I love the way my BF pushes...

[blueta2]

Maybe if one was an inverted narcissist they could feed off each other and not be a mess...idk? I didn't consider that.

I was just trying to suggest that maybe her bf didn't actually have NPD...but I couldn't say for sure of course.

NPD is serious and no one here could say unless they were a professional, but sometimes people try to label behavior they don't understand.

If he does turn out to have NPD then she either needs to leave him or accept it and learn to love him unconditionally, with no delusions about how he is going to act. Having NPD does not mean you're not human. I can't imagine it being satisfying for someone that is healthy but not everyone is healthy.

very true Cindy!
From all that I've learned about NPD over the last year, even therapists have trouble diagnosing it. First off, these people don't go to therapy because they don't think they are disordered and second, when they do get to therapy, they are such masters as masking, the therapist can't even tell.
There are also different levels of NPD
My therapist said, it's usually the partners of these people that are the ones "privy" to their insanity because their mask eventually has to fall off.
It's always the partners of these people that are labelled as crazy because others just cannot see what they see.

 

[nangiggles]

let's just be clear that being a selfish immature asshole is not DSM IV criteria for NPD

 

[cap gunz]

let's just be clear that being a selfish immature asshole is not DSM IV criteria for NPD

hahahaha...awesome reply.

 

[cindylou]

hahahaha...awesome reply.

I figured that you were pointing out narcissistic traits in your bf and didn't really mean NPD that's why I asked about silent treatment. I could just tell in your tone. We all have narcissistic traits in us, some of us have narcissistic immature personalities NPD is pathological. I have a feeling you would be feeling a lot more traumatized by a year long relationship with someone with actual NPD.

If he is starting to subtly cut you down with shitty little remarks, cuts you off for too long, emotionally abuse you... don't wait for an official diagnosis to dump him.

 

[cap gunz]

I figured that you were pointing out narcissistic traits in your bf and didn't really mean NPD that's why I asked about silent treatment. I could just tell in your tone. We all have narcissistic traits in us, some of us have narcissistic immature personalities NPD is pathological. I have a feeling you would be feeling a lot more traumatized by a year long relationship with someone with actual NPD.

If he is starting to subtly cut you down with shitty little remarks, cuts you off for too long, emotionally abuse you... don't wait for an official diagnosis to dump him.

yeah, I was just being cheeky about the personality disorder. was just a bit of self-deprecating humor about my choice of men.

 

[blueta2]

Ok, now I get it! Hi Cap

 

[cap gunz]

Ok, now I get it! Hi Cap

Hey there.

 

[jackangel]

I figured that you were pointing out narcissistic traits in your bf and didn't really mean NPD that's why I asked about silent treatment. I could just tell in your tone. We all have narcissistic traits in us, some of us have narcissistic immature personalities NPD is pathological. I have a feeling you would be feeling a lot more traumatized by a year long relationship with someone with actual NPD.

If he is starting to subtly cut you down with shitty little remarks, cuts you off for too long, emotionally abuse you... don't wait for an official diagnosis to dump him.

boom!!

 

[cindylou]

yeah, I was just being cheeky about the personality disorder. was just a bit of self-deprecating humor about my choice of men.

lol oh well...he's cute and hung like a porn star

 

[cap gunz]

lol oh well...he's cute and hung like a porn star

...lol...likes Dr. Who, and reads Scientific American in the loo. There is that, too.

When I met him years ago, I thought he was so cute that I moved my office downstairs in our office building to avoid talking to him, because I could talk to him for hours and didn't want to develop a crush on him. I avoided him as if he smelled like spoiled beer cheese in a dirty shoe.