Final tab is in from the divorce Atty:

[EnderJE]

I have learned from my *coughs* 2 divorces (though my didn't cost that much, we agreed on everything) I will NEVER marry agian....shacking up is the way to go.

You get still get raped in the common law divorce settlement.

 

[jh1]

You get still get raped in the common law divorce settlement.

Eh, only if you live in a state where 'Common Law Marriage' applies...

Not so where I live.

 

[katdav]

Not many states recognize 'Common Law'

 

[Matthew_31]

Heh, i cant wait until im done law school! 17 more months until i can pillage.

Matt

 

[Arabian]

Heh, i cant wait until im done law school! 17 more months until i can pillage.

Matt

I hope your mechanic pillages you then.. just kiddin I might hire one day for my second divorce..lol Have you picked a specialty yet? common,criminal, civil,family law, etc: good luck

 

[Lao Tzu]

For those of us who worry about this kind of issue in 10-15 years, what advice is there to avoid it?

Pre-nuptial?
Good communication on what to do in case the relationship fails
Try to find a partner that isn't malicious to her Exs?

I'm in the dark here.

 

[Raptorex]

I dont' get it??? How can an attorney charge 100,000 for a divorce case in fees...I hope you were breaking up a few million and couldn't do it on your own....that seems high? any others want to submit their bills? I really don't know, but am curious.


Arabian, I wish you luck...hopefully it all gets resolved in your favor.

 

[Bikini Mod]

For those of us who worry about this kind of issue in 10-15 years, what advice is there to avoid it?

Pre-nuptial?
Good communication on what to do in case the relationship fails
Try to find a partner that isn't malicious to her Exs?

I'm in the dark here.

Not really sure what to tell you except perhaps when a relationship fails miserably (especially if it keeps happening - different peeps/same circumstances) then do whatever you have to do to find out what was wrong within YOU to attract such peeps and keep them in your life so that the pattern will not continue.

My current (and last) husband is NOTHING like my ex. Took years of therapy and a lot of painfull introspection on my part. But very happy that I did the work to figure it all out.

 

[manny78]

For those of us who worry about this kind of issue in 10-15 years, what advice is there to avoid it?

Pre-nuptial?
Good communication on what to do in case the relationship fails
Try to find a partner that isn't malicious to her Exs?

I'm in the dark here.

Pre-nup if allowed in your state otherwise, dont get married and dont have kids.

 

[Lao Tzu]

Not really sure what to tell you except perhaps when a relationship fails miserably (especially if it keeps happening - different peeps/same circumstances) then do whatever you have to do to find out what was wrong within YOU to attract such peeps and keep them in your life so that the pattern will not continue.

My current (and last) husband is NOTHING like my ex. Took years of therapy and a lot of painfull introspection on my part. But very happy that I did the work to figure it all out.

I agree. I don't know of any people offhand who are happy, content, deep, at peace with themselves and their lives and seek out meaningful connections with others who end up in endless strings of bad relationships.