how to tell someone you DONT love them...

[madbomber31]

ok, i said it on here before that i started dating someone after i broke things off with djane... i never once have told this girl i love her, because i dont... i DO love djane who is away for summer and will likely end up moving on herself... anyway... whether djane does or not is not the point... what do i do about this new girl who "loves me"???
if i stay in it longer and feelings dont develope on my end she is gonna take it NOT SO WELL!!!
bottom line is, i dont see myself loving this girl, ever... she is a great girl, very pretty too... but just not for me.

she may stumble across this so i WILL delete it in 2 days... no bitching at me when i do.

 

[karson]

dude

here you go. tell her you thought you were ready to move on from jane and now that you have you realize that you made the wrong choice. tell her in better times she would have been the perfect women for you, but we dont chose who and when we love. then slam your dick in her ass and tell her fuck friends are your best friends.....

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

This is one of my biggest fears in starting a new relationship. As such, I do not have an answer for you. Good luck!

 

[KrazyK]

you gotta just tell her straight out. Don't lead her on or beat around the bush about it, cause that will hurt her far worse than just being honest about it now before her feelings really get too strong.
This is one of the biggest problems I have always had, and this advice comes from much experience. It's hard, but you gotta be brutally honest when it comes to this stuff.

 

[theoak01]

i totally agree with KrazyK get it out now because you dont want to hurt her more

 

[madbomber31]

but to add a twist... what if you really are having a decent time with the girl... AND it keeps your mind off other things that would make you VERY sad?

i know a lot of guys here said the best way to get on with things is to date someone else....

 

[Jimsbbc]

that does not include manipulating someone and using them for their body.

 

[theoak01]

just get out with friends man,thats how i keep myself away from thinking about shit that gets me down,i just got in and the shit is already settling back in

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

but to add a twist... what if you really are having a decent time with the girl... AND it keeps your mind off other things that would make you VERY sad?

i know a lot of guys here said the best way to get on with things is to date someone else....

Then that is being selfish. Don't lead her on.

 

[madbomber31]

man, you guys are so right... BUT...
i tried to end things last week and i was dead lonely... then she her cat died and i comforted her... i do like her, she is very sweet... i've been upfront with her about my feelings.. she knows i love djane and doesnt care... she has said to me "dont end things now because of that, give it time"... she also has said "i know my risks" when i have told her i really dont know about the longevity of our relationship... she seems to grasp on to the hope i will fall for her one day... trust me when i say i have told her odds are stacked against her...