Do I Have A Right To Be Pissed?

[Sub-Zero]

In February of 2002 my wife (then GF) and I got our first dog, a black pug. In Nov of 2006 we got our second pug just after we got married. In 2009 we had our first son, and just this past March 25 we had our second son.

A week after bringing our second son home we decided to get rid of our dogs, it just became too much for us to care for them. We went with the Mid-Atlantic Pug Rescue since they cater to pugs and understand the breed. The following week a volunteer from the MAPR picked up the dogs and they were in a much better place as they await placement (garanteed not to be put down).

Enter the mother-in-law and her husband who decide they want to get the dogs. First off, if I wanted them to have the dogs we would have asked them; we didn't ask them. They tell my wife and don't even approach me about the subject. My wife tells me and I say absolutely not, talk them out of it, I don't want them having the dogs - reason being among many is they were our dogs and I feel a sense of responsibility towards them, I wanted our family to move on from the dogs not keep the dogs around at a house less than a mile from us and they also watch our son during the week.

The completely ignored my feelings toward the issue and got the dogs anyway.

I feel my wife let me down, if the roles we're reversed I would have said and done anything to get them to not take the dogs if it meant that much to her. I feel betrayed by my mother-in-law and here husband who completely disregarded my feelings on the matter and did what they wanted to do.

I'm pissed at everyone and no one seems to care - had to vent.

why you hate your dogs so fuckin much man? they pee in your new shoes and chew up your belts or sometin?

what if the MIL and FIL got 2 pugs that wernt the ones you had? then what

 

[Sub-Zero]

Relationship was fine before. I guess I wanted them gone so we could move on from them. I feel like they disagreed with our decision and decided to get them back for our son. As the previous owner I still feel a sense of responsibility toward the dogs and at a relatives house who we frequent all the time is not what I envisioned nor would it be what I wanted. It's not so much about the dogs at this point but the fact that they couldn't respect my feelings on the matter. I just wanted to move on from the dogs and never imagined them being over At the in-laws house where I would have to see them all the time and feel like I just gave up on them.

and the truth comes out,

you on PCT?

 

[Captain FT]

what if the MIL and FIL got 2 pugs that wernt the ones you had? then what

any dogs besides the ones I previously owned would have been fine.

 

[chris302001]

You feel bad because you couldn't care for your dogs, now that your in laws have them, you will be reminded of how you couldn't take care of them every time you see them. It's okay bro. I mean, it could be worse. You could be glad....

 

[Sub-Zero]

any dogs besides the ones I previously owned would have been fine.

they are either "just dogs" in which case who cares if the MIL and FIL want em

or they are "super close family members" in which case you should be happy they are staying just down the road.

i think you feel emasculated a bit which happens, but get over it and approach the situation logically, rob

 

[Captain FT]

and the truth comes out,

you on PCT?

Yes, yes I am.

 

[shirlene29]

dude...man the fuck up...be happy the dogs are being taken care of and know what? getting rid of dogs because you had kids is a pussy move...

also...hai how are you

 

[Sub-Zero]

You feel bad because you couldn't care for your dogs, now that your in laws have them, you will be reminded of how you couldn't take care of them every time you see them. It's okay bro. I mean, it could be worse. You could be glad....

at least glad takes care of his own, and dont turn his back on resonsability

 

[Captain FT]

they are either "just dogs" in which case who cares if the MIL and FIL want em

or they are "super close family members" in which case you should be happy they are staying just down the road.

i think you feel emasculated a bit which happens, but get over it and approach the situation logically, rob

If you strongly voice your opinion on something to people you care about and they do the opposite, are you saying you wouldn't feel disrespected?

Once we made the decision to give up the dogs, I really didn't want to see them back once they were picked up. I envisioned them at a house with a family and a nice back yard to runaround in. Not going from our townhouse with no back yard to a condo down the street with no back yard.

At this point I don't give a shit about the dogs, it's more about how they didn't give a shit about how I feel about the situation. If the roles were reversed and someone said they really didn't want me doing something I would have respected their wishes and not done it.

 

[Sub-Zero]

If you strongly voice your opinion on something to people you care about and they do the opposite, are you saying you wouldn't feel disrespected?

Once we made the decision to give up the dogs, I really didn't want to see them back once they were picked up. I envisioned them at a house with a family and a nice back yard to runaround in. Not going from our townhouse with no back yard to a condo down the street with no back yard.

At this point I don't give a shit about the dogs, it's more about how they didn't give a shit about how I feel about the situation. If the roles were reversed and someone said they really didn't want me doing something I would have respected their wishes and not done it.

we all get the point on that, 100%

but if i told a girl i worked with to suck my dick and that i strongly wanted this to happen and would feel disrespected if it didnt, shed be like "wtf u crazy"

sort of like your family is like "wtf u crazy" about this situation.

youre over reacting basically