I know how it is to train your better half....it is the most fun I have, but at the same time it is very frustrating. My fiancee is very competitve and so am I and I have never really coached a beginner female before, especially one who will push herself if I back off....I think the biggest thing I have learned is that different people respond better to different coaching styles. The best way to motivate someone is not always the way you motivate yourself.