do you mind when your lady goes out to a club with the girls?

[fistfullofsteel]

Yes, I do mind, and I don't trust anybody including myself when it comes to certain things so I don't want to read your bullshit responses. Knock it off with the insecurity crap too. Everybody is insecure on some level. I bet even Jesus Christ had some doubts.

Most females that go to clubs, bars and such are straight up skanks and if you don't believe then try working at one then you will wake up.

 

[Werd]

I just dont buy the whole "i just like the music and dancing with my friends" bullshit...do some women actually just go out to have fun and are not interested in meeting anyone?..

Ummmmm yes.

 

[Werd]

Maybe I am just THE DUMBEST female on the planet (I swear to God, there are moments when I think I am) but I LOVE IT when my man goes out.

I used to push my exhusband out the door! I made sure that he had a flattering uptodate haircut, he kept himself in very nice shape (natty lifter) and I always made sure that he was FINE in his dress. I wanted every bitch to notice him and drool over what they couldn't have.

My two bf's after him were very tall, very broad, intelligent, witty bbr's that DEFINITELY got noticed and that made me quite happy.

My current man, though older, is quite handsome and a REAL attention whore. LOL He has a total presence. When he walks into a room HE OWNS IT.

GOD I GET A FUCKING RUSH OUT OF IT!!!

So now, why would I care where my man went or particularly what he did when he was there? The one and only thing that would major piss me off if he got obliterated and drove himself home. As for other poonani - they can not compare. My feelings about faithfulness has always been this: I am secure in who I am and what I bring to the relationship as a woman. When there is a SPOKEN COMMITMENT then I expect my other half to live up to it as I don't play.



Not to mention the fact that I have such a high drive and NEVER use sex as a weapon. If he has the energy left over after I am done with him to give to some skank then he is free to give it.

I never ever promised a man that I would not cheat, but only that if I was unhappy in our relationship I WOULD BE HONEST and we would talk. This is all I ask of him. If he is unhappy, then he NEEDS to come to me and we can discuss it like adults and try to come to some sort of resolution together. I can handle almost anything and there is almost no limit to what I will forgive EXCEPT LYING. DONT EVER FUCKING LIE TO ME.

When I am in a relationship there is 100% trust. If not, then I move on. PERIOD

 

[Seashell]

I just dont buy the whole "i just like the music and dancing with my friends" bullshit...do some women actually just go out to have fun and are not interested in meeting anyone?..

Yes. Sometimes it's a couple months before we (my closest friends) can all get together, and when we decide to blow off some steam and go dancing, the only thing we're interested in is having fun with each other, everyone else in the club is pretty much ignored. I'm still polite if someone talks to me, but I just tell them how it is. Getting all dressed up, going out with close friends you haven't seen in awhile, a few drinks and dancing is a great stress-reliever for me.

That said.. if she's doing it every single weekend, I'd start to wonder.

 

[gtrcivic]

Is this the same girl that's cheating on her long distance boyfriend to be with you?


*cough*


I think that answers your question about her.

If it is the same girl, then i would have doubts.....some girls have girls nite out once in a while.. nothing wrong with that, but if its every weekend then its def for attention from other guys....

 

[GoldenDelicious]

if you have to worry about your girl, at the end of the day, she aint your girl

some people have low self esteem, and love to go out and get attention. so what? big deal. so long as they get their fix and come back to you, then who cares

even if youre dating a stunning woman, they get their fix everyday one way or the otehr - at the mall, on the street, on the runway, at the photo shoot...at the end of the day you still ahve to same sort of conneciton with the person, its just that they get their mental stim in a different way - youre a fool to think it doesnt happen (well it does, but rarely)

now personally i dont date girls who do this sort of crap. if you need people to fall all over you, then your self esteem isnt high enough for me to be with you. so really, for me, its a non issue, because the only girl id be with who would do this shit is either really young, in which case she's too immature to offer anything but a laugh and a romp, or she's just a casual fling, and since i dont have a future with my flings, they can do the hula when they go out, i dont care

so. at the end of the day, you should only worry about this if youre a needy, insecure person. if the relationship is so shitty that you worry about this, let it go, imo, because that situation just sounds like a drama. go find the real thing, and stop hanging on to people in such a seedy, needy way. or if youre just a needy insecure person, snap out of it, because this sort of bullshit can kill a relationship.

fancy getting a guilt trip about going out from your partner. pfft. pfffffffffffffffffft. pffft. pft. pf.

 

[MissJanet79]

i dis agree i think hes worried that she ((((WANTS)))) to meet someone who is more jacked, better looking, makes more money, etc.

"if she wasnt hungry, she wouldnt be going to the all you can eat buffet."

BO-
DEN

Nah if she WANTED to, she wouldn't need a club to do so. & if she wanted to, then she's not worth the time at all!

 

[Smurfy]

if you have to worry about your girl, at the end of the day, she aint your girl

some people have low self esteem, and love to go out and get attention. so what? big deal. so long as they get their fix and come back to you, then who cares

even if youre dating a stunning woman, they get their fix everyday one way or the otehr - at the mall, on the street, on the runway, at the photo shoot...at the end of the day you still ahve to same sort of conneciton with the person, its just that they get their mental stim in a different way - youre a fool to think it doesnt happen (well it does, but rarely)

now personally i dont date girls who do this sort of crap. if you need people to fall all over you, then your self esteem isnt high enough for me to be with you. so really, for me, its a non issue, because the only girl id be with who would do this shit is either really young, in which case she's too immature to offer anything but a laugh and a romp, or she's just a casual fling, and since i dont have a future with my flings, they can do the hula when they go out, i dont care

so. at the end of the day, you should only worry about this if youre a needy, insecure person. if the relationship is so shitty that you worry about this, let it go, imo, because that situation just sounds like a drama. go find the real thing, and stop hanging on to people in such a seedy, needy way. or if youre just a needy insecure person, snap out of it, because this sort of bullshit can kill a relationship.

fancy getting a guilt trip about going out from your partner. pfft. pfffffffffffffffffft. pffft. pft. pf.

maybe you could write a book for other young men out there.

 

[Werd]

Just a question:

If you are so sure your girl is looking to trade-up, what makes you think that she would make it so obvious as to NEED to go to a club? She can't get play at the check-out line in the grocery store?

Think about that.

There is an expression in my language. If I want to cheat on you, you could physically sit atop me, I would just move my sex to the side and I WOULD STILL CHEAT.

If there is no trust, then there is no real relationship.

 

[Apexx]

Yes, I do mind, and I don't trust anybody including myself when it comes to certain things so I don't want to read your bullshit responses. Knock it off with the insecurity crap too. Everybody is insecure on some level. I bet even Jesus Christ had some doubts.

Most females that go to clubs, bars and such are straight up skanks and if you don't believe then try working at one then you will wake up.

1st of all, I've been a bartender, bouncer, and DJ in both bars and clubs so
I'm WELL aware of what goes on. If the girl is a always at the bar or club, then yes, she is probably there because she needs the attention of a lot of dudes to be happy. Then he should drop the bitch. But, if she is going out with her girls every once in a while, then I see absolutely no problem with it.
If this guy has an issue with her going out occasionally and having fun with her friends, then he's got some serious insecurity issues!!