Fiancee expects me to pay for her gas. Yes/no?

[bodybyjake]

IMO, you need to really get use to the money being community money. Otherwise you got a real problem coming your way.

i have no problem with that: my last girlfriend of 8.5yrs - we bought a house together and had a joint acct so it wasnt any big deal.
But also: she contributed.

 

[bodybyjake]

btw, she is using the gas to visit her boyfriend.

haha!!
wouldnt that be something!!!!!

 

[Basikstylz]

Well I guess I expect things too. Like her to surprise me with dinners/etc..

Are you expecting things because you give her gas money? or because she's your fiance?

If it's because shes your fiance shouldn't she have already been doing these things before you got engaged to her?

If its beacuse of the gas money, talk to her about your expectations, but you shouldn't expect anything that cost money, or your just paying for your own dinners/etc yourself.

 

[Captain FT]

IMO, you need to really get use to the money being community money. Otherwise you got a real problem coming your way.

Exactly, when you get engaged you make a commitment to being a team for life. That should be community money now. I get the feeling its not so much the money as it is you feel expected to do certain things for her.

If the money wasn't to come from you where would it come from? Her mom and dad? How do you think her dad would feel if she went to him asking for money for gas and said "Jake" wouldn't give me any.

Dad's going to wonder wtf is up with hubby to be.

Thats my opinion

 

[rnch]

Are you expecting things because you give her gas money? or because she's your fiance?

If it's because shes your fiance shouldn't she have already been doing these things before you got engaged to her?

If its beacuse of the gas money, talk to her about your expectations, but you shouldn't expect anything that cost money, or your just paying for your own dinners/etc yourself.

where do YOU live at? orlando, FL @ FANTASYLAND???? jeeeezzz....

 

[billfred]

This is quite simple - do you want to continue to be her fiance???

If yes - pay for gas - and get used to it. Consider it marriage counseling 101.

 

[rnch]

btw, she is using the gas to visit her boyfriend.

"she's cheating on you"

lol

su-prised nobody has posted this classic elite line!

 

[bodybyjake]

Exactly, when you get engaged you make a commitment to being a team for life. That should be community money now. I get the feeling its not so much the money as it is you feel expected to do certain things for her.

If the money wasn't to come from you where would it come from? Her mom and dad? How do you think her dad would feel if she went to him asking for money for gas and said "Jake" wouldn't give me any.

Dad's going to wonder wtf is up with hubby to be.

Thats my opinion

you're right... her dad would think negatively of me. thanks. i guess i needed others perspectives on this.

 

[javaguru]

IMO, you need to really get use to not having sex. Otherwise you got a real problem coming your way.

I thought you should mention this too.

 

[rnch]

dood, time for YOU to grow a pair and stand up to this money grubbing biatch! she has no money for gas to go job hunting but runs off to atlantic city to gamble and lay lavish tips on the towel lady???

some fucked up priorities she has!