got dumped..BUT I'M GONNA GET PUMPED, HUMPED, JUMPED AND BUMPED!

[nugga]

Re: got dumped..

how long were you two dating that she found it so amazing that you can form a sentence?

 

[tuc biscuit]

Re: got dumped..

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^^^^^^^^scatfish

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

I appreciate everyone's thoughts and support. I'm usually on here fucking around, trying to come up with funny joke or parody threads... making fun of poyeboy (who doesn't)... and I now have a newfound respect for those of you that do share some of your personal intimate lives on here having now done the same.

My ex was who I went to with all my emotional problems and needs, not my friends. So its difficult for me to go to my real life friends and really just pour out everything I'm feeling... I know its just an ego thing.. I don't want them to see my cry and what not, but its tough. This forum gave me a chance to just say everything that was on my mind and get a variety of feedback. I appreciate that.

Don't get the wrong impression though, I AM hanging with my friends... the day it happened my best friend was over here the second I called him and told him the news... my parents have talked to me about it... my cousin drove down last nigth to hang out with me.. I've got support.. I just haven't had many occasions to just let everything go.. let all the emotion out.

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

how long were you two dating that she found it so amazing that you can form a sentence?

we dated a while.

We talked primarily on the phone and in person.. so I think the comment was just like "wow you can write too" in the sense that we'd never had lengthy email discussion of this manner.

 

[nugga]

Re: got dumped..

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^^^^^^^^scatfish

seriously.. what the fuck is that supposed to be?

 

[GoldenDelicious]

Re: got dumped..

bro you can do better. way better.

now i have been, and am, in a similar position. and during those moments of emotion free clarity (or cried out clarity) i realise that i dont really want her back. i dont. neither do you.

imagine yourself walking down the street with this girl, hand in hand, or in bed getting sweaty, or walking on a beach, or whatever, knowing that this girl is not 100% dedicated to you. there is a seed of doubt in her mind as to whether or not she wants you. now and again, she will think "what if". big fucking "what if"s. the truth is, you love this girl more than she loves you. she doesnt see and acept you as her partner, she sees you as a prospective partner. a maybe. a possibly. because thats the truth. thats what you are. your ex has chosen the great unknown over you. imaginary men over you. strange dicks over you. she has embraced a whole new life...WITHOUT YOU IN IT...and she is happy with the decision. she thinks its the right thing to do.

oh of course she wants you as a friend. of course. youre a good bloke. youre safe. reliable. decent. caring. who the hell wouldnt want you around? hell i dont even know you and i want you here next to me. but at least she sounds like she realises that it isnt happening.

now im sorry i depressed you. youre probably still in that state of emotional flux, where a word or two from her spark hope and joy in your heart. thatll pass. the realisation that it just isnt happening, and in the back of your mind, that you dont really want it anymore, will slowly float to the top of your thoughts. kind of like a turd.

simple truth is that you want something that doesnt exist. she isnt what you thought she really is. your relationship isnt what you thought it really was. she is a stranger wearing a face, and speaking with a voice, that you love.

now honestly, go out and meet people. divert yourself. time doesnt heal, but it blunts the pain. memories recede. we all know that youre hurting. she knows youre hurting. her family knows that youre hurting. hurt isnt a choice. how you cope with it is.

cheers

 

[Aerojaxx]

Re: got dumped..

..WTF...!! Got dumped..??? EFer's don't "get dumped"...just say.." the girl got stupid"...!!

 

[nugga]

Re: got dumped..

we dated a while.

We talked primarily on the phone and in person.. so I think the comment was just like "wow you can write too" in the sense that we'd never had lengthy email discussion of this manner.

yeah.. that's how i took it.. it still just seemed odd that she'd write that instead of just sticking to the topic at hand.

how long is a while.. just curious.. a month.. a few months.. a year?

 

[PoyeBoy]

Re: got dumped..

I appreciate everyone's thoughts and support. I'm usually on here fucking around, trying to come up with funny joke or parody threads... making fun of poyeboy (who doesn't)... and I now have a newfound respect for those of you that do share some of your personal intimate lives on here having now done the same.

go ahead, make fun of me if it makes you feel better assback

 

[Lestat]

Re: got dumped..

bro you can do better. way better.

now i have been, and am, in a similar position. and during those moments of emotion free clarity (or cried out clarity) i realise that i dont really want her back. i dont. neither do you.

imagine yourself walking down the street with this girl, hand in hand, or in bed getting sweaty, or walking on a beach, or whatever, knowing that this girl is not 100% dedicated to you. there is a seed of doubt in her mind as to whether or not she wants you. now and again, she will think "what if". big fucking "what if"s. the truth is, you love this girl more than she loves you. she doesnt see and acept you as her partner, she sees you as a prospective partner. a maybe. a possibly. because thats the truth. thats what you are. your ex has chosen the great unknown over you. imaginary men over you. strange dicks over you. she has embraced a whole new life...WITHOUT YOU IN IT...and she is happy with the decision. she thinks its the right thing to do.

oh of course she wants you as a friend. of course. youre a good bloke. youre safe. reliable. decent. caring. who the hell wouldnt want you around? hell i dont even know you and i want you here next to me. but at least she sounds like she realises that it isnt happening.

now im sorry i depressed you. youre probably still in that state of emotional flux, where a word or two from her spark hope and joy in your heart. thatll pass. the realisation that it just isnt happening, and in the back of your mind, that you dont really want it anymore, will slowly float to the top of your thoughts. kind of like a turd.

simple truth is that you want something that doesnt exist. she isnt what you thought she really is. your relationship isnt what you thought it really was. she is a stranger wearing a face, and speaking with a voice, that you love.

now honestly, go out and meet people. divert yourself. time doesnt heal, but it blunts the pain. memories recede. we all know that youre hurting. she knows youre hurting. her family knows that youre hurting. hurt isnt a choice. how you cope with it is.

cheers

Dude thanks a ton. This gave me a feeling for a second that a lightbulb switched on and I saw things from a new light. Things are far from over, far from healed, but this post made me laugh and cry almost at the same time.

I'm extremely impressed by your insight.