I can't get into dating again...

[heatherrae]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

 

[swole]

at this point in your ef posting career, nobody really gives a shit.

 

[needtogetaas]

So in other words he is gay right?

 

[heatherrae]

at this point in your ef posting career, nobody really gives a shit.

Dang!

It can be a career? Do I need to take out a student loan to learn this trade?

 

[heatherrae]

So in other words he is gay right?

who is gay?

 

[Dial_tone]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

So you put the tyke in the wet spot.....wow, that's low down.

 

[swole]

post a picture of your belly and use that as an avi

 

[needtogetaas]

who is gay?

The guy who waist is time coming up to see you and gets no vagina for all his work. He is ether gay or a real dumb ass for getting stuck in the friend zone.

 

[heatherrae]

So you put the tyke in the wet spot.....wow, that's low down.

ouch! That hit me. lol.

 

[heatherrae]

post a picture of your belly and use that as an avi

My belly doesn't look all that bad, actually, for having had a baby recently.

 

[heatherrae]

The guy who waist is time coming up to see you and gets no vagina for all his work. He is ether gay or a real dumb ass for getting stuck in the friend zone.

I didn't say I didn't give him any. lolololol.

 

[txbondsman]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

<<<<<<< who is he?

 

[all the whey]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

Damn. You must be good if you have guy from Texas come see you.

Is he an old bf? How did you meet him?

 

[borris]

To bad you couldn't keep a relationship with his father, you know, the one that stuck his penis in you, the guy who you let semenize you, the one that you put trust in as you had unprotected sex. Next time (probably won't be one) learn from your mistakes and you won't bitching about dating new men because you got burnt by the others

 

[calveless wonder]

you're in a transitional stage...no need to rush things.

when the little dude gets older i'm sure it'll be more feasible.

 

[heatherrae]

<<<<<<< who is he?

The guy is from Dallas. Last time I saw him I had not had sex in EVER. It was so good I literally drooled on him...lol.

 

[heatherrae]

Damn. You must be good if you have guy from Texas come see you.

Is he an old bf? How did you meet him?

I've known him for years, but just actually started seeing him here and there when I was prego.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

Generally speaking it could be said of single moms that they tend to want to just get down to business more quickly than before the (single) mom status, because they have so little time to spare now. It can turn into a vicious cycle if you're not careful. Until you find a guy you know is decent all around a good vibrator could be your best friend.

 

[heatherrae]

you're in a transitional stage...no need to rush things.

when the little dude gets older i'm sure it'll be more feasible.

Yeah, sad but true. I sort of like having the long distance thing going right now. I don't have to try to see him all the time but when we have the time to get together it is cool.

 

[all the whey]

The guy who waist is time coming up to see you and gets no vagina for all his work. He is ether gay or a real dumb ass for getting stuck in the friend zone.

Oh he is getting it.

That is the one good thing of dating a single mom with a young kid. You don't have to spend the night.lol

 

[heatherrae]

Generally speaking it could be said of single moms that they tend to want to just get down to business more quickly than before the (single) mom status, because they have so little time to spare now. It can turn into a vicious cycle if you're not careful. Until you find a guy you know is decent all around a good vibrator could be your best friend.

I could see how that could be true, for sure. Maybe it is good to just keep a guy in the wings for emergency luvins...lol.

 

[txbondsman]

If he say's "I know this bondsman, and you know wtf he did..." Don't believe a word he says......

 

[heatherrae]

If he say's "I know this bondsman, and you know wtf he did..." Don't believe a word he says......

ok.

 

[all the whey]

Generally speaking it could be said of single moms that they tend to want to just get down to business more quickly than before the (single) mom status, because they have so little time to spare now. It can turn into a vicious cycle if you're not careful. Until you find a guy you know is decent all around a good vibrator could be your best friend.

Hell yes.

When I meet a single mom that is out. (everytime I go out) I ask about who watches the kid. If she doesn't have someone to watch him often, then you know it is go time!

 

[binö]

does this texas guy just fly up, hit it and leave? he has no other business in ky?
he just stops over, hits it, and flys home...doesn't have to bounce lil devin on his knee, visit relatives, or watch chic flicks? what a pimp[

 

[Razorguns]

easy. don't date.

pick your kid over a guy.

r

 

[swole]

Oh he is getting it.

That is the one good thing of dating a single mom with a young kid. You don't have to spend the night.lol

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

 

[all the whey]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

yeah

I like home field advantage, because I have all my supplies handy.

But, it is best to go to there house. Then, you can leave. Because, all guys have to work early.lol

 

[curvymommy]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

Wow, I am so glad I only sleep with someone who loves me. I CAN relate to a house guest overstaying their welcome though. If they were in my bed and I didn't want them ther that would be beyond horrible.

 

[all the whey]

Wow, I am so glad I only sleep with someone who loves me. I CAN relate to a house guest overstaying their welcome though. If they were in my bed and I didn't want them ther that would be beyond horrible.

Well, what did you mean when you asked me spend the night with you and your husband?

 

[curvymommy]

Well, what did you mean when you asked me spend the night with you and your husband?

LOL! Well, when I start fixing you a plate of leftovers for the ride home and walking you to the door talking about how "we should do this again soon" you'll know it's time to go.

 

[all the whey]

LOL! Well, when I start fixing you a plate of leftovers for the ride home and walking you to the door talking about how "we should do this again soon" you'll know it's time to go.

Great! I love leftovers. What do you normally fix for breakfast?





JK curvymom. I love you! (and your husband)

 

[bw1]

Quit being such a stuck up bitch

 

[binö]

Quit being such a stuck up bitch

she got dudes flying from texas to hit it, she's importing!@!!@#!@#
not stuck up

 

[bw1]

she got dudes flying from texas to hit it, she's importing!@!!@#!@#
not stuck up

For her?

 

[curvymommy]

Great! I love leftovers. What do you normally fix for breakfast?





JK curvymom. I love you! (and your husband)

We eat out a lot for breakfast

 

[binö]

For her?

wtf?

 

[gotmilk]

So in other words he is gay right?

jon's geigh?

 

[captainahole]

Sounds like a case of separation issues. Face it you just had your baby your focus is on your baby. Your little man is your world right now. If you had a man in your life right now he would be really be pissed because you would be ignoring him and he would feel jealous. So no wonder you can't get into dating a person you can give little or no attention to. You'll date when your ready so don't beat yourself up and the right person gets your attention.

 

[silverstar1025]

Heather you will get more comfortable leaving your baby later. It is totally normal to feel the way you do when they are so small. Once they are in those 2s you will want your alone Mommy time every now and then trust me.

 

[puddlemonkey]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

How is Covergrl80 doing anyway? I never see her post anymore.

 

[jnevin]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

I'm willing to bet she'd leave if you'd just pay her electric bill so she has a well lit house to go back to.

 

[puddlemonkey]

To bad you couldn't keep a relationship with his father, you know, the one that stuck his penis in you, the guy who you let semenize you, the one that you put trust in as you had unprotected sex. Next time (probably won't be one) learn from your mistakes and you won't bitching about dating new men because you got burnt by the others

d00d!

 

[jnevin]

I can't imagine many people being that into dating with a brand new kiddo to take care of. I wouldn't think much of someone that wanted to get out and get their groove on instead of being with their baby.

 

[biteme]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

I couldn't either. I have no desire to play that game again.

 

[TC2]

I can't imagine many people being that into dating with a brand new kiddo to take care of. I wouldn't think much of someone that wanted to get out and get their groove on instead of being with their baby.

I knew this one chick that was all over my buddies dick and she had given birth like 6 weeks earlier.

 

[jnevin]

How is Covergrl80 doing anyway? I never see her post anymore.

Beat me by a post.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Beat me by a post.

I quick like cat!

 

[gotmilk]

I knew this one chick that was all over my buddies dick and she had given birth like 6 weeks earlier.

You know K FED?

 

[blueta2]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

When I played the field for the first time in my early 30's, I was like this.
I could not believe the dude would fall asleep in my bed.
In the morning, I would always have some lie about them having to leave. They always wanted breakfast........yeah, I don't think so!

 

[biteme]

When I played the field for the first time in my early 30's, I was like this.
I could not believe the dude would fall asleep in my bed.
In the morning, I would always have some lie about them having to leave. They always wanted breakfast........yeah, I don't think so!

I would have been ready for another round or 3.

 

[nimbus]

They always wanted breakfast........yeah, I don't think so!

Ha! getting swiped in at the dining hall the next morning is sometimes the best part

 

[nefertiti]

the WORST is that hookup where you want her to leave your place asap so badly when ur done

then she spends the night and you're up all night, sleeping 3.56 minutes at a time, waking up constantly wishing you had the entire bed to yourself, so disgusted that this stupid bitch is still here thinking you give a shit

then finally at 7 AM she goes because that's when you told her you had to leave for work when really you don't have to leave until 9 you just wanted some time to yourself but then you get wood, fuck her in the morning (doggy style ONLY) then send her on her way

lol...I dated a guy for like seven or eight months who HATED the fact that I always went home. But, I'm a very light sleeper and an insomniac and nothing is worse than lying awake for two hours and waking up six times during the night once you DO fall asleep because they shifted their weight or something.

 

[Delinquent]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

You'll get over that pretty quick. My wife was the same way for the first 6 months or so. Now she would kill for a night alone. She has not had a night without her in the 11 months that she has been alive. I have had one.

 

[Arabian]

I've been asked out a few times and went on one lunch date. However, I just can't get into it. To go out on a date I would have to hire a sitter for the baby. The truth is, I just miss my baby all day while I'm at work and cant imagine giving up an evening with him to spend some time with some guy who, let's face statistics here, is about 85% likely to be a real dud. MEH. I just can't get into it.

I do have one hottie who comes to see me from Texas but he understands that Devin sleeps in my bed at night...lol.

Well lives over for you,so you might as well join a covent/

 

[heavy_duty]

I didnt read all the above shit but it is never a good idea to let your baby sleep with you.

 

[javaguru]

I didnt read all the above shit but it is never a good idea to let your baby sleep with you.

Beat me to it; If she keeps it up the lack of boundaries will come back to haunt her. Would the child be in her bed if she were married to baby daddy, nope. The child needs to be raised with those same boundaries.

 

[EnderJE]

To bad you couldn't keep a relationship with his father, you know, the one that stuck his penis in you, the guy who you let semenize you, the one that you put trust in as you had unprotected sex. Next time (probably won't be one) learn from your mistakes and you won't bitching about dating new men because you got burnt by the others

Umm. Did you read the post where she mentioned that her guy punched her in the face and was physical with her? I don't blame her for leaving.

 

[all the whey]

Beat me to it; If she keeps it up the lack of boundaries will come back to haunt her. Would the child be in her bed if she were married to baby daddy, nope. The child needs to be raised with those same boundaries.

I know quite a few babys that still sleep in bed with mom and dad. But, I think that's so mom has an excuse not to have sex.

But, I agree. Devin is going to be a sissy boy if she doesn't cut the cord.

 

[puddlemonkey]

I dated a girl briefly that would let the kid sleep in her bed. HE WAS 6 YEARS OLD! She said she let it go on too long and couldn't break him of the habit.

 

[javaguru]

I know quite a few babys that still sleep in bed with mom and dad. But, I think that's so mom has an excuse not to have sex.

But, I agree. Devin is going to be a sissy boy if she doesn't cut the cord.

I had raised the issue in earlier threads about my concern for her raising a boy as a single mother; They all end up as momma's boys wanting to cuddle with mom in their teens.

 

[all the whey]

I dated a girl briefly that would let the kid sleep in her bed. HE WAS 6 YEARS OLD! She said she let it go on too long and couldn't break him of the habit.

yeah I went out with a girl who 5yr old still slept with her. (had a 3 yr old that didn't though??) She admitted she did it because she didn't want to have sex with her ex. But, she also said she couldn't break her of the habit.

But, she thought I was a dick for telling her just to put her in bed and let her cry until she falls asleep.

 

[javaguru]

yeah I went out with a girl who 5yr old still slept with her. (had a 3 yr old that didn't though??) She admitted she did it because she didn't want to have sex with her ex. But, she also said she couldn't break her of the habit.

But, she thought I was a dick for telling her just to put her in bed and let her cry until she falls asleep.

Parents these days....bunch of fucking Chamberlain's.

 

[all the whey]

I had raised the issue in earlier threads about my concern for her raising a boy as a single mother; They all end up as momma's boys wanting to cuddle with mom in their teens.

Yes, you can spot a kid raised without a strong male influence a mile away. This is part of the Pussification of America.

But, I am not worried about Heather. She will find herself a sucker...I mean husband.

 

[javaguru]

Yes, you can spot a kid raised without a strong male influence a mile away. This is part of the Pussification of America.

But, I am not worried about Heather. She will find herself a sucker...I mean husband.

But if a dude that flies from Texas to see her on the weekend, beta male, doesn't have the balls to raise the issue then there isn't much hope for the little guy; Healother II.

 

[all the whey]

But if a dude that flies from Texas to see her on the weekend, beta male, doesn't have the balls to raise the issue then there isn't much hope for the little guy; Healother II.

Yeah. It would take a strong guy to go up against Heather about her little Devin.

A guy at the gym told me he was getting a divorce tonight. (I begged him not to marry her) The number one reason for the divorce is she will not discipline her kids or let him. Her kids are always in trouble and never listen. His kids do listen. (I see it at the gym)

He is pretty beat down. He works 70-80hrs a week to pay for her kids. But, he takes it like a bitch and can't punish her kids.

 

[javaguru]

Yeah. It would take a strong guy to go up against Heather about her little Devin.

A guy at the gym told me he was getting a divorce tonight. (I begged him not to marry her) The number one reason for the divorce is she will not discipline her kids or let him. Her kids are always in trouble and never listen. His kids do listen. (I see it at the gym)

He is pretty beat down. He works 70-80hrs a week to pay for her kids. But, he takes it like a bitch and can't punish her kids.

Women are the worst when it comes to discipline.; They relegate bad cop to the husband but when he isn't involved anymore.The worst situation to be in as a man is the one of "step father."

I got together with my group of friends last week and had some drinks, one of my friends is a successful executive in his mid 40's that married a hot 28 year old. She quit her job a few months ago because her boss "made her mad" and has been gainfully unemployed for the last three months...I told him so....

 

[nimbus]

lol, step right up and twist the dagger folks!

 

[javaguru]

lol, step right up and twist the dagger folks!

I like HR and I know it's hard being a single mom but my advice stands. ATW can verify my expertise in dating single moms and give you my references. They (single moms) need to resist some of their their maternal instincts.

 

[borris]

Umm. Did you read the post where she mentioned that her guy punched her in the face and was physical with her? I don't blame her for leaving.

Smart women don't get into a relationship, stay in a relationship and have unprotected sex with men that do that in the first place

 

[borris]

I didn't say I didn't give him any. lolololol.

cool, so he flies up from Dallas, hits it, then flies back to his real girlfriend(s).... must be cool being an area code ho... And you wonder why you can't find a "non-dud" lmao .... nice pond you fish in

 

[puddlemonkey]

lol, step right up and twist the dagger folks!

borris wont let go long enough to let anyone else have a turn.

 

[Smurfy]

Sounds like a case of separation issues. Face it you just had your baby your focus is on your baby. Your little man is your world right now. If you had a man in your life right now he would be really be pissed because you would be ignoring him and he would feel jealous. So no wonder you can't get into dating a person you can give little or no attention to. You'll date when your ready so don't beat yourself up and the right person gets your attention.

true

 

[Gymgurl]

Dont worry about it....when the time is right you will know it. Just concentrate on your homelife...the rest will happen

 

[bw1]

I'd date ever one in here
















But your still all fags

 

[Gymgurl]

Come here big boy....

 

[nefertiti]

Smart women don't get into a relationship, stay in a relationship and have unprotected sex with men that do that in the first place

A lot of smart women are capable of making bad judgement calls...the real mistake would have been if she was still with this guy. As far as her being an area code ho....she's an adult. If she wants to get some, that's her perogative lol.

 

[bw1]

A lot of smart women are capable of making bad judgement calls...the real mistake would have been if she was still with this guy. As far as her being an area code ho....she's an adult. If she wants to get some, that's her perogative lol.

"Smart Women?" Where? Is there such a thing?

 

[txbondsman]

Come here big boy....

<<<< pick me! pick me!!
I wanna be your cowboy, and you can be my cowgurl!!

 

[binö]

A lot of smart women are capable of making bad judgement calls...the real mistake would have been if she was still with this guy. As far as her being an area code ho....she's an adult. If she wants to get some, that's her perogative lol.

I'm confused here, hr says she can't get into dating but has no problem letting some stranger from texas fly up to hit it?
that'd doesn't make sense to me

 

[nefertiti]

I'm confused here, hr says she can't get into dating but has no problem letting some stranger from texas fly up to hit it?
that'd doesn't make sense to me

Look at it this way -

There are two factors.

1) Time - Someone who comes over, spends some time with her and Devin, and a little time with her and just her....well he's not taking her from her baby as long as a dinner date.

2) Men in my baby's life factor - kind of irrelevant at this point in his life, but keeping things casual with someone leaves her free to completely prioritize devin. I remember a few years back in some interview Angelina Jolie commented that she didn't date because she didn't want anyone in her kid's life who wouldn't be a stable fixture, but that she "took lovers."

Now - ideally, somewhere down the line heather meets some nice guy who's good to her and the little one, and they all become one big happy family. But since she's not currently willing to invest the time in finding said guy, why not still get her cookies? As long as she's being safe and staying emotionally uninvested, I don't see the crime.

 

[nimbus]

oooh deleted gambino post! 2/2/08; forgive but not forget

 

[nefertiti]

lol ut oh.

Was he being mean?

 

[silverstar1025]

oooh deleted gambino post! 2/2/08; forgive but not forget

lol

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Look at it this way -

There are two factors.

1) Time - Someone who comes over, spends some time with her and Devin, and a little time with her and just her....well he's not taking her from her baby as long as a dinner date.

2) Men in my baby's life factor - kind of irrelevant at this point in his life, but keeping things casual with someone leaves her free to completely prioritize devin. I remember a few years back in some interview Angelina Jolie commented that she didn't date because she didn't want anyone in her kid's life who wouldn't be a stable fixture, but that she "took lovers."

Now - ideally, somewhere down the line heather meets some nice guy who's good to her and the little one, and they all become one big happy family. But since she's not currently willing to invest the time in finding said guy, why not still get her cookies? As long as she's being safe and staying emotionally uninvested, I don't see the crime.

Funny how we call them lovers when all it is is sex. No wonder the L word is such an issue in relationships.

 

[mountinman]

Sounds like you would be better off trying to date a gay guy.At least you could bitch about guys together and you would have so much more in common.

 

[JayC9]

I didnt read all the above shit but it is never a good idea to let your baby sleep with you.

dozing off and accidentally smothering the baby?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Damn, some of you guys are pretty freaking harsh.

The fact that she has her infant son in bed with her is not a problem. Why would it be? If she is comfortable with him there then... so? If the child is still there when he is 6 (unless it is a matter of economy which sometimes life has a way of doing that to people) then I would raise an eyebrow but even then, WTF am I to pass judgment if it is working FOR THEM?

As for her boinking another adult consentually.... so? She is a grown woman supporting herself and her son. She doesn't need to give explanations to anyone - period.

Ms Heatherrae - I can completely understand your feelings. You want a particular component of an adult relationship (sex, which is a very strong biological urge) but aren't ready to give/risk all of yourself and that is why you are opting for these types of infrequent situations. As for dating... what's the rush? No one WANTS to be alone forever, but your feelings of not wanting to give up any of your "mommy" time to opt for finding a perspective life partner are completely normal. So why fight them? Take this time to be YOU singular before you concentrate of finding a YOU plural.

And may I offer you a bit of unsolicited advice to avoid the BS on elite C&C? The Old Grump says, come to Texas and bring the baby. WE will gladly watch him while you go on your date here. We live in a suburb of Dallas. They have carseats for Harleys... right?

 

[mrplunkey]

dozing off and accidentally smothering the baby?

Nope, but its considered a "regressive" behavior by my childhood shrinks. Some believe it can hold them back developmentally.

 

[mrplunkey]

cool, so he flies up from Dallas, hits it, then flies back to his real girlfriend(s).... must be cool being an area code ho... And you wonder why you can't find a "non-dud" lmao .... nice pond you fish in

I just wouldn't advertise the long-distance hook-up. I can't imagine it helping her find a "non-dud", so why even mention it?

And yes, if I were in that situation even as a male I wouldn't mention it either. If you were looking for someone "quality", that person knowing you had a fuck-buddy sure can't help and would most likely hurt your search.

 

[binö]

lol ut oh.

Was he being mean?

no, i don't think i was...just felt like i was arguing for the sake of arguing

 

[binö]

Damn, some of you guys are pretty freaking harsh.

The fact that she has her infant son in bed with her is not a problem. Why would it be? If she is comfortable with him there then... so? If the child is still there when he is 6 (unless it is a matter of economy which sometimes life has a way of doing that to people) then I would raise an eyebrow but even then, WTF am I to pass judgment if it is working FOR THEM?

As for her boinking another adult consentually.... so? She is a grown woman supporting herself and her son. She doesn't need to give explanations to anyone - period.

Ms Heatherrae - I can completely understand your feelings. You want a particular component of an adult relationship (sex, which is a very strong biological urge) but aren't ready to give/risk all of yourself and that is why you are opting for these types of infrequent situations. As for dating... what's the rush? No one WANTS to be alone forever, but your feelings of not wanting to give up any of your "mommy" time to opt for finding a perspective life partner are completely normal. So why fight them? Take this time to be YOU singular before you concentrate of finding a YOU plural.

And may I offer you a bit of unsolicited advice to avoid the BS on elite C&C? The Old Grump says, come to Texas and bring the baby. WE will gladly watch him while you go on your date here. We live in a suburb of Dallas. They have carseats for Harleys... right?

i just think that if you aren't ready to date, random sechs with a stranger you're not gonna be ready for either.

 

[Bikini Mod]

i just think that if you aren't ready to date, random sechs with a stranger you're not gonna be ready for either.

You sir, are correct.

I don't believe the situation she was referring to, though was random sex with a stranger. She does have a long-distance e-thing going... Heck, ya'll know that the Old Grump and I "met" via the internet and because we were both honest, the e-getting to know one another was accurate. But that could go the other way too.

There is nothing wrong with two adults who choose to have a somewhat limited relationship but I wouldn't go betting the farm that it will turn into something more either.

 

[binö]

You sir, are correct.

I don't believe the situation she was referring to, though was random sex with a stranger. She does have a long-distance e-thing going... Heck, ya'll know that the Old Grump and I "met" via the internet and because we were both honest, the e-getting to know one another was accurate. But that could go the other way too.

There is nothing wrong with two adults who choose to have a somewhat limited relationship but I wouldn't go betting the farm that it will turn into something more either.

agree
but isn't that basically dating? i'm sure texas stud is not a complete random...basically she is low key dating someone.
which makes this thread irrelevant.
fuck it i'm out to party

 

[Bikini Mod]

agree
but isn't that basically dating? i'm sure texas stud is not a complete random...basically she is low key dating someone.
which makes this thread irrelevant.
fuck it i'm out to party

LOL The Old Grump is ragging on my ass to get it in gear to go out to ride. We will be over at Stroker's at some point (gotta drop off the bike for the repairs from when he dumped it back in October). You should check that place out... hehehehehee Sundays are always packed with THE ODDEST SORTS.

 

[heatherrae]

I had raised the issue in earlier threads about my concern for her raising a boy as a single mother; They all end up as momma's boys wanting to cuddle with mom in their teens.

Read Dr. Sears. I'm a proponent of "attachment parenting."

 

[heatherrae]

I'm confused here, hr says she can't get into dating but has no problem letting some stranger from texas fly up to hit it?
that'd doesn't make sense to me

He's not a stranger. I've known him for 15 years.

 

[myway]

Read Dr. Sears. I'm a proponent of "attachment parenting."

I hear ya. I left my baby alone with my hubby just long enough to get a hair cut and almost had an anxiety attack because I couldn't get home fast enough. I hate traffic. I don't think this attachment and dating issue has anything to do with being a "single" mother. The only reason my hubby gets to see me is because we live together.
When ur ready to make more time for urself, u will. Take ur time.

 

[heatherrae]

I just wouldn't advertise the long-distance hook-up. I can't imagine it helping her find a "non-dud", so why even mention it?

And yes, if I were in that situation even as a male I wouldn't mention it either. If you were looking for someone "quality", that person knowing you had a fuck-buddy sure can't help and would most likely hurt your search.

I like him more than a "fuck buddy." I have genuine feelings for him, and he has proven to be a good friend to me and Devin. There is just distance between us that isn't going to change soon. I like my job here in Ky, and he likes his in Texas. So, we just date.

The point wasn't that I needed sex that badly that it was just a hookup.

The point is that I don't have TIME for a regular full time BF thing or to try to date around to find it. So, I have a long distance fella.

 

[mrplunkey]

I like him more than a "fuck buddy." I have genuine feelings for him, and he has proven to be a good friend to me and Devin. There is just distance between us that isn't going to change soon. I like my job here in Ky, and he likes his in Texas. So, we just date.

The point wasn't that I needed sex that badly that it was just a hookup.

The point is that I don't have TIME for a regular full time BF thing or to try to date around to find it. So, I have a long distance fella.

Sounds like a distance BF then! Especially if you aren't really "dating" anyone else.