I Got Engaged on the weekend........

[rudy76]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

 

[safety4lyfe]

No be honest...i wouldn't have the slightest clue for what you should do, im way to young for marriage. All I know is honesty is always the best way to go.

Congrats bro on the engagement, and best of luck to you and your lady.

 

[BIGBUCK$]

might be a bad time with all the news going on to admit that you are on.

 

[SaladFork]

might be a bad time with all the news going on to admit that you are on.

I agree...

And congrads!

 

[rudy76]

might be a bad time with all the news going on to admit that you are on.

She'd probably be cool with it in terms of the gear but it's the $$ that would cause problems. Trying to pay for a nice wedding yet I have 4 digits of gear sitting in the rafters.

 

[all the whey]

I have seen this many times over the yrs on the boards and in real life.

At first, girl is so cool that the guy brags she even does his injections.

When the shit hits the fan she will atleast hold it over your head.



Dude I went to school with juiced for 10yrs and his wife injected him. He quit over 2 yrs ago. He finds out she is fucking some other dude and gets pissed and tries to kick her out of the house. She doesn't want to leave. So, she calls police and shows them the test he had in the closet from 2 yrs ago.


Oh. Don't get married in the first place.

 

[PhillyPA#1]

My wife helped me shoot it. She isnt happy about it but I don't feel the need to hide it. Shes been through much more with me though so im thinking that is why its not to big a deal. I am not suggesting that you tell her. It really isn't nessecary that she know.

 

[jaybois]

Yer fucked,congrads though

 

[georgie24]

I have seen this many times over the yrs on the boards and in real life.

At first, girl is so cool that the guy brags she even does his injections.

When the shit hits the fan she will atleast hold it over your head.



Dude I went to school with juiced for 10yrs and his wife injected him. He quit over 2 yrs ago. He finds out she is fucking some other dude and gets pissed and tries to kick her out of the house. She doesn't want to leave. So, she calls police and shows them the test he had in the closet from 2 yrs ago.


Oh. Don't get married in the first place.

cosign

 

[BIGBUCK$]

I have seen this many times over the yrs on the boards and in real life.

At first, girl is so cool that the guy brags she even does his injections.

When the shit hits the fan she will atleast hold it over your head.



Dude I went to school with juiced for 10yrs and his wife injected him. He quit over 2 yrs ago. He finds out she is fucking some other dude and gets pissed and tries to kick her out of the house. She doesn't want to leave. So, she calls police and shows them the test he had in the closet from 2 yrs ago.


Oh. Don't get married in the first place.

+2

 

[BIGBUCK$]

steroids are the heroin of 2008

 

[breakbones]

It's better to inform her asap, Why? because in the future it will only cause an unwanted problem. Plus, if she cant understand you're cycle use now, what makes you think she'll understand then. Plus, right now she's vonerable, so she's succeptable to be more open minded with you. Suck it up and do it.

Good luck.

 

[bigmodean]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

Dont tell her anything she doesnt NEED to know YET....let her bask in this moment or she will blame you for screwing it up.I am the king of dropping subtle messages,if you are smart you will do it that way when the time is right,and when you do,play it off like it is nothing big,she doesnt need to know the details.I have been happily married for 12 years,thats how I told my wife,she's now even cool with my female nurse friend doing injects sometimes(no funny business)She tells me she doesnt like it occasionally,but thats about it.Enjoy these moments of life instead of worrying about this shit,cross that bridge when you get there.

 

[littleb]

I would not say anything yet, wait it out a bit and play it by ear.. always at risk with somebody knowing especially a female (no offense intended) but if somthing goes bad I think we all know how whats the word i am looking for----EVIL---- a pissed off woman can be...

 

[rambleon]

Congrats man

I live with my gf on second year and i've chosen not to tell her. Depends on the girl tho but what with all the media bullshit the chances are slim to none that she'd understand. I'm VERY sure my gf couldn't handle it so i just don't tell her. In the meantime we have a very open and trusting relationship with everything else. Put it this way: What are the benefit of telling her vs. the risk of things turning sour? I kinda think i'm protecting what we have by not telling my woman. U decide for urself but think it through carefully man...

hope ur marriage turns out even better than u hope it will man

 

[Magick69]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

it depends on the woman. you really need to know her. If i was you i would wait....

 

[st8grad]

What if you tell her and she isn't cool with it. Are you willing to give up one or the other? She may be fine with you using gear. But again it is an illegal activity, so if you have kids and your marriage doesn't work out, she will use that against you instantly.

If you aren't harming your body and it isn't hurting her or putting her in jeopardy in any way, then you really don't need to tell her.

She doesn't need to know how many people you slept with or that you got fired from McDonald's stealing money from the register or whatever right?

If you dream about having sex with Jessica Simpson, do you have to tell her as soon as you wake up?

You're choosing not to reveal something that is personal. It's one thing if you get confronted and lie about it. Honestly, nothing good can come from telling her.

 

[rudy76]

I decided what to do.

I'm going to be honest about the orals only. I'm just finishing with Winstrol at the end of my cycle and I have dbol that I will use at the beginning of my next cycle.

The second you mention "needle" lot's of people run. I know her very well - it will be cool if I do it that way and I'll be able to test the waters for if and when the day comes that I tell her or she finds out about the injects.

 

[rudy76]

Oh, by the way, thanks for all the best wishes.

 

[Bridger]

Congrats.

Im recently engaged and going to marry in 6 months. I have struggled with questions like this myself.


Alot of the responses i've read seem to be justifications for keeping a secret or lying about an illegal and potentially harmful practice. Dont get me wrong, i have enjoyed the benefits of a few compounds and loved them, as responsibly as possible. However, there are problems that could arise from using that could have a profound effect on your wife and/or children in the future. Medical, financial, legal, etc. Im not saying to do one thing or another, but if she isn't cool with using can you lie to her while you do it? Thats a question i have asked myself when wondering if getting married is something i can handle. I sure as hell dont have it figured out, but i have learned from past experiences where i have lied about bad habits and know that is not a road i will ever go down again.

Sorry bro, probably not the response you wanted to hear. Good Luck.

 

[T-mo]

kinda in the same exact boat as you bro....going to happen sometime in the next month....before I even stared using I told my girl I was going to do it.....she cool with it though....must be a pretty cool chick....she like to watch me shoot it!!!!if you know what i mean

 

[bluejay]

Congrats....

My girl already assumed I was on before ever telling her. Either way, I did so long before the relationship got to the stage where we became engaged. However, in your case, I would eventually tell her because she will probably flip if she catches you trying to hide something from her. For your own peace of mind, I think it is best not to hide it forever because alot of women are sneaky and they will find anything the second you let your guard down. hehe.

 

[falcyou]

married here bro, and my wife knows. (even does my shots!)

I let it our gradually. first told her I have a real scrict supplement regiment and control my TEST and hormone levels with monthly blood work. Then I let he know my test was low and needed to start adding TEST to increase my already low natural production. (make it sound like "hey, it's science....i need it")
then you start adding some Tren into the syringe with the Test because it "counters some of the sides". she will never know the difference and soon enough wont give a shit. by then she is used to seeing you stick yourself and it's just normal and shes already gone along with it

 

[hesnobradpitt]

Congrats....

My girl already assumed I was on before ever telling her. Either way, I did so long before the relationship got to the stage where we became engaged. However, in your case, I would eventually tell her because she will probably flip if she catches you trying to hide something from her. For your own peace of mind, I think it is best not to hide it forever because alot of women are sneaky and they will find anything the second you let your guard down. hehe.

+1

Brad.

 

[x_con]

married here bro, and my wife knows. (even does my shots!)

I let it our gradually. first told her I have a real scrict supplement regiment and control my TEST and hormone levels with monthly blood work. Then I let he know my test was low and needed to start adding TEST to increase my already low natural production. (make it sound like "hey, it's science....i need it")
then you start adding some trenbolone into the syringe with the Test because it "counters some of the sides". she will never know the difference and soon enough wont give a shit. by then she is used to seeing you stick yourself and it's just normal and shes already gone along with it

genius, the same way I handled my ex-wife. Best advice on this post.

X_con

 

[ironcheif1984]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

Congrats Bro !!!!

 

[eddymerckx]

congrats bro---gear use is weird my wife is all for it-(prefer it over old and fat) but a friend's wife would chop his nuts off so he would need hrt...and this from a woman with a boob job and botox

 

[Inhibitor13]

I say no, dont tell her. Why? Cause I too see too many guys who say their wife was cool with it at first but when shit started hitting the fan, their wives held that shit over their head ! For instance, everytime you get a little angry at her for something she'd done or what not, she is going to blame aas as to why your acting like that. Its a never ending battle ! Not all girls are like this but why take the risk. Just make sure you hide that shit nicely or at least do it unitl AFTER your married. The media is having a hayday with aas and they will tell anyone who is willing to listen on how "bad" steroids are for you.

 

[needtogetaas]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

I tell my wife everything. If she leaves me because of it thats her loss.

 

[bbkingpin]

You should find out your wife's expectations as far as having kids and make sure you are fertile when you both want kids. And I do not think you should let psychological "addiction" or preoccupation with winning a contest influence your timing. Put the anabolic androgenic steroids in a drawer or bury in the back yard for one year. Family first!!! And don't break your wife's heart or confuse her by not doing proper PCT - post cycle therapy - and being limp when she wants to do you know what. That is psychologically damaging to the person you love, so either tell her so she understands but, if she wont understand, don't do anything (unbeknownst to her) that will negatively impact your married life. Your libido and fertility are important and are necessary -- that's why men and women get married.

 

[rudy76]

Well I brought up the orals I plan to use on my next cycle with her last night and also the stanozolol I used this time.

You know what she said "Well, be careful." And that was it. I was ready for a big discussion / argument but I almost shit myself when she said that and then just walked away. Maybe that's a bad sign....for now I'll take it.

She honestly doesn't see much of a difference between the now banned pro-hormones I used to always use and these.

The pin discussion can wait.

 

[all the whey]

Well I brought up the orals I plan to use on my next cycle with her last night and also the stanozolol I used this time.

You know what she said "Well, be careful." And that was it. I was ready for a big discussion / argument but I almost shit myself when she said that and then just walked away. Maybe that's a bad sign....for now I'll take it.

She honestly doesn't see much of a difference between the now banned pro-hormones I used to always use and these.

The pin discussion can wait.

How old are you bro? How old is she?

 

[rudy76]

How old are you bro? How old is she?

I'm 31, she's 30.

Oh, by the way - I think she already knew something was up because evry time she comes in here the screen says "Anabolic Steroid Cycles" at the top and if I minimize it always says "Steroid Discussion" anyway.

We do plan to have kids so I think after this I'm going to do 1 more cycle and then wait a long while. Maybe just do the odd anavar, winnie cycle.

 

[hurricane]

congratz

 

[all the whey]

I'm 31, she's 30.

Oh, by the way - I think she already knew something was up because evry time she comes in here the screen says "Anabolic Steroid Cycles" at the top and if I minimize it always says "Steroid Discussion" anyway.

We do plan to have kids so I think after this I'm going to do 1 more cycle and then wait a long while. Maybe just do the odd anavar, winnie cycle.

Congrats on waiting till over 30! Your chances of divorce drop almost in half.



But, odds are she knew already. She isn't going to say shit to rock the boat before the wedding.

But, remember.

Guys do not know the real women they are marring. But, women know the man and how they are going to change him.

Seriously!

 

[motorol@]

i don't know how you guys hide it. My gf called me out on it when the nuts shrivel and the muscles pump up

 

[Synpax]

Why would you even consider marrying someone you couldn't share everything with?

If you engaged her or married her without telling her, you are commiting a fraud. Imagine she was, say, fucking your best friend. And she decided not to tell you until a few years later (whilst continuing to fuck your best friend on a weekly basis). Just as she is commiting a fraud here, so are you.

The reason you are apprehensive about telling her is because you know, deep down, it will cause problems for the relationship. Because what you really are (a steroid user) isn't what you are presenting to her, because in your mind, what you really are isn't what she wants. This is, psychologically, a problem for you - as much as the fraud you are commiting is for her.

 

[all the whey]

i don't know how you guys hide it. My gf called me out on it when the nuts shrivel and the muscles pump up

That's because the other women must be older or smarter than yours.

Most women gather evidence (not just juice) for the future. Then use it when needed.

 

[all the whey]

Well I brought up the orals I plan to use on my next cycle with her last night and also the stanozolol I used this time.

You know what she said "Well, be careful." And that was it. I was ready for a big discussion / argument but I almost shit myself when she said that and then just walked away. Maybe that's a bad sign....for now I'll take it.

She honestly doesn't see much of a difference between the now banned pro-hormones I used to always use and these.

The pin discussion can wait.

Don't worry bro.

After you are married you won't be getting anything oral.

 

[motorol@]

That's because the other women must be older or smarter than yours.

Most women gather evidence (not just juice) for the future. Then use it when needed.

Na, I just don't waste my time with the coniving type... I can do a little better than that.

 

[rudy76]

Why would you even consider marrying someone you couldn't share everything with?

If you engaged her or married her without telling her, you are commiting a fraud. Imagine she was, say, fucking your best friend. And she decided not to tell you until a few years later (whilst continuing to fuck your best friend on a weekly basis). Just as she is commiting a fraud here, so are you.

The reason you are apprehensive about telling her is because you know, deep down, it will cause problems for the relationship. Because what you really are (a steroid user) isn't what you are presenting to her, because in your mind, what you really are isn't what she wants. This is, psychologically, a problem for you - as much as the fraud you are commiting is for her.

Both of us are firm believers that marriage is a union of 2 different people not a reason to blend into one. She has things in her past that she's never told me about (although I have found out) and that doesn't bug me.

We have been living together for 4 years, own a house together in a great area. We also like to have friends that are different.

I always said I wanted bikers for friends and a church girl for a wife. It's the classic double standard that many men have. We want virgins yet what we have done in the past shouldn't matter....right. Anyway it's not really that extreme but we work just fine together.

Also, I hardly consider myself a "steroid user" after only one 10 week cycle. Hell, I was in jail for 5 hours, got finger printed and charged - that doesn't make me a criminal.

Anyway - I told her about the Dianabol - methandrostenolone - and Winnie - not a big deal so far.

 

[all the whey]

Na, I just don't waste my time with the coniving type... I can do a little better than that.

Oooohhhhhhh!!!!

Your girlfriend is "different".

 

[Cal_21]

Congrats!

 

[jumpmaster82]

if you think she would be cool with it then ide tell her. but if you dont know ide wait bro

 

[Cal_21]

I decided what to do.

I'm going to be honest about the orals only. I'm just finishing with Winstrol at the end of my cycle and I have Dianabol - methandrostenolone - that I will use at the beginning of my next cycle.

The second you mention "needle" lot's of people run. I know her very well - it will be cool if I do it that way and I'll be able to test the waters for if and when the day comes that I tell her or she finds out about the injects.

So true.

 

[advanced-stealth]

Congrats

 

[bbkingpin]

That's not what the bible says. Will it be a Christian ceremony? "Two become one." I make it a habit to include my wife on all matters since we are a team. That's the way domestic relations law views it also. My decisions affect her also. And vice-versa. It's a big step.

Both of us are firm believers that marriage is a union of 2 different people not a reason to blend into one. She has things in her past that she's never told me about (although I have found out) and that doesn't bug me.

We have been living together for 4 years, own a house together in a great area. We also like to have friends that are different.

I always said I wanted bikers for friends and a church girl for a wife. It's the classic double standard that many men have. We want virgins yet what we have done in the past shouldn't matter....right. Anyway it's not really that extreme but we work just fine together.

Also, I hardly consider myself a "steroid user" after only one 10 week cycle. Hell, I was in jail for 5 hours, got finger printed and charged - that doesn't make me a criminal.

Anyway - I told her about the Dianabol - methandrostenolone - and Winnie - not a big deal so far.

 

[sshadoww]

I have decided to step onto the slippery slope called marriage. I got engaged this weekend. I have a dilemna though - do I fess up about gear use or just wait a few years until I win my first "Mr. Muscle" contest and then spill the beans.

What have you guys done - has there ever been someone you felt you just had to be honest with or am I just being stupid?

I went through the same thing last summer. I was honest to a point...I basically showed her the plusses with Testosterone replacement therapy and how millions of guys were being put on it by various physicians. I explained that it was just too expensive for me because my insurance didn't cover it but I knew of a guy who worked in a lab and could get it for me cheaply. She read the internet articles that I gave her (the ones that promote the favorable pro's for it) and there was no issue. Anyway- hope it helps- congrats on the new marriage!

 

[rudy76]

That's not what the bible says. Will it be a Christian ceremony? "Two become one." I make it a habit to include my wife on all matters since we are a team. That's the way domestic relations law views it also. My decisions affect her also. And vice-versa. It's a big step.

Look at my avatar - bible - no bible, Rob f'in Zombie.

I'm not associated with any organized religion - it will not be held in a church and the vows will be from a justice of the peace.

There is a law that states a wife or husband does not have to testify against their spouse but obviously some do and want to based on what I hear on this thread.

So many guys complain about "being trained by the wife" but the way I look at it I'm extra lucky because she knows I'm untrainable. I'm really not a very nice person - I've done some nasty things but my fiancee knows that so lets just add this to the list of the ones she doesn't fully know about. Like I said in my earlier post - I told her about the orals.

However, I am turning over a new leaf and she was there while the page started to turn.