i got into the most surreal disagreement with my kid

[b0und]

What you need to do:

Set up a date with a bitch friend that you want to get rid off.

Invite insane mom over to your place and tell her to make sure you bring her retarded son with her. Offer to drive them, that should seal the deal.

Pick up insane mom and retarded son, tell them "Change of plans - we are going to my friends who would really love to meet you."

Drive them quickly to your bitch friends house, announce joyfully to your bitch friend that you brought your best friends over.

As soon as they are in the house, excuse yourself to the bathroom and F off.

LOL on the way home.

It's what I would do.









b0und (I think stuff like that through)

 

[canadianhitman]

I can understand you not wanting to socialize with this person.

But, in a way, your daughter is a better person than you are...fail!

But that's a win for you in the parenting department...success!

Bottom line, you broke even here, so don't sweat it

 

[nangiggles]

As your daughter hsa the right to pick her own friends so do you....

 

[melohh]

yeah right i would NEVER go out for coffee with her. just because she is your daughter's friend's mom doesn't mean you have to go out with her. my parents don't know half of my friend's parents. the way you described her sounds like this lady who used to live in my neighborhood.. Crazy Nancy. She was just really insane and would wear weird stuff like this woman too. Her house had no electricity or heat though, which is kind of sad. Her kids didn't live with her because they had their own lives but would sometimes check in on her (i know this because my friend lived across the street). At least this woman has her family. Do you know why she's like this? is it because her husband has cancer or has she always been this way?

 

[nangiggles]

Crazy Nancy... I like that....

 

[cw801]

I have to say your daughter sounds kind of like mine.....I wish I was as accepting of people and their families as she is. Kudos to your daughter for obviously realizing this kid is a good person, too - if he truly takes care of his family and deals with that on a daily basis, he's far more mature than many full-grown men I know (and one I had married). I don't think you are a bad person for not going to coffee with a crazy lady.....I doubt I could have. I just don't like to be in uncomfortable situations unless there is a damn good reason for it - and this just doesn't warrant a good enough reason.

 

[melohh]

Crazy Nancy... I like that....

lmao right? sorta catchy

 

[stilleto]

yeah right i would NEVER go out for coffee with her. just because she is your daughter's friend's mom doesn't mean you have to go out with her. my parents don't know half of my friend's parents. the way you described her sounds like this lady who used to live in my neighborhood.. Crazy Nancy. She was just really insane and would wear weird stuff like this woman too. Her house had no electricity or heat though, which is kind of sad. Her kids didn't live with her because they had their own lives but would sometimes check in on her (i know this because my friend lived across the street). At least this woman has her family. Do you know why she's like this? is it because her husband has cancer or has she always been this way?

her look was definitely NOT just from being poor. even long term (hence the reason why she only has one tooth left). that's a long process of neglect and crazy.
one of my good friends looks a little crazy, but I love her and she's CLEAN. she looks funky, not... certifiable.

 

[nangiggles]

Certifiable, Im gonna have to add that to my list....

 

[Captain FT]

not sure if i'm annoyed or proud.

my daughter's best friend is this boy, "B". My daughter once told me that B's father is huge and gross and just sits in front of a computer all day and has terminal cancer. B has 3 siblings, 1 of whom is 18 and mentally retarded. As she told me this, I realized that I have seen a woman at the grocery store who looks INSANE walking around with a retarded adult boy and a few younger kids. I described her and my daughter said it sounded just like B's mom.

Well today we went to the grocery store and there she was. My daughter introduced us and the woman was... indescribable. She wears a long, matted wig. her real hair is a different color, and she pins it to the wig in strange places that stick UP(hard to describe, but I know what I saw). She has 1 tooth, and it's rotted. She wore ORANGE lipstick all over her mouth. I mean, not necessarily on her lips, and not covering all of her lips either- it was mostly on the rest of her face- like on her cheeks and chin. She wore a LOT of clothes that were mismatched and a little dirty - long flowery skirt, leopard tights, white old lady sandals, different flowery blouse, sparkly tank top, dirty scarf around her neck, fake rings on every finger, string tight around her fingers, and magic marker on her arms.

So this woman goes on about how nice my daughter is, and that "B" is her favorite child of hers and that he's such a good, smart boy. She asked if i worked and I said I do. I asked if she worked and she said, "no. believe it or not, I have a college degree (i guess she knows she doesn't look like she would) but since my husband has stage 4 cancer, I get paid by the state to take care of him."

Then she said that maybe one day we could go out for coffee. I said, "uh. sure." and she said that she doesn't drive so I would have to and she might have to bring her (retarded) son with her.
I said, "well I don't have much time because I work, but if i do, i'll call you."

So at home, my daughter kept telling me how nice she is and I stayed quiet. I asked her what their house was like and she said she's not sure because it's always dark, but that B gets straight As and takes care of his family- he's the one that makes sure the rent is paid, etc.
She asked if i was going to have coffee with B's mom and I said, "no."
Now she's mad at me because I'm judging her. I said, "yeah, I am. She looks insane. i'm sure she's very nice, but I don't have to have her in my car or house and I don't want to have coffee with her. I have plenty of friends."
But she's still mad at me for just saying no.

You could always get coffee with her and strike up a conversation about her 21 cats.