help me get my girl back

[ANABOLICK1]

Hulkster, i am sorry but I failed to mention that she had informed me earlier that day that her phone was going dead. I knew this, however she left a message telling me that she would call me from her friend jessica's house. now i probably didnt have to leave a nasty message, but she did lie. Now if I would have told her that i was going to call and didnt, she would have cussed me up and down. The thing is I cannot understand that we are looking at rings, she found the one she wanted and she has been after me ever since to go and buy it. Now she is telling me that she does not want to get married and just wants to be single. What if I would have bought the ring a week ago and gave it to her? would she say the same thing. I dont understand where she is coming from. I think the girl has gone crazy. Shit, I dont know what to do.

Welcome to the world of a woman's mind. ALL women are fucked up that way, especially when they're young.
When one moment they want a commitment, the next to be single, depending on the time of month and mood.

 

[grlpwrd]

Yes, better to break it off now than get married, have kids, get a divorce, and end up paying alimony.

It'll be much more painful down the road...

 

[DealsMorte]

I can't understand why you want her back. I REALLY can't understand why you want to marry her.

I think it might be time to move on. Even if she comes back something else will happen and you'll be going through this whole thing again.


Personally if a girl see's a ring and then continues to bother me about it continuosly I would just tell her to go buy it herself.


She's playing games with your head bro.

 

[Fonz]

I can't believe I'm agreeing with Hukster....lol

I call BS on her reasons.

Seems like she was waiting for a "conflict" to tell you to take a hike.

Fonz

 

[Bikini Mod]

The "psychologizing" on this thread is kind of a mute point. Why on earth would you say mean things to a woman that you WANT TO MARRY JUST BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T CALL YOU? Was it a case of you staying up all night worrying for her safety? Even then, to say, "Baby, you were inconsiderate not calling when you said you would because I was up half the night worrying." would be within the realm of acceptable but that is about it. Anything more would be borderline psycho IMO.

Then you go on to say that she would cuss you up and down if the sitch was reversed?

MARRIAGE?!

BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD IDEA....

Why on earth would either one of you want to be married to someone who is capable of cussing you out at the drop of a dime?

 

[KAYNE]

YOU AND STAIND SHOULD GET TOGETHER AND HAVE A BEER.

SHE ISNT A SCRIPPER IS SHE?

 

[ANABOLICK1]

The "psychologizing" on this thread is kind of a mute point. Why on earth would you say mean things to a woman that you WANT TO MARRY JUST BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T CALL YOU? Was it a case of you staying up all night worrying for her safety? Even then, to say, "Baby, you were inconsiderate not calling when you said you would because I was up half the night worrying." would be within the realm of acceptable but that is about it. Anything more would be borderline psycho IMO.

Then you go on to say that she would cuss you up and down if the sitch was reversed?

MARRIAGE?!

BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD IDEA....

Why on earth would either one of you want to be married to someone who is capable of cussing you out at the drop of a dime?

True. They both sound like kids, and are too young to know what they want

 

[-SD-]

YOU AND STAIND SHOULD GET TOGETHER AND HAVE A BEER.

SHE ISNT A SCRIPPER IS SHE?

No shit, right. She isnt a scripper kayne, she cant write at all. LOL

 

[PHATchik]

I'm doing so well dishing out relationship advice today, I'll take another crack at it here.

Ok, she didn't call right when she said she would. Now I won't put with this either. I expect phone calls when people are supposed to call. However, I don't call them to see what the deal is. Either they have a reason, or they are simply being a jerk. That is up to them to let me know which it is. You should not have called and left the nasty message. No, it was not acceptable for her to simply not call and expect you to be perfectly fine with it, but tempers flaring never serves any purpose.

Secondly, I have an issue with the fact that you say she has left you before but came back. If this is becoming a habit, then this should serve as a warning sign. She either has issues with commitment or is just really not sure if she wants to be committed to you personally. Doing this one time should be all you allow. A second time, a third time, etc, is just a bit too much. What happens when she does this after you get married (IF you were to actually get married)?

Last but not least, I think that you should put some major thought into an engagement before you take that plunge and buy a ring. Things are definitely not kosher between the two of you. If she is having second thoughts about even being with you, THAT MEANS SHE IS NOT READY FOR AN ENGAGEMENT! You should not be trying to make up to her by proposing. Simply say "I'm sorry for being a jerk, but I expect phone calls when you say you will call, and you should expect no less from me."

Perhaps a break from each other is what you both need.

 

[vinylgroover]

How old are you and your girlfriend busdriver?

I don't know your relationship, but it sounds to me like you're one of many relationships that treat marriage and commitment waaaaay to lightly.

To have a trivial argument over a missed call is a joke, and it confirms that neither of you are even remotely ready to enter into any form of 'commitment'.