I Got Engaged on the weekend........

[rudy76]

Why would you even consider marrying someone you couldn't share everything with?

If you engaged her or married her without telling her, you are commiting a fraud. Imagine she was, say, fucking your best friend. And she decided not to tell you until a few years later (whilst continuing to fuck your best friend on a weekly basis). Just as she is commiting a fraud here, so are you.

The reason you are apprehensive about telling her is because you know, deep down, it will cause problems for the relationship. Because what you really are (a steroid user) isn't what you are presenting to her, because in your mind, what you really are isn't what she wants. This is, psychologically, a problem for you - as much as the fraud you are commiting is for her.

Both of us are firm believers that marriage is a union of 2 different people not a reason to blend into one. She has things in her past that she's never told me about (although I have found out) and that doesn't bug me.

We have been living together for 4 years, own a house together in a great area. We also like to have friends that are different.

I always said I wanted bikers for friends and a church girl for a wife. It's the classic double standard that many men have. We want virgins yet what we have done in the past shouldn't matter....right. Anyway it's not really that extreme but we work just fine together.

Also, I hardly consider myself a "steroid user" after only one 10 week cycle. Hell, I was in jail for 5 hours, got finger printed and charged - that doesn't make me a criminal.

Anyway - I told her about the Dianabol - methandrostenolone - and Winnie - not a big deal so far.

 

[all the whey]

Na, I just don't waste my time with the coniving type... I can do a little better than that.

Oooohhhhhhh!!!!

Your girlfriend is "different".

 

[Cal_21]

Congrats!

 

[jumpmaster82]

if you think she would be cool with it then ide tell her. but if you dont know ide wait bro

 

[Cal_21]

I decided what to do.

I'm going to be honest about the orals only. I'm just finishing with Winstrol at the end of my cycle and I have Dianabol - methandrostenolone - that I will use at the beginning of my next cycle.

The second you mention "needle" lot's of people run. I know her very well - it will be cool if I do it that way and I'll be able to test the waters for if and when the day comes that I tell her or she finds out about the injects.

So true.

 

[advanced-stealth]

Congrats

 

[bbkingpin]

That's not what the bible says. Will it be a Christian ceremony? "Two become one." I make it a habit to include my wife on all matters since we are a team. That's the way domestic relations law views it also. My decisions affect her also. And vice-versa. It's a big step.

Both of us are firm believers that marriage is a union of 2 different people not a reason to blend into one. She has things in her past that she's never told me about (although I have found out) and that doesn't bug me.

We have been living together for 4 years, own a house together in a great area. We also like to have friends that are different.

I always said I wanted bikers for friends and a church girl for a wife. It's the classic double standard that many men have. We want virgins yet what we have done in the past shouldn't matter....right. Anyway it's not really that extreme but we work just fine together.

Also, I hardly consider myself a "steroid user" after only one 10 week cycle. Hell, I was in jail for 5 hours, got finger printed and charged - that doesn't make me a criminal.

Anyway - I told her about the Dianabol - methandrostenolone - and Winnie - not a big deal so far.

 

[sshadoww]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

I went through the same thing last summer. I was honest to a point...I basically showed her the plusses with Testosterone replacement therapy and how millions of guys were being put on it by various physicians. I explained that it was just too expensive for me because my insurance didn't cover it but I knew of a guy who worked in a lab and could get it for me cheaply. She read the internet articles that I gave her (the ones that promote the favorable pro's for it) and there was no issue. Anyway- hope it helps- congrats on the new marriage!

 

[rudy76]

That's not what the bible says. Will it be a Christian ceremony? "Two become one." I make it a habit to include my wife on all matters since we are a team. That's the way domestic relations law views it also. My decisions affect her also. And vice-versa. It's a big step.

Look at my avatar - bible - no bible, Rob f'in Zombie.

I'm not associated with any organized religion - it will not be held in a church and the vows will be from a justice of the peace.

There is a law that states a wife or husband does not have to testify against their spouse but obviously some do and want to based on what I hear on this thread.

So many guys complain about "being trained by the wife" but the way I look at it I'm extra lucky because she knows I'm untrainable. I'm really not a very nice person - I've done some nasty things but my fiancee knows that so lets just add this to the list of the ones she doesn't fully know about. Like I said in my earlier post - I told her about the orals.

However, I am turning over a new leaf and she was there while the page started to turn.