Girlfriend and facebook- Guys and gals, your opinion please.

[hardrock]

So I have been on the FB for years. Mainly use it for stupid games to pass time while it's slow at work. I also have lots of bbers and fitness gals as friends or like their page. Here's the issue-

My gf is jealous. She's jealous of these hot women I see in their comp or photo shoot pics they frequently post on their walls. I don't cheat on this woman and she knows this, yet gets pissy when i have my page up and she see's these women.

i say she's over reacting and it's no big deal. She want's me to remove or block pretty much ever good looking woman. A lot of these women not only post amazing pictures, but words of inspiration, great recipes, and much more.

Am i out of line here?

I said i would remove the ones who simply post up half naked pics just for attention, but how far do I have to go here?


I don't feel I'm doing anything wrong here. I'm not flirting w them or anything.

 

[youpissmeoff]

So I have been on the FB for years. Mainly use it for stupid games to pass time while it's slow at work. I also have lots of bbers and fitness gals as friends or like their page. Here's the issue-

My gf is jealous. She's jealous of these hot women I see in their comp or photo shoot pics they frequently post on their walls. I don't cheat on this woman and she knows this, yet gets pissy when i have my page up and she see's these women.

i say she's over reacting and it's no big deal. She want's me to remove or block pretty much ever good looking woman. A lot of these women not only post amazing pictures, but words of inspiration, great recipes, and much more.

Am i out of line here?

I said i would remove the ones who simply post up half naked pics just for attention, but how far do I have to go here?


I don't feel I'm doing anything wrong here. I'm not flirting w them or anything.

How would you feel is she was friends with a bunch of hot dudes??

 

[overgreen]

Welcome to the world of dating women. Mine was the same way. I had a few good looking girls that were my friends I knew personally just didn't see them very often and they had to go. We had a bunch of fights about MySpace, never used Facebook and I finally just deleted it because it was not worth the drama. She deleted hers also. We now have neither and it has been nice. But to make it work between y'all the ones she doesn't like will have to go but yeh I think it ls really silly. Women are just crazy and they can't help it especially jealous ones which I've got.

 

[hardrock]

How would you feel is she was friends with a bunch of hot dudes??

Well if she was into fitness in any way shape or form, or had these friends before i knew her, I would be a bit more understanding.


She is insecure when it comes to this shit, and I'm not trying to be insensitive. Just trying to be reasonable about it. Which I think I am by removing offensive posters.

 

[kx250rider]

I don't think there's any right or wrong on that. It's all about moderation. If she's checking up on you and monitoring your page, that's not cool, and especially if she doesn't trust you (assuming you've earned each others' trust by now). But on the other hand, it's probably a good sign that she notices those things, because it's a sign that she cares whether she is still your main focus. If she didn't care, and didn't even ask what's up and who are the women on your FB, I'd worry she didn't care because she has some other interests too.

So the bottom line is, if she's just checking for reassurance and not getting all controlling about it, it's probably fine. But if she's bringing it up all the time, or popping it in when you're talking about something else, then I'd worry she has control issues.

Charles

 

[caligirl85]

I ran into this situation in the last few months too. My then bf didn't use facebook and was not happy when he saw mine with the bb'ers etc. I look at it as networking....everyone sort of adds everyone and you never know what you might learn or contacts you can make but....it's been the source of a few "discussions". I have just as many, if not more, fitness women as men but in the bigger picture had decided it wasn't worth the issue and I'd start removing people. I discovered, though, you can't mass remove friends and it's a royal pain in the ass to take them off one by one. I think I made it through about 20 and gave up!

We ended up with a compromise. I took off any ex's or men I'd been out with on a social level and said I'd be upfront if there was any messages that were questionable and he could read them all. I have nothing to hide, so hide nothing type of thing.

It's a tough one though.

 

[kx250rider]

I ran into this situation in the last few months too. My then bf didn't use facebook and was not happy when he saw mine with the bb'ers etc. I look at it as networking....everyone sort of adds everyone and you never know what you might learn or contacts you can make but....it's been the source of a few "discussions". I have just as many, if not more, fitness women as men but in the bigger picture had decided it wasn't worth the issue and I'd start removing people. I discovered, though, you can't mass remove friends and it's a royal pain in the ass to take them off one by one. I think I made it through about 20 and gave up!

We ended up with a compromise. I took off any ex's or men I'd been out with on a social level and said I'd be upfront if there was any messages that were questionable and he could read them all. I have nothing to hide, so hide nothing type of thing.

It's a tough one though.

My wife and I are in a similar agreement on FB. And in fact, I have an ex-GF and a few girls I knew as a teen (some single & some not). And my wife has men she dated in the past on there, and it's OK with both of us. We have each other's passwords to everything including voice mail and eMail, and wouldn't hide any kind of communications from each other. Things like this can test a relationship, and if it passes, then it passes. But if you never test it with trust, you might never know how strong it is...

Charles

 

[EnderJE]

I ran into this situation in the last few months too. My then bf didn't use facebook and was not happy when he saw mine with the bb'ers etc. I look at it as networking....everyone sort of adds everyone and you never know what you might learn or contacts you can make but....it's been the source of a few "discussions". I have just as many, if not more, fitness women as men but in the bigger picture had decided it wasn't worth the issue and I'd start removing people. I discovered, though, you can't mass remove friends and it's a royal pain in the ass to take them off one by one. I think I made it through about 20 and gave up!

We ended up with a compromise. I took off any ex's or men I'd been out with on a social level and said I'd be upfront if there was any messages that were questionable and he could read them all. I have nothing to hide, so hide nothing type of thing.

It's a tough one though.

But now it's an ex so they're all back and you're available?

Hardrock, why not just unsubscribe to their posts?

 

[caligirl85]

My wife and I are in a similar agreement on FB. And in fact, I have an ex-GF and a few girls I knew as a teen (some single & some not). And my wife has men she dated in the past on there, and it's OK with both of us. We have each other's passwords to everything including voice mail and eMail, and wouldn't hide any kind of communications from each other. Things like this can test a relationship, and if it passes, then it passes. But if you never test it with trust, you might never know how strong it is...

Charles

I think that's a healthy way to approach it. I don't even have issue with ex's if the boundaries are set and clear and everyone is respectful. Seems like in this day and age some people just don't care about marital status and those would be the ones I'd remove but otherwise, trust is key, as is open communication.

 

[caligirl85]

But now it's an ex so they're all back and you're available?

Hardrock, why not just unsubscribe to their posts?

lol..I seldom use it anymore so haven't put anyone back.