, and pimped out. For a poor grad student like me, this is choice, anyway yesterday and today my plans included checking up on old friends, while I hate talking on the phone, I decided too anyway. I ended up talking with a chic that graduated last year from the same program I'm in, she now teaches and counsels in Denver, but after catching up, she asked my advice in her relationship, apparently she is dating an accountant and they have been seeing each other for about 6 months, they get along fine, except one issue, he is high like 24/7 apparently... he constantly smokes out, but functions just fine, and she has no clue if he is high or not. She likes him, but is now having second thoughts, all her friends tell her to dump him, because he is a pot head. She said the best advice that she is considering is drawing the line and making him choose between her or weed. She asked me my thoughts, but I really didn't know what to tell her other than to just trust her intuition and go with that. I actually told her I would reflect on this and call her tomorrow. Dude functions fine, they get along, we have no clue what his perception is like... and since it is our feelings that to large extent determine who we are, as a person... it is hard for me to judge him, without knowing what it is like in his shoes. Maybe he has severe anxiety and thats how he medicates. However, if you are high the majority of time you are conscious, that is some pretty severe neurosis.
I have an idea of what I am going to say.

However, I would like to hear your opinion on the subject... this is not really my expertise.

FAIL!

I didnt read anything past what I have bolded. She's way off if she thinks this approach will end in anything other than them breaking up. She is frankly very foolish if she thinks she can control the behavior of another person, let alone someone she's just been dating for 6 months. she's in for a rude awakening because he is either going to tell her to take a fucking hike for even suggesting the ultimatum, or, he will lie and say he is giving up weed, but then go behind her back to smoke up.

 

[EnderJE]

Wait a second. Does she want to get married? Does she not realize the sacrifice that she's is putting out there? Does she want to spend the rest of her life with this man?

You might want to try this approach.

Be pensive and say "You already know what I'm going to say don't you? It's going to confirm what you know if your heart to be true and what you feel. The good news is that the decision is hard, but there are no lasting impacts. If not now, then all will be good in time."

Usually, I use those lines when I want the person to decide for themselves on what to do.

 

[needtogetarmy]

She needs to dump him. Period.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

FAIL!

I didnt read anything past what I have bolded. She's way off if she thinks this approach will end in anything other than them breaking up. She is frankly very foolish if she thinks she can control the behavior of another person, let alone someone she's just been dating for 6 months. she's in for a rude awakening because he is either going to tell her to take a fucking hike for even suggesting the ultimatum, or, he will lie and say he is giving up weed, but then go behind her back to smoke up.

You think with logic, show me your penis!

 

[Smurfy]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

You think with logic, show me your penis!

you first~!

 

[SaladFork]

FAIL!

I didnt read anything past what I have bolded. She's way off if she thinks this approach will end in anything other than them breaking up. She is frankly very foolish if she thinks she can control the behavior of another person, let alone someone she's just been dating for 6 months. she's in for a rude awakening because he is either going to tell her to take a fucking hike for even suggesting the ultimatum, or, he will lie and say he is giving up weed, but then go behind her back to smoke up.

+1 I would choose pot over a drama queen anyday...

 

[nimbus]

already saw this movie, it was called half-baked.

why does his weed-smoking bother her?

 

[calveless wonder]

Re: I'm pretty sure I know what advice I'm going to give, but would like to hear your

You think with logic, show me your penis!

lol its why smurf is awesome and really a dude ~