help me get my girl back

[busdriver1]

My girlfriend just left me. The other day she called me and told me she was going to call me at a certain time. She didnt call so I called her and left her a pretty ugly message. Come to find out her cell phone was dead and she couldnt call. She called me the next morning and told me that nobody talks to her like that and that I didnt respect her and it was over. A week ago we were looking at engagement rings. Damn this is hard. She will not see me because I know that it will make it harder on her if she does. If she doesnt see me I know she feels that she will be able to go through with it. I dont know what to do. She has left me before and came back to me, so maybe there is hope. I was thinking about going and buying the ring that she wanted and see if she will take it. I have to do it tonight if I am going to do it. I have to figure out a way for her to meet me. Damn, why did I get myself in this situation, me and my big mouth.

 

[jnuts]

She has left me before and came back to me, so maybe there is hope.

Do you think this will change if you get married?

 

[plornive]

How about we help you get your dignity back instead? Women generally don't like dependent guys who beg. Even if you get her back you're still her bitch.

 

[Staind]

plornive is right but at the same time jealousy won't even do it sometimes. i guess you just have to know her attitude at the time and decide if something romantic would work or go the jealousy route. that's just me i don't see what else you could really do. if you're in love then i guess it's hard to just be rational as i obviously know.

 

[AAP]

How about we help you get your dignity back instead? Women generally don't like dependent guys who beg. Even if you get her back you're still her bitch.

Praise the lord.

If you loved her, you wouldn't have left an ugly message. Jesus, that was immature. She has every right to dump you and walk.

Chalk it up and learn from it. Don't make the mistake the next time you are dating someone. I can honestly say if you buy that ring.... you are throwing your money away.

 

[MFMan]

www.loveadvice.com read it, learn it, use it. Yours in sport, MFman.

 

[HULKSTER]

SHE'S A FUCKING LIAR!!! She is using that "reverse blame" female pyschology that females always use. For all you know, she could have been with another guy. And when she heard your nasty message, she decided to switch blame over to you by making up some bullshit lie that her cell phone was dead. If she knew that you were expecting her to call you, why wouldn't she have made sure her battery was charged up before she went out? And if the battery did die so quickly, WHO the hell was she talking with during that whole time? Bro, when she heard your ugly message, she new that she was exposed and that the relationship was over. So to save face, especially amongst her friends and family, she switched the blame from her for probably cheating on you, to putting the blame for the breakup on you by speaking as if you are a nasty, control-freak of some kind. If you two were seriously looking at engagement rings a week earlier, no committed woman would just pick up and leave her BF over a nasty phone call. Bro, don't sweat it! She was cheating on you, and looking for a way out of the relationship while saving face. You gave her one by allowing her to blame you for the breakup by making an ugly phone call, and subsequently, allowing her to tell everybody you are a control-freak. I bet she even saved the cell phone message, and was playing it for all her friends to hear just to back up her bullshit story.

 

[AAP]

SHE'S A FUCKING LIAR!!! She is using that "reverse blame" female pyschology that females always use. For all you know, she could have been with another guy. And when she heard your nasty message, she decided to switch blame over to you by making up some bullshit lie that her cell phone was dead. If she knew that you were expecting her to call you, why wouldn't she have made sure her battery was charged up before she went out? And if the battery did die so quickly, WHO the hell was she talking with during that whole time? Bro, when she heard your ugly message, she new that she was exposed and that the relationship was over. So to save face, especially amongst her friends and family, she switched the blame from her for probably cheating on you, to putting the blame for the breakup on you by speaking as if you are a nasty, control-freak of some kind. If you two were seriously looking at engagement rings a week earlier, no committed woman would just pick up and leave her BF over a nasty phone call. Bro, don't sweat it! She was cheating on you, and looking for a way out of the relationship while saving face. You gave her one by allowing her to blame you for the breakup by making an ugly phone call, and subsequently, allowing her to tell everybody you are a control-freak. I bet she even saved the cell phone message, and was playing it for all her friends to hear just to back up her bullshit story.

No wonder you don't have a girlfriend. Or boyfriend.

 

[HULKSTER]

I'm engaged to my girlfriend of 3 years. But if you think that having a relationship means actually believing your girlfriend's lies just so you can stay with her while she cheats on you, then fine.

 

[busdriver1]

Hulkster, i am sorry but I failed to mention that she had informed me earlier that day that her phone was going dead. I knew this, however she left a message telling me that she would call me from her friend jessica's house. now i probably didnt have to leave a nasty message, but she did lie. Now if I would have told her that i was going to call and didnt, she would have cussed me up and down. The thing is I cannot understand that we are looking at rings, she found the one she wanted and she has been after me ever since to go and buy it. Now she is telling me that she does not want to get married and just wants to be single. What if I would have bought the ring a week ago and gave it to her? would she say the same thing. I dont understand where she is coming from. I think the girl has gone crazy. Shit, I dont know what to do.