Girlfriend and facebook- Guys and gals, your opinion please.

[nangiggles]

lololol ^^^

 

[cindylou]

She does sound insecure. At least compared to me as that's never been something I've worried about and yes that's her problem, but be mindful of being insensitive or selfish over something unless you really think it's worth it. You may not be doing anything wrong but what does it hurt to unsubscribe to people on FB that do not matter to you for the sake of someone that does? If they are your real friends that's one thing but to stick to your guns over internet acquaintances for recipes and words of inspirations sounds kinda selfish to me, just my opinion. I guess it depends on if you love her, or just like her.

 

[mrplunkey]

She's cheating on you.

Back in the day, this would have never made it to page two.

 

[nangiggles]

She does sound insecure. At least compared to me as that's never been something I've worried about and yes that's her problem, but be mindful of being insensitive or selfish over something unless you really think it's worth it. You may not be doing anything wrong but what does it hurt to unsubscribe to people on FB that do not matter to you for the sake of someone that does? If they are your real friends that's one thing but to stick to your guns over internet acquaintances for recipes and words of inspirations sounds kinda selfish to me, just my opinion. I guess it depends on if you love her, or just like her.

to me it actually kinda sounds selfish to rob him of that just because I dont like it or feel insecure

 

[smurf2]

I agree with Cindy. You have to ask yourself, what's more important. Seems like a small sacrifice (unsub from people who dont really mean much to you) to make for someone you love.

 

[hardrock]

I can see it from both sides. I did remove the offensive ones, and attention whores, but that's as far as I am willing to go for now. We'll see how that goes.

And I do love her, but fuck. What's next to go? Do I need to start turning my head when there's a beautiful woman on tv or in a movie?

I also have a playboy subscription, and have for many years. After 2 years of dating and the last year very solid, she now tells me this bothers her too.

 

[cindylou]

to me it actually kinda sounds selfish to rob him of that just because I dont like it or feel insecure

Maybe so. Maybe his standing his ground might force her to deal with her feelings, which is what she is attempting to avoid by asking that he remove those people. In my opinion that's taking something very minor and turning it into a real issue though, lol. It still seems kinda selfish to put his right to have internet acquaintances that don't really matter (and probably won't notice if he even unsubscribed) over the feelings of his girlfriend.

It just seems easier to me to unsubscribe. It seems like such a minor problem, a small thing to ask. If he really wants to stand his ground and turn this into an actual issue then he should do it with understanding, and kindness, not from a selfish and stubborn place or she'll focus on that instead of herself. I can't imagine wanting to open that can of worms though

 

[blueta2]

LOL@ Smurf!

My ex would be all in my face about men who were on my FB and I would never rag on him about women on his FB! Turns out, he was the one cheating on me with a FB female, but he picked the ugliest most overweight beast of them all from his FB "friends" Though he was also playing FB poker and having secret sex talks with women on there too.
Now having said that, he was just a needy and pathetic loser and if someone is going to be a cheating douche, they can have no one on their FB and still cheat.
I have a whole slew of hotties on my FB and I would never cheat! I didn't on the ex nor will I on my new BF.
My BF has a lot of women posting on his FB and that he talks to cause he's a hottie, but I chose to trust him and not because he's earned my trust, but because I won't expend any energy worrying about what someone else may or may not do.

Does your GF have any reason to be insecure? Did you cheat on her before or on another GF that she knows about?

 

[rich_89]

Absolutely do not delete them. Set a precedent.

She has no right to dictate who you are friends with, especially when they are just that, facebook friends. If they were your ex's calling you for a booty call every 5 minutes i could understand. . .but. . .they aren't.

 

[blueta2]

I can see it from both sides. I did remove the offensive ones, and attention whores, but that's as far as I am willing to go for now. We'll see how that goes.

And I do love her, but fuck. What's next to go? Do I need to start turning my head when there's a beautiful woman on tv or in a movie?

I also have a playboy subscription, and have for many years. After 2 years of dating and the last year very solid, she now tells me this bothers her too.

no, that would be a bad decision to appease her every wish like that.
She sounds really young?!
I love when my man watches porn or looks at other women. We are human, we look!
If someone is mature, they will not cheat...period!