do you mind when your lady goes out to a club with the girls?

[onebigab]

Maybe I am just THE DUMBEST female on the planet (I swear to God, there are moments when I think I am) but I LOVE IT when my man goes out.

I used to push my exhusband out the door! I made sure that he had a flattering uptodate haircut, he kept himself in very nice shape (natty lifter) and I always made sure that he was FINE in his dress. I wanted every bitch to notice him and drool over what they couldn't have.

My two bf's after him were very tall, very broad, intelligent, witty bbr's that DEFINITELY got noticed and that made me quite happy.

My current man, though older, is quite handsome and a REAL attention whore. LOL He has a total presence. When he walks into a room HE OWNS IT.

GOD I GET A FUCKING RUSH OUT OF IT!!!

So now, why would I care where my man went or particularly what he did when he was there? The one and only thing that would major piss me off if he got obliterated and drove himself home. As for other poonani - they can not compare. My feelings about faithfulness has always been this: I am secure in who I am and what I bring to the relationship as a woman. When there is a SPOKEN COMMITMENT then I expect my other half to live up to it as I don't play.



Not to mention the fact that I have such a high drive and NEVER use sex as a weapon. If he has the energy left over after I am done with him to give to some skank then he is free to give it.

I never ever promised a man that I would not cheat, but only that if I was unhappy in our relationship I WOULD BE HONEST and we would talk. This is all I ask of him. If he is unhappy, then he NEEDS to come to me and we can discuss it like adults and try to come to some sort of resolution together. I can handle almost anything and there is almost no limit to what I will forgive EXCEPT LYING. DONT EVER FUCKING LIE TO ME.

When I am in a relationship there is 100% trust. If not, then I move on. PERIOD

Enough said.

 

[Werd]

PS - I WAS a bartender AND a dancer. This is EXACTLY how developed my point of view.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

maybe you could write a book for other young men out there.

right after you release your book entitled, "how to flatter men online"

although i prefer your previous title, "how to make sexy avatars with smudged mirrors"

 

[bodytemple75]

I myself never understood why people that were "supposedly" (sp?) happy in their relationships would bother go out to a club or bar/singles bar. What would be the point? Basically every guy there is looking to get laid at the drop of a hat, (think guys go for the music?....lol) and the girls there obviously know it, and go for the drooling attention, ego boost, and to get laid themselves. Even an at best any semi-ugly to average girl will get more attention in her life from most of any drooling, drunk young guys. given the proper wardrobe and sluttiness. The whole point of going out to those places to begin with it to meet someone. Cut and dry....minus all the bs. Not for the music, or dancing.... That is bullshit, ask anyone seriously. Do you see any happily married couple bother with clubs or bars? For that matter do you see anyone you can honestly say that they "truly and honestly" love eachother in any relationship go to a club or bar? No, you don't. I have ben to many clubs/ bars but now find them boooooring. I'm 28, and when I was still single, man were they depressing. The older you get. the less fun. Nobody wants to be the guy out there 40+ going to these places...even if you are getting laid. That may be fine for most, but I would never trade my girl at home for a one night stand any day. No way.... As people get older, I assume they understand this... But being single sucks. If someone tells you they are happy single, wait....or tey are lying. Ultimately,...If you have to ask the infamous "Why does my girl go out to clubs bars?"....you already know the answer bro...It is plain as day. Maybe not to cheat right away,...but the seed is planted. Time to watch now.... It's not about insecurity, or even mistrust. If someone stirs the pot, you take notice of that someone right? Every guy/girl knows this.

 

[Lumberg]

There are some seriously insecure orbs on here.

 

[bodytemple75]

It comes down to "where" your girl goes out to.... Obviously, going out with the girls for a girls night is fine... Movies, resteraunt, wherever... But anywhere than a bar or a nite club. It is "because" of what goes on specifically in these places, and what they are there for (drinking/fooling around) that raises the question.

 

[Werd]

It comes down to "where" your girl goes out to.... Obviously, going out with the girls for a girls night is fine... Movies, resteraunt, wherever... But anywhere than a bar or a nite club. It is "because" of what goes on specifically in these places, and what they are there for (drinking/fooling around) that raises the question.

Wrong. If someone is on the prowl then the check-out line at the grocery store will do just fine and be far less conspicuous. C'est nes pas?

My man can go where he wants with whom he wants as long as he is responsible with partying and driving it is all good. That is THE ONLY concern that I have ever had. And I expect the same for me. If not, then we shouldn't be together.

It is THAT simple.

 

[Smurfy]

right after you release your book entitled, "how to flatter men online"

although i prefer your previous title, "how to make sexy avatars with smudged mirrors"

 

[Dial_tone]

There are some seriously insecure orbs on here.

macho mangs.

 

[bodytemple75]

Wrong. If someone is on the prowl then the check-out line at the grocery store will do just fine and be far less conspicuous. C'est nes pas?

My man can go where he wants with whom he wants as long as he is responsible with partying and driving it is all good. That is THE ONLY concern that I have ever had. And I expect the same for me. If not, then we shouldn't be together.It is THAT simple.

I completely disagree. You are comparing apples to oranges here. Night clubs/ singles bars and the local "Stop & Shop," movie theatre, resturaunt, ect...differ somewhat. Trust me..... Of course, it all ultimately depends on your partner. Yes!...Of course, who can dispute that? Nobody...But, I think just wanting to be around that Club/bar atmosphere has something behind the scenes to say. Most people anyway,...maybe you are an exception,...but in my opinion I do not believe in this. The attention factor at the least is still there for some. That is fine. Being around drunk horny people all night with dancing and body rubbing is quite different that being around "Marge,"...the 60 year old ladie at "Stop & Shop" who checks out my groceries and scans my card for savings. True a partner can cheat anywhere..... if they are going to cheat one you. If someone is going to cheat on you,...they will no matter what. My arguement is "Why" bother going to a place where the menu is full and the buffett is laid out there with the lobsters snapping out at you? This is why many see this practice as odd behavior for people in relationships. There are plenty of other places for people in relationships to hang out. Plenty...Trust is a factor in all comitted relationships, but the obvious,...is obvious. For most, this rings true. If what you are saying has any credibility, it would be in the 1% IMO, and people completely unaware or ignoring the club/ bar surroundings when at these places. I personally do not belive in it though. If you go with your partner however,...it is a different story. the muscic, dancing, and enjoying eachother's company rules apply. That is fine...Anything else about going alone is very suspect. The I like dancing or the music is a lame excuse. I doubt anybody is niave going into that type of situation.(sp?) You/They love the attention....you said it yourself in so many words, if I am not mistaken.