How do you rate yourself? 1-10 as a friend?

[drsketch]

10 to my friends, very few do I consider to be my friend.

 

[-Ariel-]

for any of my REAL friends i would step in front of a gun. . .no questions asked. . .

also, if you're my friend, you can call me in the middle of the night and tell me you have a dead body in your living room. . .i'll show up at your front door with a shovel. . .no questions asked. . .

Okay you got me digimon... I dunno about the whole murder thing... thats a weird situation... but I dig the principle... as far as taking the bullet, that really makes it an exclusive circle... then that makes me question what I value...hmmmm.... good thing this is a laid back friday I can mentally play...
pondering this one...
I do know your loyalty is immeasurable though... and thats definitely an integral part of living an honorable life.

 

[roadwarrior]

for any of my REAL friends i would step in front of a gun. . .no questions asked. . .

also, if you're my friend, you can call me in the middle of the night and tell me you have a dead body in your living room. . .i'll show up at your front door with a shovel. . .no questions asked. . .

Don't forget a tarp. Moving dead bodies can be messy. Oh, and a bag of lime to throw in the shallow hole in the swamp that you are going to dig.

S

 

[-Ariel-]

I am a good friend. Honor, loyalty, respect, and hard work are virtues that I try to maintain at all times. Once I am friends with someone then I will go to hell and back again for them as long as they uphold the same values. If the fail and the failure affects me then I sever the friendship. I also do not accept friends who cheat on spouses/ SO or steal or do other dishonorable things as that means I can not trust them. My trust has to be earned and I do not give my friendship lightly. I have a small group of close friends and a larger group of acquaintances who i am very friendly with and enjoy spending time but there is a barrier due to time together or some issue which prevents me from fully accepting them as friends. As far as a number goes... I will take jerseyrugger's position... a great friend 10, and a terrible enemy 10.

S

Thats where its hard where self awareness kicks in is if they fail, the severing of ties and not making some activity of cognitive dissonance where your values get distorted due to identifying friendship and loyalty as greater than the harm they have done to themselves and you... see I got burned due to lack of awareness and creating stories in my head due to cognitive dissonance... awareness is really the key to establishing healthy relations with your own self, which is manifested and establishes a solid entity of trust yet discernment in friends... as far as friend, I am around an 8 looking to kick it up to 9, but as an enemy... well you really have to cross me, but once I dedicate myself to trashing you... then its maniacal in my obsession, however, in reality I don't ever want that to happen cause I consider that a defeat as well.

 

[digimon7068]

Okay you got me digimon... I dunno about the whole murder thing... thats a weird situation... but I dig the principle... as far as taking the bullet, that really makes it an exclusive circle... then that makes me question what I value...hmmmm.... good thing this is a laid back friday I can mentally play...
pondering this one...
I do know your loyalty is immeasurable though... and thats definitely an integral part of living an honorable life.

i didn't say anything about murder. . .and. . .ok, maybe i'm exaggerating slightly. . .but, to be my friend. . .a REAL friend, there's a certain level of trust that develops over a period of years and, when you get to that level, if you have a problem, i don't ask a bunch of questions. . .i trust you. . .you have a problem. . .i help you. . .that's all. . .

and the "step in front of a gun" thing. . .i've actually done. . .thank God it didn't go off

 

[roadwarrior]

i didn't say anything about murder. . .and. . .ok, maybe i'm exaggerating slightly. . .but, to be my friend. . .a REAL friend, there's a certain level of trust that develops over a period of years and, when you get to that level, if you have a problem, i don't ask a bunch of questions. . .i trust you. . .you have a problem. . .i help you. . .that's all. . .

and the "step in front of a gun" thing. . .i've actually done. . .thank God it didn't go off

Digi... you and I hit on the same thing... TRUST. Once earned and not betrayed then we would do anything for a friend because we trust them and they would not betray that trust lightly. It takes time to reach that point.

 

[Smurfy]

Knowing everything about yourself... and I mean getting underneath the surface layer of obfuscating thoughts that manifest themselves through cycling, repetitive stories, to really know your inner self, there is an innate need to transcend one's own egoic tendencies that drive one to do nothing but seek pleasure and maintain security, however due the constrained conditions of this generation, this voice often dominates our perceptions. IMO, this makes authentic friendships harder to establish due to narcissitic tendencies.

Digressing, sorry, but how do you rate yourself as a friend, are you fun? do you embody loyalty, are you supportive, have you been dependable, do you establish trust in your friends, are you the voice of inspiration that needs to be expressed to uplift a friend in need? Are you appreciative in your relationship with them and express this appreciation? Have you been generous with a friend in need? Have you ever had to be the voice of regulation in keeping a friend in check?

Or on the flip side are there relationships you are in that aren't going anywhere except downhill and you are just being bound by a past centered way of living. This is also not kewl... it just builds up more resentment and frustration... sometimes the best thing a friend can do is move on.

Do you have alot of acquaintances but only a tight circle you would consider friends? To me friendship is one of the most overlooked virtues of life,how can one live and not have friends? To be understood and appreciated are two monumental emotional states that we are all driven towards. I mean through friendship gives one a strong sense of meaning and promotes the mindset of getting past yourself and serving a higher purpose...

I've made a few friends here, peeps who have an admirable, dynamic manner of perceiving things... S O, who is my closest friend, thinks we are all dorks for communicating through this medium... and maybe I am, but oh well.

But yeah, having friends rocks.
Are you a good friend or have you taken this dynamic for granted?
What are somethings you do well or could be better at?
Impossible to really rate yourself, but its just for kicks...

Everyone who knows me well would say I'm a nice person. I just dont go out of my way for people like others do. I dont put myself out there. I'm really bad about keeping in touch and following up with people. I'm too much of a hermit I guess. I dont have very high inclusion needs IRL at all. I'd rather do my own thing than socialize. I've been described by some as self-absorbed. Not meaning selfish or self-centered (I dont think the world revolves around me for instance), but more along the lines of I'd very focused on what I'm doing in my own little world.

I'd rather go somewhere like shopping for instance, by myself rather than with a friend. Most of the time I dont want to bother interacting if i dont have to. I'm socially lazy but surprisingly high functioning. Besides, I really only have 1-2 close friends. I dont connect that closely with people now that Im an adult. I have lots of acquaintances but I never take it to that next level as far as making plans for social engagements.

Overall, I'd rate myself a 3.

 

[-Ariel-]

Digi... you and I hit on the same thing... TRUST. Once earned and not betrayed then we would do anything for a friend because we trust them and they would not betray that trust lightly. It takes time to reach that point.

Man you guys have really given this thread depth..
this I dig on a laid back Friday
good stuff.

 

[digimon7068]

Man you guys have really given this thread depth..
this I dig on a laid back Friday
good stuff.

meh. . .one man's depth is another man's chasm of despair. . .

 

[DannoMight]

way up there