I will probably never find love...

[redguru]

LOL...

wassup, chesty?

 

[heatherrae]

Two words....black men.

1. We won't mind the extra junk in the trunk.
2. We know you'll be home with the rug rat while we're out cheating on you with the bitch you can't stand.
3. Your law degree will keep us in shiny new grills for the duration.

Sounds so appealing.

 

[heatherrae]

At least your grammar does.

I would say that my grammar is better than average.

 

[jh1]

wassup, chesty?

You.

 

[Bikini Mod]

yeah, you are right, BM.

Once you get all of your ducks in a row with the baby and career and your hormones level out (LOL) you will find it much easier to shift some attention to dating.

And I do understand about having a hard time being alone as I NEVER was until my ex and I split and then I went from CONSTANT need for me to UTTERLY ALONE in the blink of an eye... I was very very depressed for many reasons. I had to go through an entire evolution before I understood more about me as a person - independant of being a mother. Then I had to reinvent my life several times, deal with a never ending custody battle, try to parent my girls and so on and so on....

Anyway, I learned how to enjoy being alone and how to focus on looking at life from the perspective of an individual. Once I got that figured out, being alone was NOT the same as being LONELY and I much prefered it to settling. I had my best friend and my family and my interests to keep my mind fed when I didnt feel like being with people.

I dated all sorts of men, and began to focus on my likes and more easily eliminate my dislikes.

You are a very generous soul and I can gather from what you have posted about yourself are most likely uncomfortable with a man who puts YOU FIRST. All I can say is.... GET OVER IT FAST.

There are many many men who are bright and witty and have wondefully generous hearts and are strong of character - will be a good partner for you and an excellent male role model to your son. He may not be your physical ideal - so? If his mind and his heart are beautiful then what difference does it make how he looks on the outside?

Again... just my .02

We are all free to make our own choices and decide what makes US happy.

 

[javaguru]

I would say that my grammar is better than average.

I normally don't make spelling and grammar jokes but I couldn't resist.

 

[rubberneck]

did you see the picture of the guy? GOD, HUGE earphones clipped on his belt loop, the pornostache, the nascar shirt and badge, and a fanny pack. Then, the porno pose in the parking lot outside of some nascar event.



You think we would have anything to talk about?

YOU TWO MAKE A CUTE COUPLE!!!! LOL

 

[MichaelScott]

i takes cares of mys kids

 

[heatherrae]

 

[Bikini Mod]

I dont care how much of a giver a woman is, if shes a single mom its a no-go on all counts just on principle.

And that is a fair statement. Matter of fact there was a point in time when my preference was dating men who had no children of their own.

We are all free to make our own choices.

 

[heatherrae]

I dont care how much of a giver a woman is, if shes a single mom its a no-go on all counts just on principle.

I'm sure all the single mommies will mourn forever over their loss.

 

[-SD-]

I'm sure all the single mommies will mourn forever over their loss.

Dont blame me for being principled and not getting involved with someone I know wont ultimately work out with simply out of convenience or sex. Tons of guys will fuck and chuck single moms but its not worth it for me.

 

[heatherrae]

Dont blame me for being principled and not getting involved with someone I know wont ultimately work out with simply out of convenience or sex. Tons of guys will fuck and chuck single moms but its not worth it for me.

Because single moms certainly are not worthy of long term relationships, and no one would want them. You are so far above just using the poor women.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Dont blame me for being principled and not getting involved with someone I know wont ultimately work out with simply out of convenience or sex. Tons of guys will fuck and chuck single moms but its not worth it for me.

I think your initial post may have been misunderstood. In this post you better explain yourself.

I had more than one guy straight tell me early on in our communications, "I dont have an issue with a woman who has children, but four is just too overwhelming for me." I thanked these men for being so respectfull and honest.

 

[Faizakafez]

i would call'em MILF's

just an fyi you two

 

[Bikini Mod]

Because single moms certainly are not worthy of long term relationships, and no one would want them. You are so far above just using the poor women.

I think you are being defensive and I understand it, but honestly, I dont that it is warranted in this instance.

He doesn't WANT to take on the responsiblity of children. You can't fault him for that or get upset with him really for expressing it.

I think it is quite honorable as it is respectfull of YOUR TIME.

 

[heatherrae]

he doesn't date single mom's "on principal", BM.

 

[Bikini Mod]

he doesn't date single mom's "on principal", BM.

Refer to my post where I said he might have been initially misunderstood.

 

[heatherrae]

Meh, if a guy doesn't want to date a mom, that is his choice. I dont' really mind. However, saying it is on some sort of principle is a bit offensive to single moms.

When you get in your late 30's, everyone has kids. If you refuse to date men/women who don't have kids, your dating pool will be almost zero.

 

[javaguru]

Meh, if a guy doesn't want to date a mom, that is his choice. I dont' really mind. However, saying it is on some sort of principle is a bit offensive to single moms.

When you get in your late 30's, everyone has kids. If you refuse to date men/women who don't have kids, your dating pool will be almost zero.

That's why I date 24 year olds....

 

[all the whey]

Meh, if a guy doesn't want to date a mom, that is his choice. I dont' really mind. However, saying it is on some sort of principle is a bit offensive to single moms.

When you get in your late 30's, everyone has kids. If you refuse to date men/women who don't have kids, your dating pool will be almost zero.

So, it is not offensive to guys when you bitches won't date them if they don't have enough cash to pay for you and someone else's kid? (Or, if they are Nascar fans or wear Nike T-shirts)

 

[Bikini Mod]

Meh, if a guy doesn't want to date a mom, that is his choice. I dont' really mind. However, saying it is on some sort of principle is a bit offensive to single moms.

When you get in your late 30's, everyone has kids. If you refuse to date men/women who don't have kids, your dating pool will be almost zero.

No, I am not offended and respect him for having such principles.

See, I did not date younger men because of MY principles. This did not mean that I thought they were less than good people. I just knew without ever meeting them (though I dated like 2 and considered just licking one up and down) that it would NEVER lead to anything because of what I wanted from a relationship.

Not offensive at all to anyone as we are all being honest and respecting TIME and not wasting anyone's.

 

[redguru]

Dating preggo women isn't bad, you know they put out.

 

[Dial_tone]

Meh, if a guy doesn't want to date a mom, that is his choice. I dont' really mind. However, saying it is on some sort of principle is a bit offensive to single moms.

When you get in your late 30's, everyone has kids. If you refuse to date men/women who don't have kids, your dating pool will be almost zero.

Any woman my age either already has kids, can't have them or is too ugly to find anybody impregnate her...however the fact that I don't have any kids certainly couldn't be thru any faults of mine. I'm just waiting for that right girl.

 

[calveless wonder]

if i were you i'd move to somewhere with some diversity and opportunity
and somewhere where you could raise your kid well

too many factors are against you

1.) you're a single mother who's about to have a baby
2.) you live in a state where the odds are good, but the goods are odd

Certain people will overlook the kids thing, but you have to be in the right area to find someone of quality who will.
if i lived in a rural area i'd shoot myself

 

[heatherrae]

So, it is not offensive to guys when you bitches won't date them if they don't have enough cash to pay for you and someone else's kid? (Or, if they are Nascar fans or wear Nike T-shirts)

Pay for me and my kid? I never asked anyone to pay anything.

Maybe I'm taking superdave's point the wrong way. The way I'm reading it is that he doesn't waste time on single moms because they are somehow lesser persons than women without children. Personal preference to not having kids around is up to him and doesn't offend me. However, once you near 40, almost everyone has children or ex's to contend with.

 

[heatherrae]

if i were you i'd move to somewhere with some diversity and opportunity
and somewhere where you could raise your kid well

too many factors are against you

1.) you're a single mother who's about to have a baby
2.) you live in a state where the odds are good, but the goods are odd

Certain people will overlook the kids thing, but you have to be in the right area to find someone of quality who will.
if i lived in a rural area i'd shoot myself

Yeah, I hear you. Living in a rural area makes finding someone with similar interests very difficult. I will move eventually. That is for certain.

 

[calveless wonder]

Pay for me and my kid? I never asked anyone to pay anything.

Maybe I'm taking superdave's point the wrong way. The way I'm reading it is that he doesn't waste time on single moms because they are somehow lesser persons than women without children.

come on, that's ridiculous. it's a baggage issue.
once you get older, yeah, alot of people come with baggage or a past (kids, divorce, etc). i'm the same way, but i'm also relatively young like superdave. i've met a few hotties that were cool, i found out had kids and it's something i'm totally not interested in dealing with

the person can be the greatest person in the world and have a kid, and for some people it will be too much responsibility

 

[heatherrae]

Any woman my age either already has kids, can't have them or is too ugly to find anybody impregnate her...however the fact that I don't have any kids certainly couldn't be thru any faults of mine. I'm just waiting for that right girl.

lol...or it could be that you always finish in the butt.

 

[heatherrae]

Dating preggo women isn't bad, you know they put out.

If you can get to it....

 

[all the whey]

Pay for me and my kid? I never asked anyone to pay anything.

Maybe I'm taking superdave's point the wrong way. The way I'm reading it is that he doesn't waste time on single moms because they are somehow lesser persons than women without children. Personal preference to not having kids around is up to him and doesn't offend me. However, once you near 40, almost everyone has children or ex's to contend with.

I just meant it is the same if he doesn't want to date girls with kids as a woman not wanting to date a man if he doesn't make enough money.



Attention angry women. Please do not reply with any of the following.

1. It's not the money it's his goals.

2. I don't need a mans money.

3. there is too many others to list. But, the point is most women do.

 

[LuluDeren]

HR, you can't think that way. There is always the prospect of finding 'the One', but once you convince yourself that that ideal doesn't exist, you'll settle for whatever comes along.

My mother's second marriage was to a man who not only appreciated, but embraced the fact she had three children. (hell it's my biological father who didn't want us)

 

[heatherrae]

I just meant it is the same if he doesn't want to date girls with kids as a woman not wanting to date a man if he doesn't make enough money.



Attention angry women. Please do not reply with any of the following.

1. It's not the money it's his goals.

2. I don't need a mans money.

3. there is too many others to list. But, the point is most women do.

I don't have anything against a man not wanting to date a woman with kids. I used to not have any kids and dating men with kids was definitely more problems with ex's and hassle. I think it was just that he said it was "on principle" that sort of raised my eyebrow.

 

[heatherrae]

HR, you can't think that way. There is always the prospect of finding 'the One', but once you convince yourself that that ideal doesn't exist, you'll settle for whatever comes along.

My mother's second marriage was to a man who not only appreciated, but embraced the fact she had three children. (hell it's my biological father who didn't want us)

I don't doubt that the right guy is out there. I just never see many people where I live with whom I have anything in common. It would just be hard to find someone here.

 

[heatherrae]

Any woman my age either already has kids, can't have them or is too ugly to find anybody impregnate her...however the fact that I don't have any kids certainly couldn't be thru any faults of mine. I'm just waiting for that right girl.

 

[Dial_tone]

Pay for me and my kid? I never asked anyone to pay anything.

Maybe I'm taking superdave's point the wrong way. The way I'm reading it is that he doesn't waste time on single moms because they are somehow lesser persons than women without children. Personal preference to not having kids around is up to him and doesn't offend me. However, once you near 40, almost everyone has children or ex's to contend with.

I think his point is that a lot of guys will date single moms thinking its an easy score because they don't get out much. Once they've gotten some steady booty for a while they start pondering the idea of becoming an instant dad, eating at Chuckie Cheese every Friday while all their discretionary income suddenly getting socked away for college tuition for somebody else's kids...so they bail leaving the woman feeling rejected.

I don't think he's saying they're all whores. However there's a lot more to consider when dating a single mom so with all the childless babes out there why bother unless she's REALLY something special.

 

[heatherrae]

I think his point is that a lot of guys will date single moms thinking its an easy score because they don't get out much. Once they've gotten some steady booty for a while they start pondering the idea of becoming an instant dad, eating at Chuckie Cheese every Friday while all their discretionary income suddenly getting socked away for college tuition for somebody else's kids...so they bail leaving the woman feeling rejected.

I don't think he's saying they're all whores. However there's a lot more to consider when dating a single mom so with all the childless babes out there why bother unless she's REALLY something special.

hmmmm...okay. makes sense. I think that at my age, I will have lots of men who have already raised kids and will be freaked out at the prospect of having one that is still so little. However, I'm sure a good one will come along who will overlook it.

 

[-SD-]

Because single moms certainly are not worthy of long term relationships, and no one would want them. You are so far above just using the poor women.

Why dont you stop to think that a lot of men dont want to start the first chapter of their book in the middle of someone elses book. How about its not the single mom as a person, its the fact of having to commit to her and a child that isnt mine, and also dealing with probable baby daddy issues. If you think the stats are bad for marriages without kids, try looking up the stats for single moms who get married. Just off the top of my head I can remember my cousins wedding and his wifes bio-dad suddenly wanted to walk her down the aisle and wasnt taking no for an answer, even though he left her and the mother when she was a small child. If I was the guy who decided to get involved with her mother and raise her child with her only to face that bullshit at her wedding? Guess what, it was such a mess that her mom had to walk her down the aisle eve though the guy who raised her all her life was right there for her. Thats just an example of a wide variety of things that would make me think "why the fuck did I get involved with a single mother".
No thanks.

 

[heatherrae]

Why dont you stop to think that a lot of men dont want to start the first chapter of their book in the middle of someone elses book. How about its not the single mom as a person, its the fact of having to commit to her and a child that isnt mine, and also dealing with probable baby daddy issues. If you think the stats are bad for marriages without kids, try looking up the stats for single moms who get married. Just off the top of my head I can remember my cousins wedding and his wifes bio-dad suddenly wanted to walk her down the aisle and wasnt taking no for an answer, even though he left her and the mother when she was a small child. If I was the guy who decided to get involved with her mother and raise her child with her only to face that bullshit at her wedding? Guess what, it was such a mess that her mom had to walk her down the aisle eve though the guy who raised her all her life was right there for her. Thats just an example of a wide variety of things that would make me think "why the fuck did I get involved with a single mother".
No thanks.

Well, I don't need anyone to commit to my son. I can raise him just fine. That isn't the right way to look at it. I guess if a guy thinks I'm a good enough catch, it won't matter. If he doesn't or is to shallow to see past having to stay home from time to time, or whatever, then I don't really need him, anyway.

 

[-SD-]

Well, I don't need anyone to commit to my son. I can raise him just fine. That isn't the right way to look at it. I guess if a guy thinks I'm a good enough catch, it won't matter. If he doesn't or is to shallow to see past having to stay home from time to time, or whatever, then I don't really need him, anyway.

If they commit to you then they commit to your son, cant have it either way. And if you get married he has to commit to you and your son if you have full custody. You and your son are a package deal to any prospective long term relationship a guy would consider with you and they should know that. All Im saying is its much more difficult than dating without a kid for the reasons Ive already mentioned, which are valid and not callous or shallow.

 

[Sub-Zero]

if I stay in Kentucky. Here is the typical man around here. God, I wish I was kidding. I don't mean to be a bitch, but this is an actual guy hitting me up. Nice fanny pack, don't you think?

i guess you dont like jack?

 

[Bikini Mod]

I just meant it is the same if he doesn't want to date girls with kids as a woman not wanting to date a man if he doesn't make enough money.



Attention angry women. Please do not reply with any of the following.

1. It's not the money it's his goals.

2. I don't need a mans money.

3. there is too many others to list. But, the point is most women do.

I openly stated all the time on the boards (as well to the men that I dated) that if a man didn't make bank, we did not go out. I would tell the men, "ALL the men I date make bank. Why should I give my time to YOU?"

I have NEVER taken offense for a man honestly expressing his dating criteria so I don't see why any man should take offense for MY honesty.

Honestly, I am trying to figure why ANYONE would be offended by another openly admitting to their dating criteria. Doesn't make a lot of sense to me.


As a side note I am still trying to figure out WTF was wrong w/me for marrying a broke dick dog.

 

[-SD-]

As a side note I am still trying to figure out WTF was wrong w/me for marrying a broke dick dog.

Because you know broke is temporary and poor is forever. Since he was a former CEO of blahblah you knew he wouldnt be broke for long.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Because you know broke is temporary and poor is forever. Since he was a former CEO of blahblah you knew he wouldnt be broke for long.

You all do not know the full story and I will not get into it. This is far more complicated than him just being homeless and starting from scratch. If that was the case, EVERY SINGLE problem I brought into our relationship would have been ancient history in a flash. Hell, I would have never even found out he was broke. He could have recovered THAT quickly.

I am not trying to offend anyone here, but from the vantage point that you cite (and from where I sit too) poor = not too bright. And my number one criteria for perspective date = SMART.

One of the most amazing men that I dated was born BIGTIME backwoods poor, N Carolina DIRT POOR - four to a bed in a one room shack with four beds. He altered his birth certificate and enlisted when he was only 15. The man NEVER even finished high school, let alone attended college. He was INCREDIBLY SMART though. He was 65 when we dated, had EXCELLENT taste, was very down to earth and owned near half the state of Florida. He made every dime honestly and with the power of his BRAIN.

That sort of person is what attracted me and though he was very taken with me he dumped me because he could not handle the drama that my ex was wreaking in my life.... and I can't say that I blamed him, though I felt duped to a certain extent as I never hid it from him and a man of his life experience should have been able to *get it*n before he pursued me full steam ahead. I was happy to keep our relatioship friendly and casual, but he insisted he wanted so much more then just ran when he felt himself getting to close - what kind of lilly livered bullshit was that?

But hey, it was a lesson well-learned. I just realized that to the laundry list, one more characteristic was mandatory in any man I would allow into my life - GUTS and HONOR to back it. So I held out until My Old Grump came along and said that he was up to the task if I would have him.... and so far, he has been.

I am very blessed.

 

[Freddie de Lux]

if I stay in Kentucky. Here is the typical man around here. God, I wish I was kidding. I don't mean to be a bitch, but this is an actual guy hitting me up. Nice fanny pack, don't you think?

Move to New York! I would be your best friend and introduce you to eligible lawyers and investment bankers. Seriously - give it a thought.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

if I stay in Kentucky. Here is the typical man around here. God, I wish I was kidding. I don't mean to be a bitch, but this is an actual guy hitting me up. Nice fanny pack, don't you think?

Is there supposed to be a pic here or something...

 

[calveless wonder]

Move to New York! I would be your best friend and introduce you to eligible lawyers and investment bankers. Seriously - give it a thought.

heather would get eaten alive by NYC....

or did I mean to say she would just eat NYC?

 

[heatherrae]

Move to New York! I would be your best friend and introduce you to eligible lawyers and investment bankers. Seriously - give it a thought.

That is a thought!!

 

[heatherrae]

Is there supposed to be a pic here or something...

There was one. I'll k message it to you.

 

[heatherrae]

heather would get eaten alive by NYC....

or did I mean to say she would just eat NYC?

mmmmmmmmmmm....NYC.

 

[Freddie de Lux]

mmmmmmmmmmm....NYC.

I will choreograph your entire arrival in NYC - I will contact my journalist friends and tell them to publish that a famous Jordan princess living in Kentucky for the past 10 years is arriving, and that she is single, beauitful, enigmatic, and told to hold the key to a man's sexual pleasures forever, the way only a goddess of sex could.

Come, Darling! It would be so much fun!

 

[heatherrae]

I will choreograph your entire arrival in NYC - I will contact my journalist friends and tell them to publish that a famous Jordan princess living in Kentucky for the past 10 years is arriving, and that she is single, beauitful, enigmatic, and told to hold the key to a man's sexual pleasures forever, the way only a goddess of sex could.

Come, Darling! It would be so much fun!

Oh man, I need you to be my PR guy. lol.

 

[-SD-]

I will choreograph your entire arrival in NYC - I will contact my journalist friends and tell them to publish that a famous Jordan princess living in Kentucky for the past 10 years is arriving, and that she is single, beauitful, enigmatic, and told to hold the key to a man's sexual pleasures forever, the way only a goddess of sex could.

Come, Darling! It would be so much fun!

Everytime this guy posts I think of Nathan Lane from the Birdcage lol. I mean that in a good way of course.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Everytime this guy posts I think of Nathan Lane from the Birdcage lol. I mean that in a good way of course.

Yes but waaaaaaaaaaaay more svelt. Shit, his waist is smaller than mine....

or so he says...

 

[Freddie de Lux]

Everytime this guy posts I think of Nathan Lane from the Birdcage lol. I mean that in a good way of course.

I love you, Darling! You know, I did play Elisa in high school.

 

[-SD-]

I love you, Darling! You know, I did play Elisa in high school.

Do you live in NYC? Im looking to make a move there if possible when I graduate form b-school next may and need all the info about it I can get.

 

[Freddie de Lux]

Do you live in NYC? Im looking to make a move there if possible when I graduate form b-school next may and need all the info about it I can get.

I do live in NYC. I will be happy to help! Do you like to make out?

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

There was one. I'll k message it to you.

Thank you

 

[jd_uk]

IMHO Boring or Dull is as bad as having a poor command of the English language, which for me (If you are born in this country) = not very smart so that would remove him from what I would deem a dating prospect of interest regardless of any other quality that I would be interested in.

So this is an online dating thing I take it?

I will be honest, just from the pic alone, I didn't really see too much that was all that awful. You can guide the man towards better warddrobe choices (if it is THAt important). He wasn't a bad looking guy...

In my experiences the women who decide that men are boring are usually very ignorant and aren't good communicators. Nobody is boring really....everybody has a past and some story to tell yet women are crap at finding things out and get bored easily.

 

[-SD-]

I do live in NYC. I will be happy to help! Do you like to make out?

Yes, but with women.

 

[heatherrae]

IMHO Boring or Dull is as bad as having a poor command of the English language, which for me (If you are born in this country) = not very smart so that would remove him from what I would deem a dating prospect of interest regardless of any other quality that I would be interested in.

So this is an online dating thing I take it?

I will be honest, just from the pic alone, I didn't really see too much that was all that awful. You can guide the man towards better warddrobe choices (if it is THAt important). He wasn't a bad looking guy...

Actually, he could be a very good looking guy if he were not so utterly clueless as to his appearance. I mean, that is pretty over the top in bad dressing. I'm sure some women would not find him dull. He is just DEFINITELY not my type -- nascar and fishing can only be talked about so much. Plus, I like the liberal sort. There are no liberals in rural Kentucky.

 

[jd_uk]

Stop and listen for a minute...


"Are you a giver or a taker?"

Unless the IMMEDIATE response is: "YES"

the answer is "NO." and move on.

FFS. Talk about black and white.

 

[Cal_21]

In my experiences the women who decide that men are boring are usually very ignorant and aren't good communicators. Nobody is boring really....everybody has a past and some story to tell yet women are crap at finding things out and get bored easily.

I'm assuming you've been called boring before...

 

[heatherrae]

I'm assuming you've been called boring before...

 

[puddlemonkey]

Cliff notes please, I was busy earlier, I ain't reading no 9 pagers.

 

[heatherrae]

Cliff notes please, I was busy earlier, I ain't reading no 9 pagers.

 

[puddlemonkey]

You're about to become the invisible poster when I put your ass on ignore.

 

[puddlemonkey]

 

[heatherrae]

You're about to become the invisible poster when I put your ass on ignore.

You can't ignore my ass. It has magical powers.

 

[Bikini Mod]

In my experiences the women who decide that men are boring are usually very ignorant and aren't good communicators. Nobody is boring really....everybody has a past and some story to tell yet women are crap at finding things out and get bored easily.

Darlin' I tended bar for YEARS and you know some of the other ways in which I earned a living. It was MY JOB to try desperately to find something *interesting* about the clientelle as my income was directly proportional to how the patrons found my disposition. So there I can confidently say that I found a way somehow to *make these guys* (and some women) seem interesting... or at least feigned interest well enough to make them think I found them to be interesting that they would usually come back to the establishment where I worked. Trust me when I tell you that I had ZERO romantic interest in any of the patrons as I never EVER dated the customers. This started when I began tending bar at the tender age of 17 for my family and was a policy that I never disregarded for the rest of my life regardless of my place of employ or my position.

What is the best way to make someone think you are interested in them or for them to become more interesting? Have them talk about themselves.

Then came the world of endless dating... MY GOD! UGH

Having said that, I also fully recognize that I am a ball of energy and require near constant mental stimulation. Combine the *social overload* with this fact and I think you can see where I arrived at my opinion.

I didn't say that these boring men were bad people or that they were somehow beneath me. I merely stated that this was one of my key dating criteria because I am very self-aware and don't enjoy wasting time.

I can tell you with 100% sincerity there are A LOT of boring people in the world.

 

[Bikini Mod]

FFS. Talk about black and white.

I don't understand the comment.

From the standpoint of relationships people are either one or the other. As one gets older, they tend to agree with me.

Yes, for me it is very black and white.

Can you tell me that if that question were posed to you, you would have to pause?

I don't and I don't expect others to either. My experience had been that those men who hesitated were just searching for a *suitable* answer (meaning they were trying to see what it was that they thought I wanted to hear) or they were being dishonest with me and were searching for a way to spin the lie that seemed *least deceptive* or should I say *most believable*.

 

[gotmilk]

if I stay in Kentucky. Here is the typical man around here. God, I wish I was kidding. I don't mean to be a bitch, but this is an actual guy hitting me up. Nice fanny pack, don't you think?

Start wearing Dukes of Hazzard t-shirts....

 

[Wulfgar]

I am a boring person
want stimulation? get a dog

 

[heatherrae]

Start wearing Dukes of Hazzard t-shirts....

 

[heatherrae]

I am a boring person
want stimulation? get a dog

It's illegal in Ky to get stimulated by your dog. I'm just sayin'

 

[MichaelScott]

you can find love in my yg thread

 

[heatherrae]

you can find love in my yg thread

I already posted there.

 

[Smurfy]

I have no idea what he does, and his grammar isn't the issue, but he has nothing exciting or interesting to talk about.

Thank GOD EF is loaded with excitement and interesting topics of conversation.

 

[javaguru]

Thank GOD EF is loaded with excitement and interesting topics of conversation.

"Would you hit it" posts are underrated....

 

[heatherrae]

Thank GOD EF is loaded with excitement and interesting topics of conversation.

Yeah, thank goodness!!! lol.

 

[bones1435]

It's illegal in Ky to get stimulated by your dog. I'm just sayin'

hey, did i miss something. arent u Mammarae. Please tell me there is someone there for u.

 

[nimbus]

Yeah, I do tend to give more than I get. It is one of my faults.

lol, it must've taken a lot of courage to admit that

 

[heatherrae]

hey, did i miss something. arent u Mammarae. Please tell me there is someone there for u.

nope. Just my immediate family, who are not very pleased with me for being unmarried and pregnant.

 

[heatherrae]

lol, it must've taken a lot of courage to admit that

I heard that admitting it is half the battle...lol.

 

[Bikini Mod]

It's illegal in Ky to get stimulated by your dog. I'm just sayin'

 

[blueta2]

Any woman my age either already has kids, can't have them or is too ugly to find anybody impregnate her...however the fact that I don't have any kids certainly couldn't be thru any faults of mine. I'm just waiting for that right girl.

I'm prob your age, I don't have kids but can have them and I am not ugly.

 

[bones1435]

nope. Just my immediate family, who are not very pleased with me for being unmarried and pregnant.

im sorry to hear that. i wish the best for u. where is this guy at. doesnt he want to be a part of this. wtf is wrong with people. do u have a career, job, etc.

 

[heatherrae]

im sorry to hear that. i wish the best for u. where is this guy at. doesnt he want to be a part of this. wtf is wrong with people. do u have a career, job, etc.

I had to call the police back in December because he got jealous and got too physical with me. He has been vindictive and cruel since then. I was pregnant at the time but didn't know it yet. So, I'm raising the baby on my own.

I am an attorney but am having a hard time finding a full time job while pregnant. I have a friend who was supposed to open a new law firm this summer, but it is delayed, delayed, delayed.

 

[H_T_]

it's because you're a snotty bitch. maybe the kid will bring out the feminine side....

 

[heatherrae]

it's because you're a snotty bitch. maybe the kid will bring out the feminine side....

 

[bones1435]

I had to call the police back in December because he got jealous and got too physical with me. He has been vindictive and cruel since then. I was pregnant at the time but didn't know it yet. So, I'm raising the baby on my own.

I am an attorney but am having a hard time finding a full time job while pregnant. I have a friend who was supposed to open a new law firm this summer, but it is delayed, delayed, delayed.

Well the physical thing is a definite "u gotta go". I had a drop down drag out physcial altercation with my bf yesterday while driving down the interstate. we both beat the crap out of each other. he's alot bigger than me, so i got the worst of it. But i now know he has to go. Its gonna suck starting over, but if they hit u. Then u dont want them as a life partner. Besides, dont u have alot of nice somewhat -down-to-earth- country boys to pick from? U got alot going for u. I think u will find just what u need in the future. Good luck to you.

 

[Cal_21]

it's because you're a snotty bitch. maybe the kid will bring out the feminine side....

There's never an excuse to put your hands on a woman, especially when she's pregnant. Comments like that make me fucking sick. Do you beat your wife? Or your kids maybe?

 

[H_T_]

my funeral would be postponed due to crowd noise on account of so many bitches caterwauling at the top of their lungs, trying to outcry each other....

 

[-SD-]

Well the physical thing is a definite "u gotta go". I had a drop down drag out physcial altercation with my bf yesterday while driving down the interstate. we both beat the crap out of each other. he's alot bigger than me, so i got the worst of it. But i now know he has to go. Its gonna suck starting over, but if they hit u. Then u dont want them as a life partner. Besides, dont u have alot of nice somewhat -down-to-earth- country boys to pick from? U got alot going for u. I think u will find just what u need in the future. Good luck to you.

What kind of guy beats the crap out of his gf going down the interstate in a car lol. And hes a lot bigger than you I can imagine how that went down, did he beat you down with fists to the face and head or what? You should have called the fucking cops, jesus h.

 

[bones1435]

I had to call the police back in December because he got jealous and got too physical with me. He has been vindictive and cruel since then. I was pregnant at the time but didn't know it yet. So, I'm raising the baby on my own.

I am an attorney but am having a hard time finding a full time job while pregnant. I have a friend who was supposed to open a new law firm this summer, but it is delayed, delayed, delayed.

what posses a man to hit a woman. I dont get it. Where they raised that way. Why would you want to physically hurt someone that you claim to love. And when i started hitting him back. he stopped hitting me and spit in my face. I have never had ANYONE spit in my face. I seriously wanted to kill him at that point. Talk about a dysfunctional relationship. He's so apoligetic today and says that it was "just a bad day for both of us". WTF! He just doesnt get it. And the cops wont make him move out. I have to go to the couthouse today and file for him to be evicted. There's something wrong with the system.

 

[heatherrae]

Well the physical thing is a definite "u gotta go". I had a drop down drag out physcial altercation with my bf yesterday while driving down the interstate. we both beat the crap out of each other. he's alot bigger than me, so i got the worst of it. But i now know he has to go. Its gonna suck starting over, but if they hit u. Then u dont want them as a life partner. Besides, dont u have alot of nice somewhat -down-to-earth- country boys to pick from? U got alot going for u. I think u will find just what u need in the future. Good luck to you.

You too! Don't put up with that. It escalates and just gets worse and worse. I never hit him. I would try to keep him happy all the time. I babied him and he kept pushing the envelope further with getting physical. It's what they do.

 

[stilleto]

Well the physical thing is a definite "u gotta go". I had a drop down drag out physcial altercation with my bf yesterday while driving down the interstate. we both beat the crap out of each other. he's alot bigger than me, so i got the worst of it. But i now know he has to go. Its gonna suck starting over, but if they hit u. Then u dont want them as a life partner. Besides, dont u have alot of nice somewhat -down-to-earth- country boys to pick from? U got alot going for u. I think u will find just what u need in the future. Good luck to you.

did it continue when you got home?

 

[heatherrae]

my funeral would be postponed due to crowd noise on account of so many bitches caterwauling at the top of their lungs, trying to outcry each other....

lol...you bastard.

 

[H_T_]

There's never an excuse to put your hands on a woman, especially when she's pregnant. Comments like that make me fucking sick. Do you beat your wife? Or your kids maybe?

look you sensitive little fag, get off of the internet...

 

[heatherrae]

There's never an excuse to put your hands on a woman, especially when she's pregnant. Comments like that make me fucking sick. Do you beat your wife? Or your kids maybe?

He's kidding with me. I think he meant that is why I never will find love, not why my ex hit me.