I'm officially in a rut....someone cheer me up

[heatherrae]

meh, i feel like such an SWV. i hate memememe threads but you guys do a good job of cheering peeps up.

The inactivity and boringness in my life is driving me crazy. Basically been a hermit the past 2, almost 3 months (aside from 4th of july week where i went out 3-4 times that week. had a great time and felt like my old self)

All my money is tied up in a large number of business deals that haven't closed yet. When they do, i'll have alot of resources available, but until they do, i'm basically held hostage in my personal and business life. my expenses are very high right now so i have to be conservative until the money starts coming in again.

Can't go out, which means i can't really meet many women or have much fun. Which means i think more and more about the past and what went down with my Ex and her "other boyfriend" she had beind my back and all the money she basically stole from me...makes me feel like a worthless piece of shit. When i'm busy, active meeting new people i don't dwell on that shit..but when i'm not, it's easy to pop up. After we broke up, i was on a roll socially/w women...but i also had alot of money to blow and was going out constantly.

I had to work so hard to get my self esteem back from all that was sacrified and all she used me for, and i feel like im slowly creeping back to square one. I have no real girl in my life, not even a decent booty call (i've exhausted those)...hence the need to go out and meet people again.

i also can't really work my ass off either and focus on that, because all my marketing funds are tied up. so that means a ton of downtime at work, and its making me lose my passion for my job a little until i get things rolling again.

been trying to keep busy by reading/learning, training my ass off, and eating well...but that's not really fulfilling to me on its own.

Hoping my move back to miami will revive my life. i think it will, but i dont know. my skills are going to waste right now

I'm in exactly the same boat as you.

1. I can't do much b/c of finances b/c my ex bf pretty much cleaned me out of every possession that I owned, my business, etc.

2. I'm only working PT b/c no one wants to hire a woman who is obviously going to be giving birth soon and taking time off.

3. I can't really go out and meet people right now...lol.

4. I look like a blimp and I keep peeing in my pants.

So, I definitely can relate. I just keep on focusing on how good it will feel to be on the top of the mountain again. I know it will happen. I've definitely been in the valley this year. Soon, though, I'll have a son, a full time job, be able to buy my furniture back, be able to go out, be able to work out and get my body back.

So, you are in a valley now. Just keep looking forward to how good it is going to be soon.

 

[jh1]

Then may I suggest a trip to Wisconsin? No one has any of that kind of stuff here.

LMFAO...

Awesome.

 

[heatherrae]

Then may I suggest a trip to Wisconsin? No one has any of that kind of stuff here.

I love cheese.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

You're not in a rut unless you think you are. Make a temporary adjustment until the tide comes in again. Use this downtime to play in the sand, and perhaps discover something new.
Life gets depressing when taken too seriously; I know this very well first hand.

 

[the_clockwork]

let money run your life and you are in for a rough life.

 

[Nathan]

The way I see it, there's only one way around this. And I suggest you listen to me because when it comes to this shit, I know what I'm talking about. Get off your ass and figure out how to do things that don't cost you a lot of money. You aren't a deabeat, you have things going for you. Don't be afraid to explain your situation to women like you just put it to us. Take them out for coffee, or a walk on a nice summer day, or other cheap shit. They won't fucking care if they like you.

This won't end until you do something to fix it though. It'll only get worse. Meeting new people is always a good idea. Being social definitely helps. And force yourself to let shit go and think of other things. The worst thing you can do is keep thinking about the same shit if it's bothering you. Get your mind of of it and onto something else and before you know it, you're smiling. Go out with some friends and meet some new people through them if need be but mother of christ, do something. Make shit happen.

Nate the Motivational Speaker. Over and out.

 

[Nathan]

And I swear to god if you even make one excuse as to why you feel you can't do this shit, then you are on your own and deserve your misery. I hate that shit. I swear those people like being depressed.

 

[calveless wonder]

thanks everybody...really.
i mean it

thats why i love EF...everyone has a unique perspective and opinion.. and there was a ton of good advice on this thread. In this case it really enlightened me and helps to change my mindset.