Fiancee expects me to pay for her gas. Yes/no?

[cindylou]

well my fiancee got laid off a little while ago and has been looking for another job. she's blown all her savings on bills/living expenses since losing it and thinks i should pay for her gas.. A few times I put in without her even asking so I guess she got used to taht and started expecting me to do it... I didnt one time and she got upset and said "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that"
???? is she wrong???
we dont live together yet either.

LOL

She is your fiancee and you are bitching about paying for gas?!?!

lol this one should work out just fine

 

[velvett]

I can see her point of view but I can also see yours and being that you've filled up her car by your own efforts is a act of kindness but shouldn't be an assumption of habit.

I think to help a loved one out if they are having a hard time is what people do.

If she's out there looking for work and is contemplating what to do with her last $100 then help her. Either way now that she's said what she has you will have to have a conversation about it because the boundaries are unclear for you both.

 

[rnch]

for that kinda money spent she'd better go anal for you.

 

[bodybyjake]

True indeed, however "you're my fiancee, you should be doing that" implies she expects he'll be footing the bills whether she can afford her own or not. Her money will go to makeup, drinking with the girls, presents, etc. His money goes to the house.

Yep: even when she was working - she never really paid for anything when we went out or brought dinner over my house or offered to make me dinner/etc. Once she brought over ice cream and bananas and made banana splits. I was completely surprised she did that !!

Also: last week I gave her money to put in her tank. . . She went to atlantic city with her family 4th of july weekend and used half of it for a tip -- for the bathroom lady !!!!

 

[Cardinal Slin]

Only if she gives it up when ever you ask her.

Seriously, if you love her enough to be engaged, you will understand she has no job and needs some support. If she is looking properly for a job, PAY, but if not and she is skanking then ask for the ring back and pawn it.

 

[rnch]

Yep: even when she was working - she never really paid for anything when we went out or brought dinner over my house or offered to make me dinner/etc. Once she brought over ice cream and bananas and made banana splits. I was completely surprised she did that !!

Also: last week I gave her money to put in her tank. . . She went to atlantic city with her family 4th of july weekend and used half of it for a tip -- for the bathroom lady !!!!

are you SURE you want to marry this gal?

 

[RachelEFC]

It sounds like you guys need a clear conversation about boundaries and expectations.

 

[velvett]

Also: last week I gave her money to put in her tank. . . She went to atlantic city with her family 4th of july weekend and used half of it for a tip -- for the bathroom lady !!!!

Ya'll need to sit down and discuss money pronto or start looking for a divorce lawyer.

 

[rnch]

suggest you keep your options and your eyes open.

 

[nefertiti]

It sounds like this is more a problem of the fact that she expected it than the money itself. That is something I can understand.