I think I'm falling into a depression

[the_alcatraz]

What are the symptoms of a depression?

I feel like my life has become a routine. I'm not getting along with my wife. My social life has taken a large leap to almost non-existance. I'm having a hard time breathing

 

[JayC9]

try painting your nails black and staring at your shoes all day

 

[dabuffguy]

Just take it easy my good man.

And that sounds more like anxiety to me. Call up your good bros and go hang out for a night. I deal with bad anxiety issues, and have panic attacks a lot.

You have to do stuff you enjoy. If life has become routine, switch it up just a little. Go on walks at night with your wife when you get home from work. Do something random and special for her. Apologize if you've wronged anyone and it's bothered you. Usually, doing nice things for the people you love helps you deal with stuff.

One time I though I had mono for a full year. It turns out I was just really bored. lol.

 

[samoth]

You can probably check the smptoms online through a copy of the DSM-IV-TR.

What makes you happy? Sad? What are your goals? What are you going to accomplish today in order to bring you closer to your goals?

 

[the_alcatraz]

My wife told me our life has become monotonous and somewhat boring. I am getting that feeling as well

 

[dabuffguy]

try painting your nails black and staring at your shoes all day

check out my thread called "gotta love MadTV tickle me Elmo goes EMO!" a few threads down. That will help you alcatraz. a good laugh always helps.

 

[dabuffguy]

My wife told me our life has become monotonous and somewhat boring. I am getting that feeling as well

Ho old are you?

Just go by a corvette, lol.

 

[samoth]

My wife told me our life has become monotonous and somewhat boring. I am getting that feeling as well

What are your expectations of life? Television and movies often create illusions that lead people to think that life is something that it really is not.

 

[the_alcatraz]

You can probably check the smptoms online through a copy of the DSM-IV-TR.

What makes you happy? Sad? What are your goals? What are you going to accomplish today in order to bring you closer to your goals?

Honestly, I don't know anymore. Simple things make me happy. But I want my wife to be happy. I love her very much. She says our relationship is great physically, but we don't connect emotionally anymore like we used to and we don't anymore. That truly saddens me. I love her to death and I hadn't realised that I'm not giving her enough time or attention. Problem is, I have too many goals to accomplish and I'm an overachiever. I don't know what it would take to make me happy again. My life has become a routine. Sometimes I'm ok with it. But at times, it's sad really.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Ho old are you?

Just go by a corvette, lol.

I'm 24. I'm starting to feel like I married too young. I don't regret my decision. I love my wife.

My financial status at the moment does not allow me to buy a Corvette, but thnx for trying to cheer me up.

 

[the_alcatraz]

What are your expectations of life? Television and movies often create illusions that lead people to think that life is something that it really is not.

I want to be happy. That's it. Often that's hard to achieve.

 

[PICK3]

You and everyone you give a shit about will evenutally die.

just sayin'

 

[the_alcatraz]

You and everyone you give a shit about will evenutally die.

just sayin'

I accept death as an inevitable fact in life, so it won't make me depressed. Until someone actually dies.

 

[Raptorex]

sounds like an EF addict to me

 

[chazk]

Honestly, I don't know anymore. Simple things make me happy. But I want my wife to be happy. I love her very much. She says our relationship is great physically, but we don't connect emotionally anymore like we used to and we don't anymore. That truly saddens me. I love her to death and I hadn't realised that I'm not giving her enough time or attention. Problem is, I have too many goals to accomplish and I'm an overachiever. I don't know what it would take to make me happy again. My life has become a routine. Sometimes I'm ok with it. But at times, it's sad really.

I know you do not want to hear this
Get off the fucking computer and pay attention to her! Go for a walk , go out to eat do something you did when you two first met

 

[Raptorex]

I'm 24. I'm starting to feel like I married too young. I don't regret my decision. I love my wife.

My financial status at the moment does not allow me to buy a Corvette, but thnx for trying to cheer me up.

twenty-fuckin-four! OMG, you have a longz way to goez with that womenz

 

[the_alcatraz]

sounds like an EF addict to me

EF is my sanctuary bro. EF has helped me get through shit, believe it or not, when I needed to put my life on hold and not deal with shit. It's a safe haven.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I know you do not want to hear this
Get off the fucking computer and pay attention to her! Go for a walk , go out to eat do something you did when you two first met

You're probably right, but I really doubt my wife wants to talk to me right now. I think we both need to cool off a little.

 

[PICK3]

Sounds like you're struggling with your sexuality

 

[Raptorex]

EF is my sanctuary bro. EF has helped me get through shit, believe it or not, when I needed to put my life on hold and not deal with shit. It's a safe haven.

agree with you bro, but there has to be a balance - you need to find a hobby to do together? tennis? whatever.

 

[the_alcatraz]

twenty-fuckin-four! OMG, you have a longz way to goez with that womenz

I hope you're right bro. I seen a lot of good bros having problems with their wives. I hope it's not a trend.

 

[Raptorex]

Sounds like you're struggling with your sexuality

Go plat bro

 

[samoth]

I want to be happy. That's it. Often that's hard to achieve.

To be happy, one must experience the emotion's counterpart.

 

[the_alcatraz]

agree with you bro, but there has to be a balance - you need to find a hobby to do together? tennis? whatever.

I do bodybuilding and boxing. She went to the gym for a while, but eventually got bored with it I can't believe my wife doesn't like the gym....that sucks!

 

[Raptorex]

I do bodybuilding and boxing. She went to the gym for a while, but eventually got bored with it I can't believe my wife doesn't like the gym....that sucks!

I said together bro, I can see your part of the problem - you need to find what she likes.

 

[the_alcatraz]

To be happy, one must experience the emotion's counterpart.

Sadness? I know that one very well.

 

[canadianhitman]

Is there ANYTHING she likes that you could get into, or is she only into purely 'girly' hobbies and interests?

 

[javaguru]

My wife told me our life has become monotonous and somewhat boring. I am getting that feeling as well

It's called marriage....

 

[the_alcatraz]

Is there ANYTHING she likes that you could get into, or is she only into purely 'girly' hobbies and interests?

She plays the piano, but hasn't done it for years. She's very family oriented and like to spend too much time with her family.

 

[the_alcatraz]

It's called marriage....

That's really depressing.

 

[javaguru]

To be happy, one must experience the emotion's counterpart.

Don't wax all philosophical on us....unless you post some death metal...

 

[Raptorex]

It's called marriage....

lol, yet so young

 

[canadianhitman]

She plays the piano, but hasn't done it for years. She's very family oriented and like to spend too much time with her family.

Well, if she has no interesting hobbies, I guess the two of you have to sit down and pick out an activity you can both enjoy. Nothing wrong with trying something new.

 

[rnch]

It's called marriage....

nahhhh........it's called "working at a marriage"

 

[the_alcatraz]

lol, yet so young

you think I married too young bro?

 

[javaguru]

Next step, she's cheating on you....

 

[Raptorex]

you think I married too young bro?

I can't judge bro, I my point was more about how long you have to go.

 

[canadianhitman]

you think I married too young bro?

I think the important questions are:

Do YOU think you married too young?
Does YOUR WIFE think you married too young?

 

[the_alcatraz]

Well, if she has no interesting hobbies, I guess the two of you have to sit down and pick out an activity you can both enjoy. Nothing wrong with trying something new.

You're probably right bro...I'll take you're advice into consideration.

 

[heavy_duty]

(1) Have some babies there's nothing like it!
(2) for real, I know a very good therapist (female) in Mississauga.

 

[the_alcatraz]

nahhhh........it's called "working at a marriage"

It's a hard job bro...

 

[the_alcatraz]

Next step, she's cheating on you....

You're not helping. And that's messed up.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I think the important questions are:

Do YOU think you married too young?
Does YOUR WIFE think you married too young?

We've asked each other that question and we've both answered no. I think subconsiously though, we both think otherwise.

 

[canadianhitman]

(1) Have some babies there's nothing like it!

This qualifies as what NOT to do!!!

 

[the_alcatraz]

(1) Have some babies there's nothing like it!
(2) for real, I know a very good therapist (female) in Mississauga.

PM me some info about her and I'll check it out. I don't believe in therapy. But I'll have her info for "just in case shit escalates" kind of situation...

 

[the_alcatraz]

This qualifies as what NOT to do!!!

Too early for babies.

 

[Raptorex]

self-loathing is fucking painful bro

go smoke a doobie

 

[the_alcatraz]

self-loathing is fucking painful bro

go smoke a doobie

A blunt sounds good right now. I've given that up a long time ago.

 

[javaguru]

You're not helping. And that's messed up.

It is the next step if she's unhappily married; I'm just giving you the reality check. You're married, routine is the norm.....

 

[Raptorex]

A blunt sounds good right now. I've given that up a long time ago.

I assume you are a healthy person, you have lots to be thankful for bro...dump that shit

 

[the_alcatraz]

It is the next step if she's unhappily married; I'm just giving you the reality check. You're married, routine is the norm.....

Let's hope you're right and routine IS infact the norm.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I assume you are a healthy person, you have lots to be thankful for bro...dump that shit

Very healthy. I don't smoke or drink.

 

[javaguru]

Let's hope you're right and routine IS infact the norm.

It is, you're not a knight in shining armor who will romantically seduce her and woo her for the rest of her life.....soap opera's and romance novels.

 

[heavy_duty]

PM me some info about her and I'll check it out. I don't believe in therapy. But I'll have her info for "just in case shit escalates" kind of situation...

me too I met a therapist who I thought was a quack.
but this latest one saved my marriage.

 

[Raptorex]

Very healthy. I don't smoke or drink.

be thankful then bro, everyday is a gift

 

[PICK3]

Q: How many psychotherapist does it take to change a light bulb?

A: Only one ... but it really has to want to change.

 

[the_alcatraz]

It is, you're not a knight in shining armor who will romantically seduce her and woo her for the rest of her life.....soap opera's and romance novels.

When I first got married, I wanted the damn fairytale.

 

[the_alcatraz]

be thankful then bro, everyday is a gift

I'm thankful to God for everything in my life.

 

[heavy_duty]

check your K msg.

 

[Raptorex]

I'm thankful to God for everything in my life.

then stop fucking complaining

 

[the_alcatraz]

check your K msg.

Got it. Thx bro. I'll keep it handy.

 

[the_alcatraz]

then stop fucking complaining

I'm not complaining. Just letting it off my chest and getting some advice from some good bros on here.

 

[Raptorex]

I'm not complaining. Just letting it off my chest and getting some advice from some good bros on here.

I mean if you were a hot chick it would be worth listening too...

 

[PICK3]

I'm not complaining. Just letting it off my chest and getting some advice from some good bros on here.

If you weren't a Mo ... it would be worth listening to.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I mean if you were a hot chick it would be worth listening too...

I could get a boob job if that helps me get better answers. I was getting so many answers when Puddles added boobs to my avi.

 

[Raptorex]

I could get a boob job if that helps me get better answers. I was getting so many answers when Puddles added boobs to my avi.

go recruit some chicks for EF, this place is like a prison yard

 

[the_alcatraz]

go recruit some chicks for EF, this place is like a prison yard

Will do! Do I get comission?

 

[Raptorex]

Will do! Do I get comission?

no but we get to be happy

 

[the_alcatraz]

no but we get to be happy

Define we?

 

[chazk]

I know how you feel ,we all get in a rut alcatraz. I met my wife when I was 24 and she was 33.
She will be 40 this year and my self 31 . We have been married 2 years and together 7 years.
Marriage is full of all kind of emotions. I often am upset, joyfull, moody,happy,some time cry tears of joy and some times cry tears for no reason at all Bro.
When i turned 30 a wall hit me in the face and i felt like life was slipping away and everything i did was just fucked. Sometimes for no reason shit happens . If you are really depressed I would see a doctor. Symptoms are crying for no reason at all, sleeping alot, insominia. Just go see someone some meds might help.
I am on a SSI at a small dose it really took the edge off and made me not so hard on myself about the thinbgs i do or don't do.
the ssi is for self image issues I have with myself physically and mentally not feeling good enough and all that other bullshit ,It helps

 

[the_alcatraz]

I know how you feel ,we all get in a rut alcatraz. I met my wife when I was 24 and she was 33.
She will be 40 this year and my self 31 . We have been married 2 years and together 7 years.
Marriage is full of all kind of emotions. I often am upset, joyfull, moody,happy,some time cry tears of joy and some times cry tears for no reason at all Bro.
When i turned 30 a wall hit me in the face and i felt like life was slipping away and everything i did was just fucked. Sometimes for no reason shit happens . If you are really depressed I would see a doctor. Symptoms are crying for no reason at all, sleeping alot, insominia. Just go see someone some meds might help.
I am on a SSI at a small dose it really took the edge off and made me not so hard on myself about the thinbgs i do or don't do.

I hate meds bro. But thnx for the advice. I understand completely what you went through. I hope this is temp.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I'm going for a fuckin walk. I need to clear my head. Peace.

 

[chazk]

I hate meds bro. But thnx for the advice. I understand completely what you went through. I hope this is temp.

I hate meds to. I remeber thinking to myself wtf fuck am i doing ? I can't believe i am telling the doctor this stuff what is wrong with me , I am not a crazy fucker or a depressed person . come to find out I have a self image problem. Not low self esteem. But I have a problem with being me, is what the doc said not that i do not feel I am good enough but I feel I as a person wished at times i was someone else.. And not wanting to be me made me unhappy at life and in my marriage. I am finally excepting me for me it is a hard process. But the meds 5mg of celexa takes the edge off i suppose. I really do not know if it even does anything but it makes me hungry more and I am trying eat more calories

 

[javaguru]

 

[puddlemonkey]

All The Whey and I could give you some marriage counseling if needed.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Lets cut the shit, its clear your depression stems from me not posting much the last couple days.

 

[javaguru]

Lets cut the shit, its clear your depression stems from me not posting much the last couple days.

So you're dating again?

 

[puddlemonkey]

So you're dating again?

Oh hell no! I don't date. I have been 'hanging out' with a couple individuals of the female gender though.

 

[javaguru]

Oh hell no! I don't date. I have been 'hanging out' with a couple individuals of the female gender though.

Don't let them know where you live..or optimally your real name.

 

[Smurfy]

think about what brought you two together in the first place i.e. what attracted you to each other

think about what each of you needs in order to be happy and how you can meet those needs.

think about what makes you happy, and do that.

 

[Smurfy]

Alcatraz
start by reading a book by Dr Wayne Dyer called Being In Balance
Its an easy read. you could finish it in one day.

do it

 

[myway]

Smurf knows best. READ IT!!!!

 

[Jon79]

life sucks bro ....thats all....the only thing u can hope for is that they give u good drugs. once ur fucked ur fucked.

your brain chem gets off and ur fucked

 

[Smurfy]

Oh hell no! I don't date. I have been 'hanging out' with a couple individuals of the female gender though.

staring at women at the club from afar while drooling and touching your junk does not constitute "hanging out"

 

[Smurfy]

life sucks bro ....thats all....the only thing u can hope for is that they give u good drugs. once ur fucked ur fucked.

your brain chem gets off and ur fucked

jon you would make a horrible therapist.

this post sucks, please delete it.

 

[Jon79]

nope....

if u have a chemical imbalance in your brain u can go from a normal person to completely off the wall. I have seen it first hand.

 

[mountain muscle]

 

[rudy76]

My wife told me our life has become monotonous and somewhat boring. I am getting that feeling as well

I think that's just part of growing up Bro. After all - there's nothing wrong with "routine" as long as you enjoy it.

It's just like lifting - if your not getting results, you need to switch it up a litttle. You'll find your groove, just make sur your wife fits in it with you!!

 

[Jon79]

fuck this im not deleting it bc u think it sucks

 

[layinback]

jon you would make a horrible therapist.

this post sucks, please delete it.

if jon was a therapist, he'd go broke.


all of his clients would commit suicide

 

[puddlemonkey]

staring at women at the club from afar while drooling and touching your junk does not constitute "hanging out"

It does here, state law!

 

[Smurfy]

delete yourself then?

 

[Jon79]

whatever man u need to hear both sides....

u need to take it serious if u think that u may be in a depression.

bc if u may develop a chemical imbalance or something u might need medication. Dreaming of sunshine and rainbows, and reading books like "Your wildest dreams will come true if u read this book" will not help ya

 

[puddlemonkey]

Is there some kind of chemical imbalance that would cause me to be happy all the time?

Or is that just a part of being single?

 

[Jon79]

delete yourself then?

yea and ur saying im the asshole....

 

[Smurfy]

whatever man u need to hear both sides....

u need to take it serious if u think that u may be in a depression.

bc if u may develop a chemical imbalance or something u might need medication. Dreaming of sunshine and rainbows, and reading books like "Your wildest dreams will come true if u read this book" will not help ya

did you read his post? he's having issues related to his relationship and youre telling him he has a chemical imbalance because you have one.

cut it out

 

[Smurfy]

yea and ur saying im the asshole....

i would never call you an asshole

you fuckin jagoff

 

[Sub-Zero]

What are the symptoms of a depression?

I feel like my life has become a routine. I'm not getting along with my wife. My social life has taken a large leap to almost non-existance. I'm having a hard time breathing

its called EF. quit. now. trust me. it will suck you back in though

 

[Smurfy]

he asked for symptoms of depression etc... do i need to fucking quote it for u?

these r all symptoms of depression.

He was speaking of life in general as well.

what give u the right to automatically know what the fuck he is feeling? obviously its a bit more that just the wife.

so no u cut it out. u have no fucking clue what the fuck is going on the me. so just sit on your laptop and keep thinkin u know everything and SHUT THE FUCK UP!

i do know everything. puddlemonkey knows it. I dont know why you cant see it.

 

[puddlemonkey]

now now kids, simmer down.